All human problems arise from not accepting whatever is. As the serenity Prayer says, "Lord, grant me the courage to change what I can change, accept what I cannot and the wisdom to tell the difference...."

Even things which may be changed can be changed faster and easier when we first accept what is and then begin to change them.

So accept whatever is.

This one thing (accepting whatever is) is perhaps the most important thing you can do for yourself to improve your self-esteem and have a healthy attitude towards life. Accepting what is does not mean passively allowing your future to be determined by others but is the guttural deep understanding that the past is truly past and cannot be changed.

Through acceptance of the past you free yourself from guilt and allow yourself to actively take action to improve your future. You stop wasting energy over the past events and you can accumulate life energy. Now you can achieve more of your God-given potential which even if not infinite is much larger than any of us dare imagine.

If you cannot accept whatever is, start with accepting the fact that you are not accepting whatever is. This starts a cycle of acceptance and slowly you will discover that you can accept everything.

"Regrets and Guilt" Here.. ideas.. which are supposed to improve your life (such as accepting whatever is) become shackles which hold you back. If you cannot accept whatever is, be kind to yourself and hold it as a potential goal for the future - as something which would be fun to have but never as an absolute must....