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Being Vulnerable
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The Language of Letting Go.
Being Vulnerable
Part of recovery means learning to share ourselves with other people. We learn to admit our mistakes and expose our imperfections -- not so that others can fix us, rescue us, or feel sorry for us, but so we can love and accept ourselves. This sharing i...
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Anyone here RiDe?
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Of course I had to change my riding buds when I got sober. Those poker runs usually went from bar to bar. But I've learned riding is riding and I still LOVE it. Several of us got a sober group together about 6 months back. So, any of you ride? Be interested in hitting the road with me?
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Live Now
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Live now
"How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives."
-- Annie Dillard
We lose the power of the moment because we're so rarely in it. We're reliving the past or speculating about the future. We continue to believe that tomorrow's the day when I'll be more capable, more wealthy, mo...
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Though he came to scoff...
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"Though he came to scoff, he remained to pray..."
I love this quote from the Big Book.
When I came to AA, it was the last resort for me. I did not show up because everything was "Fine, thankyou..", and I was just curious. I came because I had tried literally EVERYTHING else, and to no av...
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Something is definitely not right!
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The dates on peoples posts seem to be advancing. Say you posted three days ago, not it says you posted yesterday. Verrrrrrrry Straaaaange???
I'm lost. I don't know if anyone has lost their post or what due to this.
Time to take a breather I guess.
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Caffeine....
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I know I am obsessing today....I called folgers 800# to find out how much caffeine I am getting in Folger's Singles (like little tea bags, individual servings). 116.7 mg caffeine per Folgers Single. Hmmm....now I have to figure out if I am getting any...
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15 days sober
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hi all i feel great nomore beating myself up on my relapes after 16 years.i have been reading the bigbook, going to meetings, making coffee,got a sponser. we are working on relating to Bills story its so different this time im blessed to have another chance. thank you so much for caring untill i could .s...
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8 days sober
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It's been 8 days since my relapse... my moods have been all over the place... my sponsor said that's normal when getting sober, she did the same thing, I guess it doesn't help that we're bipolar though. That first week after my first meeting I was on this pink cloud, along with getting hypomanic on occas...
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My 12th Step Blessing
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Very very excited tonight....
I have been talking lately with a young lady who has a very similar story as me... and she has been in and out of the program. She has 3 months now and her sponsor had wanted her to do a 'quick 4th step', which she did, involving writing down the person, and then talking about...
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Where I am
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Thank you all so much for your support. I am trying to surrender at this stage. I am taking very little baby steps towards picking up a phone or calling a doctor. I am terrified to do that, and I am terrified to drink. And I am terrified not to drink.
You know by the time I lost my friends, my family stoppe...
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Thoughts To Live By:
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Don't use LOVE as an excuse to abuse!!!!
You make me feel unimportant.
You treat me like a child.
You put me down.
You don't like my friends.
You get angry when I see them.
You don't want me to succeed.
You undermine me, nothing I say or do is correct.
You think the things I'm interested in...
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Wren's Computer Stopped Working
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Hi, Just a note to say I just received a call from Chris, (Wren) that she will not be Posting, as her PC is not working. She does not know when she will be back, maybe tomorrow, maybe much longer.
She did not want anyone wondering why she was not Posting.
So Chrissy, we do and will miss you until your...
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Setting things straight... kinda
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To set things straight...
I am posting on these boards because i have a drink problem..
Just because i have a problem with drink doesnt mean i can just simply slip into a program and all be well.
I have problems with that..
I have been gettin drunk every night since i was about 1...
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Rob
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Morning All
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Good to be home! woke up with a wet nose and waggy tail, yes the dog woke me up! nice to be relaxing in my own surroundings, I loved the holiday though. spoke to two alcoholics last night, one was my sponcer, and another was a guy I am "buddying"
going to go to a meet today, but first I am going to have to get up...
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Robert
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hello
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I have been on this board quite a bit but it has been some time since I posted. I got some great help from some of you at various times. I can relate to many of you, particularly the likes of Rob because I, like him am finding it very hard to just stop and surrender.
Let me explain. I am now what you might cal...
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Phil or john
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Hi,
I have noticed in some of my posts my last name is being added why is that ? How do I stop that I really dont want my last name given.It is part of my email. address is that why ?
dori
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Having connection Problems
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Hi,
i think it is my PC, it has been really slow in the last few days, but now I am having sign in problems, just wondering if anyone else is having a slower than usual sign in,
and then when Responding, cannot do that.????
Any advice, cannot stay here anyway, have to go out, but hoping it is the si...
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Com 'moooo' nication :) :(
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Gosh, I don't know. I just do not know when I have my spouses full attention to communicate. I know I am up against a very short attention span, (ADD or ADHD), a lot of caffeinated/sugary sodas he consumes, and mild hearing loss. I just know I am so tired of...
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5th NIGHT SOBER!!
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I am an alcoholic.
I posted here for the first time the other night on my 3rd night, I came back today and saw more positive replies. THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!! That night my 3rd night was a pretty bad night with w/d symptons at some point I could not sleep b/c of the muscle spasms and my stomach chlenching. HO...
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Alcohol used in cooking?
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Hi guys & gals,
I have just got back from my Saturday morning AA meeting and feel set up for the weekend.
After the meeting, a few of us got chatting about using alcohol in cooking. To my amazement, one or two folk said that they still do that, but only if they know that it is fully cooked back. I co...
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THE PROMISES
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The Promises.........................
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenit...
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rambling...
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I’m a glib son-of-a-bitch when cornered. A silver tongued devil when I need to be. I could downplay and gloss over World War 2 with a sentence if it suited my needs. It doesn’t. I think the hardest thing for me is asking someone else for help. I’ve always done OK by myself. I’ve been resourceful a...
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THIRD STEP PRAYER
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The Third Step Prayer
"God, I offer myself to Thee -- to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do...
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Do a "4th"..... OR........
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Do a 4th,
Or end up drinking a 5th!!!!!
This slogan reminds me to keep working all 12 steps to insure that I don't take the 1st. (drink)
Joni
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checking in
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Hey there, been on holiday in cornwall, didnt do a meeting and yesterday I was thinkin- wouldnt it be nice, then the misery came in as if I had a drink, I thought Nah! not worth it, better get back to notts and carry on with the 12 stes.
hope alls well will catch up tomorrow when i have slept a little.
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4 Qualities from Big AA book
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Somewhere in the big AA book, it talks about these 4 qualities. [Has to do with (resentments or tolerance?)]If anyone can locate these pages, I'd appreciate it. I got these 4 qualities, believe it or not, from an alanon tape.
1. Generosity-- allow others their peculiar...
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Quote/ Step 6
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Quote from an engineer on Step 6: "There is a formula here, and if you can't find it here, it's in the next book. (Believing) a formula for everything. My main character defect is not believing my defect is a defect."
[ROFLMAO, I had to relate to this on...
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Quote
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"One of the Best Ways I can help other people....is to encourage them to take better care of themselves....and to reward them when they do." (Might be another Beattie quote.) 
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Gratitude for Me...
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I never could fully grasp gratitude...gratitude journals----until I read M. Beatties book on Gratitude. For me, her explanation to keep track of "what's right with this picture?" (instead of what's wrong!) Brings me back to ground level. :...
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We are still "out of Order"
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Where or where can our good friend John be,
Oh, where oh where can he be?
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Chat Room....
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Curious... is anyone ever on the chat-board?? Checked in there many times this past week, and nada. Am I working this thing right?
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24 Hour Program
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On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties wit...
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new to this...
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Not sure how this all works. I've never been to the message board before. I just got my one year. I should be happy. And I am truely grateful to God and AA but strangely I'm feeling restless. Sort of anticlimactic sort of. I see progress but still would like some sort of sign that there's more to come. You Kn...
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ALL THE POST ARE OUT OF ORDER
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Sorry everyone, for some reason the Post are not staying in order. If you Respond to a Post, say at the middle or bottom of the page, it will Bring it up to the very Top Post, so it will be impossible to Read correctly the New Posts, as they come in.
Phil just brought this to my attention, and don't at this...
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Happiness
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Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind. --Alice Meynell
It's all too easy to blame a friend, spouse, or co-worker for the uneven quality of our lives. If only others would behave according to our plans and dictates, then all would go well, we think. What seldom is rem...
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I think i wana get back to aa
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Hi guys..
I know I havent been on here much at all in the last couple of months.. Iv been trying to get stuff in my head straight cos i was starting to feel like i was losing my mind .. losing myself with the meetings and these boards...
I am feeling better in some ways in my mind in ter...
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Yoo Hoo Dana Banana
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Good Morning Dana,
Well I do not recall you telling us you were headed off to the Carribean, or another exotic place, and have been wondering," where or where has our Dana gone, or where or where could she be?"
We miss your cheer and your wonderful insight, just wanted you to know.
Hugs,
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Toni Baloney
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I am back...
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I am back from rehab. was a good experience. Now the work starts! got a new sponsor and spending Saturday afternoons with her. Been to a couple of meetings now I am back and they were really good. Hope everyone is doing well. Love Trudi.
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Have a good day eh...
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Changing our attitudes
Our prayer is, "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." We say this prayer at least once a day because although we must accept the things we cannot change today, they may, in...
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New to recovery
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My name is Star and I AM an alcoholic. I am 3 days sober and believe I am startingthe withdrawal/detox process.
Last night I went to my first AA meeting and I felt great. I got the BB met alot of friendly recov. women, got a list of #'s and probably a sponsor.It almost felt like it was going to be easy to do.
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What to do when life throws you a curve!
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What do you do when life seems to force you to react? You can panic, become anxious, yell, and respond with a counterattack. But that probably won't solve the problem. And it may turn things into a brawl.
Or you can calm down. Breathe deeply. Tell yourself to relax. Sa...
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Something STOPPING me..
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-- Edited by Rob at 01:36, 2006-06-24
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Balance... The "B" word...
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Ugh!!! Tough concepts for me at times!!!
Balance has always been my problem; I seem to have always been so 'all-or-nothing' with everything in my life... I focus on one area of my life at a time, then scurry around trying to make that one area work perfectly and be without blemish... Perfectionism??...
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Message board acting funny?
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Anyone having troubles with this site? Things seem to be going really slow over yonder. I'm used to lightning quick internet. Damn expectations are set too high? Is it me or the computer. Who's gonna win? Am i crazy? We all know the answer to that one, so please don't answer that one........lol. Oh well...
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Recuperated... Thanks!!
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Thanks for all the well-wishing!! (Back prob's...)
Feeling 99.999% better now... had to lay low (like on the floor...LOL) for a few but rarin' to go now for an AA packed weekend with the gals.
Thank you all for being so darned sweet!!!!
Sincerely,
Joan-Baloan
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Vacation
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I'm finally only a day away from a couple weeks vacation. Heading out Oregon way (or as the natives call it, "organ").
I'll be out of touch with the board until July 2. Here's wishing each of you safe, sane & sober days, one day at a time (as that's the way I'...
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From 'Daily Reflections'
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Hi everybody,
I read this in 'Daily Reflections' this morning and I wanted to share it with you.
Have a great and sober day.
Carol
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Trusting Others
But does trust require that we be blind to other people's motives or, indeed, to our o...
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Feeling so alone tonight...
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I know that everyone advice is to get to aa etc..
But tonight im just feeling so lonely.. I dont often feel lonely.. I guess im feeling lonely cos i am not intouch with myself.. . When im intouch with myself i have no reason to feel lonely.. But im feeling out of reach of myself right now..&n...
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aa big book
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Once more: The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Except in a few cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power. take care wagon  ...
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What are we doing here?
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Hi everyone,
Let me start off by saying that for 2 weeks, I have sat in the background watching the stuff that has transpired on this board go on. I had chosen to not practice my control issues here, but instead seek Gods guidence and not let my ego guide me in how to deal with the variety o...
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