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just checkin in... rambling...
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25 days sober now... :) Getting my 1 month chip while I'm down in Memphis next week! I can't wait to go home and see everyone!!! I fly out on Tuesday, will be back the following Tuesday. I will have internet access down there, so I'll be able to check in... Haven't been getting to enough meetings late...
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Solving Problems
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"Shame is the first feeling that strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem," said one recovering woman. Many of us were raised with the belief that having a problem is something to be ashamed of. This belief can do many damaging things to us. It can stop us from identifying our pr...
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Mixed Messages
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Just curious on others views on this statement as regards to AA and its message to the alcoholic ? I am an addict, and have made no pretence to be anything else on this forum. Would also like to know your views on that, am i welcome or should i go elsewhere to find recovery? Thank you
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24 Hours a Day ~ 19th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Fellowship is a big part of staying sober. The doctors call it group therapy. We never go to an A.A. meeting without taking something out of it. Sometimes we don't feel like going to a meeting and we think of excuses for not going. But we usually end up going anyway. And we always g...
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GOSSIP
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One junior high school boy confided in another his love for a certain girl. The first boy asked the second one to keep his secret. By the end of the school day, the rumor was all around about the boy and girl. The first boy was mortified as others mocked him and teased the girl he liked. In shame, the bo...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 18th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We're in A.A. for two main reasons: to keep sober ourselves and to help others keep sober. It's a well-known fact that helping others is a big part of keeping sober yourself. It's also been proved that it's very hard to keep sober all by yourself. A lot of people have tried it and f...
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Second meeting
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I went to my second meeting tonight. I chose not to go to another meeting before this Thursday meeting. I've been dealing with my depression--it got pretty dark this week but it'll never be where it used to take me years ago. I mean, I still managed to choose to have beautiful moments, focusing my attent...
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Putting Power in Perspective
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As human beings, we cannot help but be subject to our preferences. However, we do have control over the manner in which these manifest themselves in our lives. Every value we hold dear is an expression of either support or opposition, and it is our perspective that determines whether we are for someth...
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Don't stop living your life!
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So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationship isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if we're feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold and torment ourselves with ob...
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The Relationship Blame Game
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If you find yourself in the midst of any of the following, a dispute, argument, relationship breakdown, miscommunication, separation, divorce and so on then the very first questions you should ask is not "Why are you doing this to me" or "why are you treating me this way" but &q...
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Judgement Creates
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Judge not by appearances, but judge righteous judgment. -- Jesus We know the power of thoughts to create. Consider, then, the impact of our judgments. When we judge someone critically, those judgments have the power to affect the one being judged, if they are open to our perceptions. This is the case...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 17th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ A lot of well-meaning people treat alcoholics like the priest and the Levite. They pass by on the other side by scorning them and telling them what low people they are, with no willpower. Whereas, they really have fallen for alcohol, in the same way as the man in the story fell am...
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you may smile
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Now I'm the king of the swingers Oh, the jungle VIP I've reached the top and had to stop And that's what botherin' me I wanna be a man, mancub And stroll right into town And be just like the other men I'm tired of monkeyin' around! Oh, oobee doo I wanna be like you I wanna walk like you Talk like you, too You'll s...
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Enjoying the Good Days
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Good feelings can become a habitual part of our life. There is absolutely no virtue in the unnecessary suffering, which many of us have felt for much of our life. We don't have to allow others to make us miserable, and we don't have to make ourselves miserable. A good day does not have to be the "cal...
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A Gentle Reminder
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I recieved this, this morning, and felt it should be posted. >This board is not for those that wish to come here..and >judge..criticize...put down others....and tell others what they >should or should not be doing...and how they should be living their >lives.. > >It is a safe pl...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 16th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In the story of the Good Samaritan, the wayfarer fell among robbers and was left lying in the gutter, half dead. And a priest and a Levite both passed by on the other side of the road. But the Good Samaritan was moved with compassion and came to him and bound up his wounds and brough...
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To Thine Own Self Be True
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And this above all, to thine own self be true. And it must follow as night the day, thou canst not be false to any man. --Shakespeare "To thine own self be true." "Live the life you were meant to live." "Be the person you were meant to be." These statements convey a wonder...
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naming my babies...
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Got 2 of my chicks named... the silver laced pullet is Arwen, she's the only one I know the sex of. The black and yellow bantam is Aiden. I've got 5 gender neutral names picked out for the others I can tell apart... Kaden, Cameron (Cammi for short), Devin, Reagan, Quinn... can you tell I like names that end...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 15th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we find a new strength and peace from the realization that there must be a Power greater than ourselves that is running the universe and that is on our side when we live a good life. So the A.A. program really never ends. You begin by overcoming drink and you go from there to...
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Too Smart?
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I recently came into contact with an acquaintance who has been in and out of the program... mostly out. There isn't anything unique about his story... he told me a bit about his life since last time I saw him and over the course of the meeting before and after, I overheard him telling different people di...
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Still spinning on the roundabout....
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Hello all,
I would really like some insight. I did spend some time on this board a year ago, I dont know if any of you remember me.
Anyway, I would be in end stage alcoholism. Chronic and out of control. I desperately want to stop (as I have for years) but I am still struggling. I know now for sure its...
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8-10 years without alcohol
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I'm very curious to know what you all think about this. Because I have been in somewhat of a denial about my alcoholism (I was able to quit drinking without any side effects, without a court order, or without much difficulty) so why would I say that I'm an alcoholic. Well I think you all know the diseas...
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namaste'
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hope you all are well today.Happy may 13 th gee got so much to say.... i guess at the top of my list is a burning desire to get your imput on ways to do a step 4. lots of procrastinating going on in my world on that subject. i've been in a couple of treatment centers...doing step one twice was kind of like a 1,2,3...
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Whe to call . . .
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OK, so, I only want to attend women's groups, but there aren't that many around. Sound like an excuse not to go to a meeting? I don't think it is--I just wouldn't feel comfortable with men in the group . . .not right now, anyway; not when I feel vulnerable. So, there are a few women's meetings throughout th...
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Taking Risks
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Take a risk. Take a chance. We do not have to indulge in obviously foolhardy or self-defeating risks, but we can allow ourselves to take positive risks in recovery. We cannot afford to keep ourselves paralyzed. We do not have to keep ourselves stymied and trapped out of fear of making a mistake or faili...
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finally went
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I finally went to a women's meeting tonight. This was only my 4th meeting that I have gone to in my 96 days of sobriety... It is still hard to go.. but like I tell people "what do you have to lose".... I thought it was about time I went and took the advice!! The meeting itself was good. I enjoyed it a...
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I"m back
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I'm back, guess I had a lack of computer or something in my diet for the past few days. my damn computer decided to take a holiday on me. Damn stupid @%$*&^$$% thing.
I'm giving fair warning, going to do the written part of gettin my drivers license this wednesday, I've been parcrastinating to l...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 14th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Having gotten over drinking, we have only just begun to enjoy the benefits of A.A. We find new friends, so that we are no longer lonely. We find new relationships with our families, so that we are happy at home. We find release from our troubles and worries through a new way of loo...
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Powerless
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"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have...
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A different view of the 12 steps...
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"A Humanist Alternative to A.A.'s 12 Steps" by B. F. Skinner (Harvard University Scientist) From July/August 1987 Humanist Magazine. 1. We accept the fact that all of our efforts to stop drinking have failed. 2. We believe that we must turn elsewhere for help. 3. We turn to our fellow men a...
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working with others
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I just helped someone yesterday through their fifth step. You can tell when someone works this step honestly and completly. The task can be difficult... you sometimes hear things youd rather not hear. It's difficult to watch someone you care about sometimes, dredge up past memories. It can be very e...
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psssstttt...
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Honesty
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Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. -- Step Five Talking openly and honestly to another person about ourselves, in an attitude that reflects self-responsibility, is critical to recovery. It's important to admit what we have done wrong to others...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 13th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. we find fellowship and release and strength. And having found these things, the real reasons for our drinking are taken away. Then drinking has no more justification in our minds. We no longer need to fight against drink. Drink just naturally leaves us. At first, we ar...
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So can I be honest here?
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My story in a nutshell... Feel free to laugh at some of it, some of it is kinda funny And I'm choosing to leave the childhood memoires out (that's a different forum) For me I started drinking in college, I joined a sorority, the greek life was laced in alcohol which seemed very appealing/somewhat...
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Property Lines
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A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful property. If another person has an addiction, a problem, a feeling, or a self-defeating behavior, that is their property, n...
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grr... my car broke down...
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Thankfully I was barely down the road after leaving my house... I pulled out of the driveway... and I'm bad about flooring it a bit, actually my gas pedal is so touchy that half the time I don't mean to... well, we live on a gravel road, and the guy that grades the road doesn't know how to do it, so we have t...
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Intimacy
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We can let ourselves be close to people. Many of us have deeply ingrained patterns for sabotaging relationships. Some of us may instinctively terminate a relationship once it moves to a certain level of closeness and intimacy. When we start to feel close to someone, we may zero in on one of the person'...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 12th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ When we came into A.A., looking for a way out of drinking, we really need a lot more than that. We need fellowship. We need to get the things that are troubling us out into the open. We need a new strength beyond ourselves that will help us face life instead of running away from it. I...
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Depression and Despair
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What am I doing with what I've got? Instead of despairing over my lack of abilities in certain areas, am I doing the best with the talents I've been given? All of us have unique gifts and abilities. Some of us work well with our hands; others are gifted at working with abstract ideas. Whatever our abiliti...
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Remove Your Mental Filters
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You got to look at things with the eye in your heart, not with the eye in your head. -- Lame Deer, Medicine Man of the Oglala people Whenever were thinking, our experience is being filtered through our minds. For example, when I say to myself, What a beautiful sunset! I am not fully experiencing the sunse...
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6 Days Sober
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Dear Friends, Some may have read my earlier posts. I picked up a drink in February after over 8 years sober. I was a mess. Thanks to your support and going back to meetings I'm 6 days. I'm going back to my home group again tomorrow night (Friday night here in Sydney). Today I stayed home with my son who has t...
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Am I insane? lol
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Maybe I need to let God restore me to sanity... lol I'm up to 13 babies now! 6 turkeys, 3 guineas, brought one home from my friend's farm today... and now 4 chicks! went to the farm and home store to pick up a feeder for my guineas, since I was using a tupperware lid and it really wasn't big enough... wel...
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Laura Goes To An AA Meeting
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Aloha, Well, I did it. I went to a meeting tonight. It was an all woman's meeting and on the small side. It was an amazing experience! Thank you ladies and gentlemen for helping me get there! It was a step and discussion meeting and because I was new, they decided to focuse on step one--what a gift. Listeni...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 11th May 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ We can depend on those members of any group who have gone all out for the program. They come to meetings. They work with other alcoholics. We don't have to worry about their slipping. They're loyal members of the group. I'm trying to be a loyal member of the group. When I'm tempte...
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Favorite Quote / Cliche'
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On or Off topic, list them. 2 of my all time favorites; "There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance - that principle is contempt prior to investigation." -Herbert Spencer Be w...
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Daily Reflections May 11
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A NEW SENSE OF BELONGING Until we had talked with complete candor of our conflicts, and had listened to someone else do the same thing, we still didn't belong. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 57 After four years in A.A. I was able to discover the freedom from the burden of buried emotions that had...
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I made the call--it's a step . . . and Shelly, the good fortune spider . . .
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Made the first step and called the local hotline to make sure the time and place of the meeting (that I found online) that I'd like to attend is still in exhistance. It would be a shame to work up the nerve, get there and discover it switched meeting nights. The all women's meeting is, indeed, at the same ti...
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TIRED
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Hey Man im always tired, ive been off uni cos im really tired out!! i go to bed at 10-11 and get up at 9 and i cant be bothered to do anything, i want to do stuff but i feel demotivated!! not got a bad head on i dont think you guys get this? any tips
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When I dont drink I get bored...when I get bored I get restless...
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and when I get restless I pick fights with people. Not physical fights, I just make mean spirited, hurtful little jokes and comments until I get a rise out of them. I have no idea why but somehow it makes me feel better. I get some perverse joy out of getting a strong emotional reaction form another human b...
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