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Handling Insecurity
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What is insecurity?
Insecurity is:Feeling of not being ``good enough'' to meet the challenge of a situation you face in life.Sense of helplessness in the face of problems, conflict, or concerns. Belief that one is inadequate or incompetent to handle life's challenges. Fear of being...
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An Explanation of "Letting Go"
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By Bill Ferguson
The experience of love is an inner state. When this is present, you are happy, alive and free. You feel good about yourself and good about life. As you bring the experience of love into your life, life works effortlessly and great things happen.
The opposite of love is fear a...
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Just a Page I had in a relationship file..thought Ide share it
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Relationships: Too Easy To Leave
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Saturday..Am..
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I wonder if the snow loves the trees and fields that it kisses them so gently. --Lewis Carroll
In different times and places, clouds can produce snowflakes, raindrops, or even hailstones. Each one seems to have its own purpose and mood as it falls from the sky. The snowflake is the lightest of th...
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this is for you all love ya's
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today I was listening to this song today.. and im seanding it to u allspend all your time waiting
for that second chance
for a break that would make it okay
there's always one reason
to feel not good enough
and it's hard at the end of the day
I need some distraction
oh beautiful release
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WOW!!! big lesson on detachment
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Hope for Today - December 1 I've struggled long and hard in Al-Anon to understand the idea of detachment with love. At first, it sounded like an oxymoron. Detachment was the opposite of love, I thought. It seemed like abandoning the people I loved because of their alcoholism. Was I supposed to just s...
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Help me please
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Hi
I am so frightened,just came of a horrible bender yesterday and am waiting for my brother to come and bring me medication from the chemists to help stop the shaking and vomiting. I was so scared I would die and I nearly did I drunk so much. I guess I just need to hear from others who've e...
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Lovely monday
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Happy monday everyone!!! The snow is finally here and it's looking great...have a wonderful day.
I may be off-line for awhile this week...I'm trying to change my internet service. I'll check in at the library if I get a chance, but wanted you all to know I'm thinking of you all.
Love, cheri
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Seems like forever!!!!
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Hello,
I made a quick look to see who was still posting. Sure was nice to see your names again. I dont want to mention any names...just in case I forget someone.
Its only been since the last of September since I been here...yet it seems like forever!!!
I thought I would out-smart my drinking proble...
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Just wanted to share
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I had 6 years sober the 4 years and the last 4 hears have been fightning to get back in AA.
Like I said before I'm doing step four with a little step 5 mixed in with my Spounsor.
I always felt like I didn't belong ..always felt nervous and at times made stories up just to have something to say at the meeting...
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Hazelden
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Letting People Be There for Us
Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us.
Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it's something we want and need. Many of us have learned to block our stop ourselves from getting what we want...
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in the depths of despair...i found a light
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You are reading from the book Touchstones </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=212>.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. --Albert Camus
Sometimes we suddenly see or sense opposite emotions within ourselves. The cold of win...
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"ding dong the witch is dead"
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Hope for Today - November 30
When listening to others share at Al-Anon meetings, I became aware that I hold myself to unrealistically high standards. I expect myself to be less fallible than everyone else. I acquired this character defect as a child in my attempts to control my...
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Being Humble
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Step Seven "Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings."
Since this Step so specifically concerns itself with humility, we should pause here to consider what humility is and what the practice of it can mean to us.
Indeed, the attainment of greater humility is the foundation princi...
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why goodness matters
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Words are mere bubbles of water, but deeds are drops of gold. Chinese proverb Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and abilities were used in a way that served others. Ma...
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Fear And Relationships
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Fear and Relationships
Fear keeps us from leading meaningful lives and having meaningful relationships.
Inner Dragons Our inner dragons of fear can keep us from having meaningful relationships. These fears can make us run from love and intimacy and hide from the very things we say...
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sharing the REAL me
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Sharing The Real Me
"Sharing with others keeps us from feeling isolated and alone."Basic Text pg. 81Intimacy is the sharing of our innermost thoughts and feelings with another human being. Many of us long for the warmth and companionship intimacy brings, but those things don't come without ef...
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good fear.....bad fear
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Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...
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starting over
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IM SO DOWN RIGHT KNOW..LAST NIGHT I FAILED AGAIN.... MAN I JUST CAN DO THIS ITS SO DAME HARD.. SOMEONE TOLD ME THAT ITS JUST IN MY HEARD.. BUT TO ME ITS A DISEASE..
MY DAD DRINKS MY BROTHER AND MY MOM USE TO SHE STOP.. IM SO TRYERD OF FAILING..
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how does the chat room work?
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??? I've "entered" the room using my nickname, and I get a message back /NICK
What do I do next? How do I join and chat with the other 3 people that are already in?
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So What Do I do Now???
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Sorry about the login name, I couldn't decide on anything without being depressing.
After 30yrs of not missing a single day of drinking I stopped 8 days ago. I thought it would be harder or something bad would happen. I at least thought that I wouldn't be able to sleep without being boozed up. Not tr...
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Stopdrinking...
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If you're still on and need to talk, go to the chat room. I'm headed there now. just clink on the link in the upper left of your screen and it'll take you ther. It takes a few minutes so be patient.
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step 11....and trusting hp has a plan for me
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Subject: Meditation: Step Eleven
"Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." -- Step Eleven of Alcoholics Anonymous Days of Healing Days o...
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good morning
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Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Freedom of attitude When you wake up in the morning, you are completely free to choose whatever attitude you wish to have. And the attitude you choose can have an enormous impact on the way your day unfolds.
Each time you encounter another person, you are completely fre...
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MY God does not have to be a father
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A Strong Father
Many of us understand God in terms of a father, one on whom we can rely no matter what the situation. Our biological father may have been a tyrant or a pal, remote or accessible, firm or weak. However much we loved him and depended on him, he was only a person and not infallible.For reco...
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Dancing with GOD
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When I meditated on the word Guidance, I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...
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Thoughts
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When written in Chinese, the word crisis is composed of two characters--one represents danger and the other represents opportunity. --John F. Kennedy
Family crises are unavoidable. At times, things are going to break down. This is no reason to give up and abandon ship. These breakdowns are...
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firstday
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well for about 5 days I went on a drinking rage... and lastnight I got so missed up.. and my husbent wrote me a letter.. telling me i need to stop or im going to lose him and my kids.
and today i didnt drink but what about tomorrow..im so so scard 
ill take it one day at a time need to find a mee...
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Stuart Smalley
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Daily Affirmation with Stuart Smalley
Stuart Smalley is a caring nurturer, a member of several twelve-step programs, but not a licensed therapist. His show "Daily Affirmations" is on a cable access channel. The show is geared to help people with mental disabilities, such as overeatin...
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What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?
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What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?
Why Forgiveness is so Hard? And how we can change? Human behavior that suggests that people are “hard-wired" to experience ruptured relational bonds, psychological distance, physiological arousal, and the desire to retaliate when they ha...
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I'm so stupid and need a bit of help!!
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Hello all 
I'm sorry about this but I have to ask if anyone knows how I can get back into the Al-anon chat room as my computer went awal this morning and has for some reason dumped it from my favorites.
I'm sorry to ask such a stupid question but I tryed looking on the web and all I could find was thi...
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dreams ARE renewable
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Dreams are renewable.
No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. DALE TURNER When we were kids, we had big dreams of what we would do when we grew up. Some of us feel sad when we compare the big plans we used to have t...
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SOMETIMES amends are for me!!!
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Hope for Today - November 28
My parents didn't know I was angry with them, because I was the "good" kid. I felt angry about the drinking and the constant chaos, but I never said anything. I swallowed my resentment, thinking either my needs would go away or my parents would change. Of course...
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The 3rd one...out of a 12 pack
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STEP THREE "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him"
Practicing Step Three is like the opening of a door which to all appearances is still closed and locked. All we need is a key, and the decision to swing the door open. There is only one key, and it is c...
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THINK ABOUT THIS
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Wise sayings often fall on barren ground;but a kind word is never thrown away.
Gratitude is fine but it is not enough.
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Sunday Stuff
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To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all.
There are people who are always anticipating trouble, and in this way they manage to enjoy many sorrows that never really happen to them."
Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of...
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if only i could sleep in!!!!
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sundays are my only day off.....crap....
so i'm off to a meeting. Get to drive myself there!!! yay!!
my car's a tad noisy, rusty...but hey it works.... among other things i know that work...:)
if it works...work it..right?!
i've been doing some heavy thinking on my daughter this week. I got h...
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Bitch and moan!
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My sponsor says if you don't get mad once in a while, you're not working the program hard enough.......Guess I've been going at it full force the last few days...
There are some with many years of sobriety, but it seems very LITTLE recovery. Bitch and moan constantly about what'...
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giving up is NOT losing
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Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous
When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...
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can i do it?
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So, I really do want to stop drinking, or do I? I've never had a dui, never had a morning eye opener, never called in sick due to a hangover, never had a blackout or anything like that. But I still drink everyday and look forward to it. I do seem to drink more and more. Wine mostly, red win...
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toothpaste
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One day at a time, taking it easy….how do if I know I’m doing it right?
Squeezed the crap out of the old tube…..all gunky & gross!!! It’s just gross!!!!
So I bought a new tube a couple of weeks ago at the local dollar store.
When I went to brush my teeth that nigh...
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The 2nd year blues
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I'm 2 years and 30 something days sober. My personal deffects have become even more apparent ..... I am crabby and unhumble and miserable a lot of the time....... constantly battling the world telling myself to let go and let GOD but as soon as I say that I lash out at the world again. I am red...
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Sobriety anniversary
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I am so glad I found all of you. As my anniversary is nearing, I always find myself thinking of this journey of recovery I have been blessed with. I always seem to reflect at this time of year what is was like then and where I am now. I feel so blessed to have walked into AA. The jour...
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hi
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after getting a e mail from john i decided i missed u guys long enough i been good and sober and miss u all god bless wagon
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Negative vs Positive
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WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, melancholy thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there. Every t...
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change is a long hard drag!!!
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Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...
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Ouch---this hits home.
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Some Things Can Be Fixed. . . Others Must HealThom Rutledge, Guest Author
Are you a fixer?
When someone tells you a problem they are having, do you immediately feel the need to offer advice? Is it difficult for you to just listen to someone who is in distress, to just be there for them with...
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George Best 0 alcoholism 1
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http://lfpress.ca/newsstand/Sports/Soccer/2005/11/26/1324617-sun.htmlneeded to add something to this, George Bests final battles have been the subject of much media interest.
I am not a fan of his, not a soccer fan, but i have one thing in common with him i to am an alcoholic.
it helps me...
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Dont Quit
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DON'T QUIT!
When things go wrong as they sometimes will When the road you're trudging seems all up hill When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you have to sigh When care is pressing you down a bit Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer, with its twists and t...
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hmmmmn?
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I would be 84 days sober now if I hadnt had a 2 day slip,
can I just deduct that from the total or do I start counting from the slip hmmmmmnnn?
ok I guess I know the honest answer You gotta love me for tryin   &n...
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