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Avoiding Conflict is an no...no...
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The number one problem in marriages seems to be avoidance of conflict. Whether it is not wanting to discuss who takes out the trash or who takes Susie and Johnny to their soccer games, conflict is not something we look forward to. It just seems easier either to ignore the problems or just accept them,...
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Just sharing a moment from within...
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If you want more love in the world
Create more love in your heart
If you want people to respect you
Respect them
This relationship applies to everything
In all aspects of life.
Life will give you back
Everything you have given to it.
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HOPE is a word, th...
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anyone doing the online meeting tonight?
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2 guesses - what I am cooking for tea tonight
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ah its working! phew!!
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Hello how is it going? I have not been able to get on here due to what seemed tech problems!
I have a alcoholic counselling assesment on monday, with a place called the sactury they do B/Book studies also . and best of all its free!!
I am looking fwd to it!
Right boys night in again , me and the pooch, wi...
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i ALMOST got drunk today
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well i am entering the 60th year and its still hell
i made an honest mistake at work, (told the truth to a guy, when the salesmen was not so honest---long story)
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NEED HELP & SUPPORT
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I've fallen so far off the wagon I don't know if I can get back on. I went through treatment in 1989 and stayed sober for 12 years. Then, in 2001, I decided I could handle alcohol again and would have a few drinks now and then. In 2002, my mother passed away, and all HELL broke loose.&nbs...
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Greetings......
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Hi everyone. I thought I was going to be working today in the factory/warehouse, whatever it is, but I ended up on the computer for eight hours absorbing information about procedure and safety. God I feel like my brain has been through the blender.
Just got off the phone with my sponsor and he wants me...
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Two alky's married for three years
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My wife and I have been having problems communicating. We were on the verge of divorce a few days ago. We are both alkies. Just wanting some feedback from people in AA that have been married for a while.
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Struggling
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Good morning everyone! I am really struggling the past week or so with the crap going on in my head. I have been thinking about drinking again and I know that is not the answer. I am having a hard time looking at myself. I want to be a better person, I want to have that serenity but...
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Impatient and Intolerant?
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Why are we Impatient and Intolerant?
As humans we reach out to others to fill a void in life
We seek to find our completeness in the company of another
or by possession of an object--
as if what another or anything outside of ourselves can offer
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We expect a c...
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The High Cost....
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The High Cost of Resentment and Anger in Marriage
Many spouses carry heavy suitcases filled with a collection of anger and resentment from their marriage. Periodically, they unpack these suitcases and review every situation in which they feel they were treated unfairly.
"Resentment is...
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out of touch
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Hi there, sorry i have not been in touch, it has been a mad few days, anyway its the weekend, I have a belly full of tandori masala and im content. speak soon
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Havent slept since Tuesday
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Man I am feeling groggy., I slept quite poor on tues night, last night, I kept having panic attacks and felt like crap after drinking too much pop. it sounds wack but I dont think im gonna sleep tonight either. I am so bored.
I hate not sleeping, reminds me of the early days.
Perhaps I should go to bed? b...
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New Member
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hello all. My name is Michael and i am an alcoholic. I am married with two children ages 5 and 6. I am 27 years old from tennessee. my beer drinking habits are ruining my family and my life. I am in need of support and prayers. I found this message board today as if God directed me here. Thanks for any advise or...
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Re: Toni Baloney
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Just had a carrier pigeon..fly in from California....
Computer down...could be a few days...
Message to Sober...."Congrats on new job..glad everythings going better for you"
And to everyone on the board? "She sends her love...and will miss you."
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oops...Had to do a spe...
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New Job!!!
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The new job went well. Lots of paper signing and video watching along with some tests. Passed the tests with flying colors. Reading and comprehension is still easy for me. I guess my brain still works when it comes to certain things!!! The real work starts tomorrow. Hands on.
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April 21
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CULTIVATING FAITH "I don't think we can do anything very well in this world unless we practice it. And I don't believe we do A.A. too well unless we practice it. . . . We should practice . . . acquiring the spirit of service. We should attempt to acquire some faith, which isn't easily done, especially for t...
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GREAT DAY TODAY
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Hello folks, sorry I have not visited for a couple of days. I have been so busy, I started back to work on Monday and am having a good time at it for a change, I also take in 2 meetings a day one in the am and one @ 5:30 pm and then I am also doing what they call IOP so I am staying very busy both in my recovery a...
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Touching base....
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Hi everyone I have not posted a topic for some time so just wanted to say hi. Things are good with me (reason being I have not had a drink!) Moving house soon and I am finding all the buying/selling very stressful. Although at the same time it is exciting I just pray I can stick with sobriety throughout the s...
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Hello
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Hello Everyone,
I just wanted to say hello and thank you for being here. Recovery has changed my life and I cannot thank AA and all the AA's enough. In 1993 my journey in recovery began and I continue to love my sober life. I was only a baby when I got sober (just 21) but through this pr...
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Moaning minnie
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tidied entire house top to bottom, purchased chinese lillies polished washed pots still wasnt good enough for a certain person, cant be arsed with her!
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True?
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Drunk Jokes A drunk was in front of a judge. The judge says "You've been brought here for drinking." The drunk says "Okay, let's get started." Another drunk goes up to a parking meter, puts in a quarter, the dial goes to 60. The drunk says "Huh. I lost 100 pounds!"
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step four
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Today's thought is:
The goal isn't to do a successful inventory. The goal is to dig to the deepest levels of self-honesty. --Anonymous
The Fourth Step is the hardest one for many newcomers in the Program. It is so difficult, in fact, that some of us still waiting to do it are no longer newcomers...
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Thought For Thursday
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Hurried and worried until we're buried And there's no curtain call, Life's a very funny proposition, after all. --George M. Cohan
Often, when we involve ourselves in a whirlwind of activities, plans, and expectations, we push ourselves so hard that we don't derive any satisfaction from suc...
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Daily Inventory/Daily Prayer - ESH please
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Good morning, all.
I'm looking at kind of revamping how I work my daily inventory...typically as I lie down at night for bed, I begin reviewing my day. Unfortunately, with the new hours I keep due to taking my son to work at 3 in the morning, I find myself falling asleep in the midst of the invento...
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Boys Night In
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Hey! when I got back from the meeting I really craved a sugery drink. I have been off the cola for two weeks near. But this eve I had to get some pop! as she who must be obeyed is away!
had sausage chips and beans 4 cans of coke and some cookies ! was lovely!
only just going to bed now! (3:01) have been making...
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No Sleep
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Oh gosh coke overload. I had 6 tins and I am still awake, I went to bed at about 3:30 but the cat kept me up scratching and generally being stupid, about 4 I chucked her out the window, (she aint dead, we have a sloping roof so she just sat on the windowsil)
by this time I was in a bad mood so I went to listen to so...
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April 20
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SELF-EXAMINATION . . . we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 86 When said sincerely, this prayer teaches me to be truly unselfish and humble, for even in doing good deeds I often used to se...
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Does anyone want to go to the online meeting?
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Just wondering if anyone here is interested in doing online meetings??
I have read various posts about nobody ever showing up for them but I wonder if there is a desire for anyone among us?
I wouldn't mind chairing once a week or something if anyone is interested....
Just a thought.......
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Fear of the future...
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Some thoughts to share... am at work and need to reach out.. no-one availalbe right now
I always found it very hard in the early days of sobriety to face life and my fears without the numbing oblivion of alcohol. Even though at the end it was doing nothing for me anymore, the fear of facing the consequ...
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oh man!! i think i messed up
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Some of us, observing that ideals are rarely achieved, proceed to the error of considering them worthless. Such an error is greatly harmful. True North cannot be reached either, since it is an abstraction, but it is of enormous importance, as all the world's travelers can attest. --Steve Allen
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April 19th A.A. Thought For The Day
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Since I've been putting sobriety into my life, I've been taking out a lot of good things. I can describe it best as a kind of quiet satisfaction. I feel good. I feel right with the world, on the right side of the fence. As long as I put sobriety into my life, almost everything I take out is good. The satisfact...
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A Big Page on Anger....
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Anger Quotes and Proverbs
Doc Childre and Howard Martin, HeartMath Solution Physiologically, it simply doesn't matter whether your anger is justified or not. The body doesn't make moral judgements about feelings; it just responds. Doc Childre and Howard Martin, HeartMath Solution Re...
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Not so good day, Better Tomorrow
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-- Edited by Toni Baloney at 22:32, 2006-07-20
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Thye Problem/The Solution...
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If anyone is interested read this. The first part just about sums up alot about how I have operating all my life. Quite a shock. Maybe some of you can relate
THE PROBLEM
Many of us felt inadequate, unworthy, alone, and afraid. Our insides never matched what we saw on the outsides of others. Earl...
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5th Meeting
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Hi everyone.
I ent really got much to say at the moment.
I didnt know if i was gona go to meeting tonight, infact i probably wouldnt have.. But this morning at t-braek my mobile rang, made me jump,.. it was Alan, asking how i was and if i was going to meeting tonight.. i said "err.. yeah..m...
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April 19
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BROTHERS IN OUR DEFECTS We recovered alcoholics are not so much brothers in virtue as we are brothers in our defects, and in our common strivings to overcome them. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 167 The identification that one alcoholic has with another is mysterious, spiritual--almost incomprehensible. But...
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Fear
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Fear is the absence of faith.
—Paul Tillich
We all experience fear. Sometimes we fear small things that only seem large at the time, like a test in school or meeting a new boss or going to the dentist. Sometimes we fear big things like serious illness or death or that someone w...
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Experiencing Technical Difficulties
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I was just thinking how easy it would be to fix my brain if it was like a computer. Just a few simple steps and I would have a fully functioning brain!
Back to reality.....
I have done a whole lot of damage to my thinker. I remember in rehab they taught us about how the brain works when it comes to pleasure...
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Have a good night...and welcome back eh?
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We know it hasnt been easy. We know there are times when its tough.
We know that things arent always fair, but that doesnt mean, it should be this rough.
The journey should be a lot smoother, and life should play by the rules.
Time passes too quickly, in everything, except, when it heals our wounds...
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??????????
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I have a question for those of you on this board.
I was at my IOP class today and I was talking about the percentage of alcoholics/addicts that actually stay sober after being exposed to the 12 step programs. I was under the impression that it's somewhere around 5% or one in every 20, however ya look at i...
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passed my first test
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Yesterday I posted how drinking buddies diappear real fast. Well, my neighboor/ best friend/ best drinking bud ended up calling me yesterday around 8ish. She told me that she hadn't called me for the past 5 days because she was on a bender and knew I was trying to quit... and that she was dr...
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8th day
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I've made it -- ONE WHOLE WEEK! and starting on my 8th day. The first couple of days were rough.. now I wake up and see things in a whole new light. I feel a whole lot better, and realize that it's worth it to keep sober. Like for example, yesterday on Easter -- I would of been hung o...
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no wonder i had such a hard time being ME
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If one is a greyhound, why try to look like a Pekingese?.......Edith Sitwell
Children accept more variety among their pets than among one another. A child, who is out of the ordinary---strinkingly tall or short, freckled, large-nosed, big-eared, eyeglassed--may be teased mercilessly duri...
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Where did everybody Go?
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Hi,
Checked in twice yesterday, only one Post, then Today, I have checked in twice, and only 2 Postings.
Feels like everyone has gone on vacation???
Oh, well, I guess I'll go mind my own business, and cook dinner, and check in tomorrow.
This is the quietest I have ever seen the Board.
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Conflict....
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While conflict in marriage is inevitable, fighting is optional.
The secret is in how you approach and handle the conflict. It can make the difference between a really great relationship and a breakup looking for a place to happen.
With that notion in mind, let's take a look at five styles of han...
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my partners depression
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I feel that Helen is depressed as a result of me getting into uni, because it puts off her plans for the next 3 years, and I am not sure how to deal with it, I have put Helen and other people before me, for the vast majority of my life and now I am taking action to better myself and I do not feel it is selfish to want...
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Daily Reflections April 17
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LOVE AND FEAR AS OPPOSITES All these failings generate fear, a soul-sickness in its own right. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 49 "Fear knocked at the door; faith answered; no one was there." I don't know to whom this quote should be attributed, but it certainly indicates clearly that fear is a...
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Easy Does It....
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The great mind knows the power of gentleness.
— Robert Browning
We have learned to become gentle with ourselves & other people. The slogan “Easy Does It” works in all situations. We created confusion in our lives when we lost our light touch & our softspoken word. We were li...
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