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Paradox
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We SURRENDER TO WIN.
On the face of it, surrendering does not seem like winning. But it is in AA. Only after we have come to the end of our rope, hit a stone wall in some aspect of our lives beyond which we can go no further; only when we hit "bottom" in despair and surrender, can we accomplish sobrie...
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AA_thought for today
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A.A. Thought for the Day
A nightclub crowded with men and women all dressed up in evening clothes looks like a very gay place. But you should see the men's room of that nightclub the next morning. What a mess! People have been sick all over the place and does it smell! The glamour of the night...
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detachment, disengagement, letting go
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I was brought up by a very controlling father, with a very 'submissive' but manipulative mother. I was taught that I had to respond, and the response had to be one that pleased them, or else terrible punishments... my sister has a brain lesion from one beating. Since we tend to generalize and to t...
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Daily Reflections Feb 8
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CONVINCING "MR. HYDE" Even then, as we hew away, peace and joy will still elude us. That's the place so many of us A.A. oldsters have come to. And it's a hell of a spot, literally. How shall our unconscious--from which so many of our fears, compulsions and phony aspirations still stream--be brought int...
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Here's a happy thought!
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Somebody on my block is barbecuing tonight and it smells wonderful! but it's only February, and it's usually still very cold. Today, it's at 54 right now, but it feels like spring after all the cold and wind and rain we've had lately! I have the doors and windows open, neighbors are...
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I wish...
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They would stop advertising alcohol on TV. It seems like there is at least one ad during every commercial break, even during the day. They should at least show it how it really is, people stumbling around in bars or wherever and then getting arrested on the way home. There should be...
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Readiness is a precondition for change.
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If we earnestly and conscientiously apply the tools of our program, we are certain to experience positive change. We are promised new freedom and happiness and assured that a Higher Power can and will remove our negative characteristics. The question is, are we ready to change? If we hang on tightly...
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I need to stop drinking..
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I drink too much.. im gona be 30 in about 6 months and iv been gettin pissed almost every night since i was about 17 or 18. somtimes i give it up for a couple of days.. and sometimes i manage a week, though not very often.. once a few years ago i quit for 3 months.... But i cant seem to stay of...
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Anyone else here hate Valentine's Day?
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I am so fed up with all these commercialized hollidays and their advertisements. It's just so depressing, they make you feel like if you don't buy stuff for your loved ones, then you don't really love them. Well, I don't care if my man buys me jewelry, I mostly make my own, diamonds a...
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Spiritual Experience and AA(my long story)
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Hey Toni, your post got me to thinking a lot about where I was, what it was like, and where I am now.
I was surfing the 'net today and came across a religion that I think I might finally be able to call my own. It is Unitarian Universalism. It's a lot about tolerance. It accepts p...
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Daily Reflections Feb 7
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A PATH TO FAITH True humility and an open mind can lead us to faith, and every A.A. meeting is an assurance that God will restore us to sanity if we rightly relate ourselves to Him. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 33 My last drunk had landed me in the hospital, totally broken. It was then that I was ab...
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Hope requires humility and humanity
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Hope is for the weak: The challenge of a broken world
Hope requires humility and humanity
by Robert Jensen
My title may seem unnecessarily harsh. After all, hope is an enduring feature of our species, something people search for (often quite desperately) and hang onto (usually quit...
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? about sobriety time
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Ya'll may be familiar w/this but in case someone is not: My area AA f2fs have a chip system. Different color poker like chips that mark time in sobriety. At the end of the f2f when someone gives them out, they go thru the colors and say how much time each one represents, white-24 hours or surrender, silver...
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Miracles In Progress Cookbook
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Hello everyone,
This is Rose, From time to time I have been in the rooms and I have found that people are talking about food. Who is cooking what, oh let me have that recipe, Oh that sounds good. All it does is make everyone hungry!! So I have decided to put all this food talk to...
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'what you like' or 'what you need'
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I have heard both of these phrases by people in the program,,,, "take what you like and leave the rest', and ' take what you need and leave the rest'. There is actually a big difference between the two.
If I only take what I like I will miss a lot of what I need. I don't lik...
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AA---today's thought
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Today's thought is:
If you go around thinking you are being cheated, life becomes very unpleasant. --Felix Salten
Sometimes we feel cheated that we have been given this darn disease to cope with. Why us? Why can't we just be like normal people? Why did we have to get into so much trouble and pai...
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Monday
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Pride works from within; it is the direct appreciation of oneself.
--Arthur Schopenhauer
Pride, like all emotions, has two faces: one healthy and one sick. It is our challenge to use the healthy side well. Sick pride fills us with ourselves, looks down on others, and has no room for generosity...
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Humility
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Step Seven "Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings."
Since this Step so specifically concerns itself with humility, we should pause here to consider what humility is and what the practice of it can mean to us.
Indeed, the attainment of greater humility is the foundation principl...
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Just checking in
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Hi to everyone,
I havent Posted for a while, had to get this transition down to DSL, but I think I managed o.k. Transferring files is a little bit hard, but no pain, no gain.
Life here in California does feel different since I moved to the Southernmost part, it never rains, have n...
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Blocked Anger
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Heavy week...needed a time out...
Had to go back to 4 and 5...
My opinion...Some say ..that once youve done 4 and 5 once...thats the end of it..I disagree with that.. there can be layers of that onion...that are still there...regardless of how much time..one has in this program..
Suppre...
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Hi Folks just a quick update and firstly thanks for the PMs
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The last 10 nights without a drink have not been without ups and downs. I have honestly not had huge cravings/urges, atlhough I`m well aware that it`s very early days. Home life is good, feeling very tired at odd times of the day. I`ve also had horrendous tonsilitis, something I su...
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Daily Reflections Feb 6
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A RALLYING POINT Therefore, Step Two is the rallying point for all of us. "Whether agnostic, atheist, or former believer, we can stand together on this Step. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 33 I feel that A.A. is a God-inspired program and that God is at every A.A. meeting. I see, believe, and ha...
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hi every one
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well sunday has seem to come with great new chalenges for me. while things have been going steady and i have been working on my steps ,other things seem to keep pileing up .im not sure how to react to.my children i think have noticed that im different.they seem to be pushing further than they ever had .now...
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hidden anger
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HIDDEN ANGER
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It is obvious from these "signs of anger" that anger is frequently a concealed or disguised emotion. And why not? Getting mad is scary... and potentially dangerous. One common way of expressing suppressed anger has been given a special name...
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big book
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In this book you read again and again that faith did for us what we could not do for ourselves. We hope you are convinced now that God can remove whatever self-will has blocked you off from Him. If you have already made a decision, and an inventory of your grosser handicaps, you have made a good beginning....
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blunt and to the point-happiness
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the keys to happiness
SELF CONFIDENCE
As long as you think well of your self no matter what anyone else says you will still be happy. The way to get this? Simple. Help others. When you help others you feel good about yourself because you've proved that you are a valuable person and...
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happiness
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Five Keys to Happiness
HELPFUL HINTS
by Tim Connor
Let go of old baggage
Was it something your parents did 20 years ago? Something a customer said last week? Or something a spouse or friend said yesterday?
Old baggage is emotional stuff we carry around with us for days, months...
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Daily Reflections Feb 5
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A GLORIOUS RELEASE "The minute I stopped arguing, I could begin to see and feel. Right there, Step Two gently and very gradually began to infiltrate my life. I can't say upon what occasion or upon what day I came to believe in a Power greater than myself, but I certainly have that belief now. To acquire it...
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Lay the burden down
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A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute,...
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1 day in to the trip
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hello every one, well ive been here in PA a hole day and things are going ok.the 10 hours in car was alittle scary butt it also gave me a lott of time to pray and ask hp to helpme and make me strong.things with the my wife are going well to .we have been doig some talking and plan to try to keep workingon us as a who...
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Missed emails
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To all the good folks who have emailed me in the past on this board, I need to let you know that, for some reason, I can't get any updates as they happen, unless I log off the site, and then back on. Sometimes, even then, I don't seem to get the notification that I have a new email right away.&nbs...
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First Things First !
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Hi all..
Phil posted the other day about going to meetings. When I finally got to a meeting later that night it really made me reflect on putting First Things First.
After my last drunk (almost 15 yrs ago) I had a brief moment of clarity (and a BIG helping of Grace) I phone...
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Encouraging liver health advice
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For anyone new to sobriety, who may have come into AA with some liver problems, as I did a few months back, here is a link to advice on how to eat healthy to allow your liver optimum chance to heal. (no quack remedies---just nutritional advice)
http://www.hepnet.com/charge/chap8.html
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Deep thought
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DEEP THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Some people are like Slinkies,
They don't really serve any purpose,
But they still bring a smile to your face
when you push them down the stairs.
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Spiritual Experience ll from Alcoholics Anonymous
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The terms “spiritual experience” and “spiritual awakening” are used many times in this book which, upon careful reading, shows that the personality change sufficient to bring about recovery from alcoholism has manifested itself among us in many different forms.
Yet it is true that our first pr...
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Dail Refelctions Feb 4
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WHEN FAITH IS MISSING Sometimes A.A. comes harder to those who have lost or rejected faith than to those who never had any faith at all, for they think they have faith and found it wanting. They have tried the way of faith and the way of no faith. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 28 I was so sure God had...
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Why is it so hard to get back???
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This is my first time in this forum. And I needed to get support to return to AA. I was sober for eight months, and they were the best eight months in a long time. I was doing okay until I took an 11 day trip to Disney World with my girlfriend and her two kids.
The vacation was goin...
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'keep it green'
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I think someone at an NA meeting said that the expression 'keep it green' comes from a certain program method of getting points or demerits and being within acceptable limits is colored green on a graph,,, and if a person goes out of the green it means s/he got too many demerits. Does anyone know a...
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Life Is
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Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it. Life is bliss, taste it. Life is a dream, realise it. Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfil it. Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, ac...
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A new day
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24 hours ago i was inches from a bottle. it had seemed that it was all just not going to work,i was lost and realy didnt even know if i wanted to be found.through a lot of suport from you guys and from some help here(boston)i was able to stay sober THANK YOU ALL.things have been realy crazy (go figure ) my fami...
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Fourth step - help
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Working on my fourth step. Was wondering if there is anyone who would like to share their trials and tribulations about doing their fourth step. Hearing others might help me with mine.
Thanks - Jeannie
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some things to think about
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Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two 1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.. 2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. 3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't l...
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When Girls Drink - Truth in Humor
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CAN YOU IDENTIFY.......
>>> WE HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHERE OUR PURSE IS.
>>>WE BELIEVE THAT DANCING WITH OUR ARMS OVERHEAD AND WIGGLING OUR BUTT WHILE YELLING "WOO-HOO!" IS TRULY THE SEXIEST DANCE MOVE AROUND.
>>> WE'VE SUDDENLY DECIDED THAT WE WANT TO KICK S...
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conflict resolutions
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Fighting Fair
A Guide
these skills are proven ways to resolve conflict and create successful human relationships where everyone wins. This Conflict Resolution technique is endorsed by many psychologists, counsellors, doctors, business managers, and teachers.
who: Use it with:...
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Hey! Pauly!
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I've seen you lurking around "down there"!
Fill us in on how you are - WE CARE!
Love and hugs!
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I had a drink....
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I have let myself down and had a drink yesterday after hearing that my funding for rehad was refused (no excuse) I plan to throw myself back into AA and knuckle down to working the steps. I feel awful, ashamed, guilty, remorseful and full of fear. Will keep posting on this site to let people know how I am do...
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Daily Reflections Feb 3
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FILLING THE VOID We needed to ask ourselves but one short question. "Do I now believe, or am I even willing to believe, that there is a Power greater than myself?" As soon as a man can say that he does believe, or is willing to believe, we emphatically assure him that he is on his way. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS,...
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A Bit Harsh, or What?
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At my meeting yesterday, there was a 19 year old boy who was a coke addict. He was there because he needed his "paper" signed. During the meeting (to which he was late-but he did say he was sorry for that) he didn't say anything, and passed when his turn to share came, other than to...
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first timer
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hi all
This is by far the hardest thing, facing the fact that I have a problem, and then having to do something about it.
The first time I ever got drunk was at a New Years Eve party when I was 8 years old. Someone spiked some punch, no one liked it so for some reason, so everyon...
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something interresting
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But Rogers is just as interested in describing the healthy person. His term is "fully-functioning," and involves the following qualities:
1. Openness to experience. This is the opposite of defensiveness. It is the accurate perception of one's experiences in the world, including one's feel...
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