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Coping with withdrawl options
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hello all... new to this page but have questions. first off i am 32, have a child, just got seperated from my husband. i know you cannot blame another person for addiction, but my husband was a great contributor to some problems i had. first off i am trying to figure a way to get past the withdrawls with out...
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Daily Reflections 10/17
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A DAILY TUNE-UP Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 How do I maintain my spiritual condition? For me it's quite simple: on a daily basis I ask my Higher Power to grant me the gift of sobriety for that day! I have talked to many a...
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O>M>G>
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In other words...Oh my God!Hi all, its your spaztic friend here checking in...Put in a ton of applications finally for a new RN job. I have an interview with my previous employer of 15 years. It's actually with the nurse recruiter to see what might be availbale, but I am so nervous!!(cant tell can ya, I c...
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Payoffs from Destructive Relationships
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Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress. The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role. Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our self-esteem by allowing us to feel in control or...
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Hey y'all
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Well, I got my phone hooked up on Monday.... got an AOL free trial disk, which apparently isn't free because they billed me for it lol so I gotta call and straighten that out now lol But anyway, I'm back online.... but am going to start trying to practice a bit of self-discipline and try to not stay o...
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Being Honest with Ourselves
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Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships. When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others. When we can accept what we want and nee...
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Daily Reflections 10/16
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THROUGHOUT EACH DAY This is not an overnight matter. It should continue for our lifetime. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 84 During my early years in A.A. I saw Step Ten as a suggestion that I periodically look at my behavior and reactions. If there was something wrong, I should admit it; if an apology was nec...
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Letting Go of Chaos
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No good work comes from unrest. Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace. We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by performing it out of a sens...
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Daily Reflections 10/15
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MY CHECKLIST, NOT YOURS Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too. Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 67 Sometimes I don't...
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Daily Reflections 10/14
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A PROGRAM FOR LIVING When we retire at night, we constructively review our day. . . . On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. . . Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. ALCOHOLIC...
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A Wealth of Feeling
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What Is Love? Throughout recorded history, love has burned in the hearts of composers, writers, painters, and playwrights, and smoldered in those of parents, children, and friends. Love, primal, passionate, and pure, has been dissected, revered, praised, and derided. It has been called comple...
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Hey Guys
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I've decided to step down as a moderator for the forum here. My life is getting busier and busier, and honestly, I take moderating so frickin seriously that I read each and every post trying to make sure that this place stays safe. Things have been going smooth for some time now, and I think that with the f...
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24 Hrs a Day ~ 14th Oct 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ How big a part of my life is A.A.? Is it just one of my activities and a small one at that? Do I only go to A.A. meetings now and then and sometimes never go at all? Do I think of A.A. only occasionally? Am I reticent about mentioning the subject of A.A. to people who might need help? Or d...
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Good Morning
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Hello to all from down under in Australia I went to a AA meeting last evening and once again I felt that warmth, love, acceptance, openness and welcome from one alcoholic to another. The feeling of being part of a group of men and women, that are prepared to accept personal responsibility and be acc...
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Progress Not Perfection
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Well I'm 6 months sober now and I have to say its been quite a ride. I was getting down on myself toward the end of the summer, I hate my job, I still can't manage my money worth a darn, I barely what sex is, basically I'm sober but my life still sucks, then my kids went back to their mom's (7hrs away) , and I g...
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Substance over Form
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I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with the right furniture, working...
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Controlling Versus Trust
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There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get so...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 13th Oct 07
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ A.A. work is one hundred percent voluntary. It depends on each and every one of our members to volunteer to do his or her share. Newcomers can sit on the sidelines until they have got over their nervousness and confusion. They have a right to be helped by all, until they can stand...
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How long does withdrawal last?
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I quite drinking almost a week ago and have been sweating while I sleep. I wake up a few times every night with a soaking pillow. I know this is a symptom of withdrawal but doesnt anyone know how long it lasts?
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Daily Reflections 1-/13
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UNREMITTING INVENTORIES Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help...
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Dealing with Anger
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"The most heated bit of letter-writing can be a wonderful safety valve," AA confounder Bill W. said, "providing the wastebasket is somewhere nearby." This is a delightful bit of advice about the right way to handle anger. Writing an angry letter is at least a way of bringing ou...
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Daily Reflections 10/11
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SELF--RESTRAINT Our first objective will be the development of self-restraint. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 91 My drive to work provides me with an opportunity for self-examination. One day while making this trip, I began to review my progress in sobriety, and was not happy with what I sa...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 12th October 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Am I still on a "free ride" in A.A.? Am I all get and no give? Do I go to meetings and always sit in the back row and let the others do all the work? Do I think it's enough just because I'm sober and can rest on my laurels? If so, I haven't gone very far in the program, nor am I get...
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Daily Reflecetions 10/12
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CURBING RASHNESS When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 91 Being fair-minded and tolerant is a goal toward which I must work daily. I ask God, as I understand Him, to help me to be loving and tolera...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 11th October 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ How good a sponsor am I? When I bring new members to a meeting, do I feel that my responsibility has ended? Or do I make it my job to stay with them until they have either become good members of A.A. or have found another sponsor? If they don't show up for a meeting, do I say to myself: &...
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Daily Reflections 10/10
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FIXING ME, NOT YOU If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 90 What a freedom I felt when this passage was pointed out to me! Suddenly I saw that I could do something about my anger, I could fix me, instead of trying to fix them. I believe that there...
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As Above, So Below
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"There is in all visible things - a hidden wholeness."-- Thomas Merton"From a hologrammatic viewpoint, ...you are one little physical image that reflects all of humanity when projected spiritually upon the cosmic screen."-- Wayne Dyer"As above, so below."Ev...
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Honestly......
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Hi all, Hope this finds you all well, happy and sober... You're probably all sick about hearing about my "job" but its finally kicking in that I DONT HAVE ONE! Anyways, feel the need to share a few things...Many coworkers have called me and have expressed thier feelings to me regarding bein...
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It's Been a while But still here
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It's been a while since I last posted, and just wanted everyone to know I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. Just went through a job change and of course the financial change that goes along with it. Went through a couple of rough spots with dealing with family and well Ex Husbands!!!!!! I'm managin...
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Recovery
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How easy it is to blame our problems on others. "Look at what he's doing." . . . "Look how long I've waited." . . . "Why doesn't she call?" . . . "If only he'd change then I'd be happy." . . . Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt and f...
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Self-Disclosure
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Learning to gently reveal who we are is how we open ourselves up to love and intimacy in our relationships. Many of us have hidden under a protective shell, a casing that prevents others from seeing or hurting us. We do not want to be that vulnerable. We do not want to expose our thoughts, feelings, fears...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 9th October 2007
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A.A Thought for the Day ~ Am I willing to be bored sometimes at meetings? Am I willing to listen to much repetition of A.A. principles? Am I willing to hear the same thing over and over again? Am I willing to listen to a long blow by blow personal story, because it might help some new memebr? Am I willing to si...
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Re 24..?
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Happy Sober Day fellow Sober~vibers x A request if I may.. Does anyone have any objection to my posting regularly with the Hazelden 24 Hours a Day lit? It can be quite strong in its views naming God as a Higher Power. I don't have a strong sense of God in a biblical way but I can appreciate it in a metaphorica...
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Shifting consciousness
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Shifting consciousness"The world we are experiencing today is the result of our collective consciousness, and if we want a new world, each of us must start taking responsibility for helping create it."-- Rosemary Fillmore RheaBelow are 7 levels of consciousness that clearly outline...
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Daily Reflections 10/9
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A SPIRITUAL AXIOM It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us. 12 & 12, p. 90 I never truly understood the Tenth Step's spiritual axiom until I had the following experience. I was sitting in my bedroom, reading into the wee hour...
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Learning to Wait
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I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in the ai...
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God does for us....
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Hi all , hope this finds you well...Happy Sunday! Well, Ive had the best day and the worst day of my life Friday. First of all, let me admit that my alcoholism lead me to where I am currently. I am powerless!!! The greatest thing is, I discovered all of this before my incident happened! As some of you know I w...
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Daily Reflections 10/8
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DAILY INVENTORY . . . . and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 59 I was beginning to approach my new life of sobriety with unaccustomed enthusiasm. New friends were cropping up and some of my battered friendships had begun to be repaired. Life was exciting, and I even beg...
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Daily Reflections 10/7
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DAILY MONITORING Continued to take personal inventory. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 88 The spiritual axiom referred to in the Tenth Step-- "every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us"--also tells me that there are no exception...
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Kinda reminds me of the Desiderata
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Remember always that you are just a visitor here, a traveler passing through. your stay is but short and the moment of your departure unknown. None can live without toil and a craft that provides your needs is a blessing indeed. But if you toil without rest, fatigue and wearness will overtake you, and y...
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How to be humble
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Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts. Develop the mind of equilibrium. You will always be getting praise and blame, but do not let either affect the poise of the mind: follow the calmness, the absence of pride. Sutta Nipata I have heard many and old timer say that they h...
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Letting Go of Naivete
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We can be loving, trusting people and still not allow ourselves to be used or abused. We don't have to let people do whatever they want to us. Not all requests are legitimate! Not all requests require a yes! Life may test us. People may seek out our weak spots. We may see a common denominator to the limits t...
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What does love mean to you?
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What is the real meaning of love and how do you know if you have it or not because I haven't feeling for anything or anyone. My instincts to feel are gone. Here's the Websters version: A feeling of warm personal attachment or affection. Could you please tell me yours? Later - Jeannie
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1 Year On ~ Hello!
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Hello me lovely on~liners x So sorry I've been missing for awhile. Missing you too. Got out of my old routine of posting the 24 & away I was. I'm ok. Still sober. A year old as of 1st October 2007. Been working long hours all week including the 'special' day so haven't had much time to celebrate though b...
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Taking Care of Ourselves
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It's healthy, wise, and loving to be considerate and responsive to the feelings and needs of others. That's different from caretaking. Caretaking is a self defeating and, certainly, a relationship defeating behavior - a behavior that backfires and can cause us to feel resentful and victimized - b...
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Step one.......as.... AA changes....??
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We got a new guy in my HG. He's been coming for a week now and almost every meeting he shares the fact that he 'doesn't understand' . He identifies with a lot of what's being said, but he's confused as to how the steps 'work' or how to work them. He said things like "I don't understand what inventory is...
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Hi
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Helo all, Things here are going well! It a fantastic fall day here today, Leaves turning and falling,It wont be long before winter is here. Today things are so much different for me, i can see thing i could not see before, i have a respect for myself and others, And i found that my life is worth something...
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Just sharing......
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Starting to feel some better the last couple days. Discovered in a f2f that I am feeling 'homesick' - John always felt like 'home' to me! He called me Sunday night to let me know he'd made it to AL. He went on the bike, 600 miles, and knew I'd worry! What a guy, huh! I've done well on not initiating contact. T...
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This Still blows my mind...
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Ive shared this with Doll....but just wanted to share it on the board....This kid is my nephew...I have a lot of freinds in Columbia SC...that Ive made over the last couple of years...wheeled and dealed in a few things....great people...great town... Now..How does a 21 year old kid from Ontario Cana...
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Faith and Money
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Sometimes, there is not enough money to make ends meet, much less afford any luxuries. People may tell us to do a budget, and we chuckle. The expenses we need to pay for survival surpass the income. We look at the situation; shake our heads, and say, "No way." Many of us have had to live through...
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