Alcoholics Anonymous

Tina · Tina

Hi Just wanted to check in, still here and sober. Internet is down for a bit, but still pluggin away at her lol. Kids have been away for a bit, and well mama is taking some time for me. Taking it easy, over did it with my left side of my chest, pulled something in the outter wall of my chest. Other than that t...

Zster · Zster

Greetings all, I want to thank you, very sincerely, for being part of my sobriety - getting to the two year mark. Two years ago, my husband (of 18 years) and I got sober together. One year ago, he was diagnosed with the cancer that took him from this world within 3 months. Thus, I missed my 1 year bi...

Phil · Phil

This is the substance of a revealing letter which Bill Wilson wrote several years ago to a close friend who also had troubles with depression. The letter appeared in the "Grapevine" January, 1953. EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY "I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure&...

wantneeda · wantneeda

"came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity" i went to a meeting last night that talked about this step. a fellow shared that he needs to read what is in black and white...that it doesn't say.. came to believe IN a power greater than myself...therefore he nee...

Phil · Phil

Let it go The trivial annoyances, even though they are virtually meaningless, can overwhelm you if you let them. Choose not to let them. Be diligent about the things that truly matter, and be very flexible about the things that don't. There's no sense in wasting your precious time arguing or agonizin...

Quetzal · Quetzal

You cannot build a house or a life without some foundation. While we were still drinking or using drugs, it seemed our lives could not change. There was no foundation to build on. We had no working principles in our lives. We found we could not become the good things we wanted to become. Until we quit drin...

ron70062 · ron70062

I just wanted to tell everyone hello, and that I hope all of you have a Great and sober week. Im so happy...I get to pick up my 2 mo. chip this week...provided that I dont drink. All of you have played a VERY important role in helping me get back on the right track. I started my new job last Thursday, and Im lovi...

Wren · Wren

It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings, allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we dont deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is when anxiety and othe...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...

jeannie · jeannie

The rain was coming down in sheets now, and she had no idea how to change a flat. As long as it was raining so hard she held out little hope of getting someone to stop and help her. Suddenly, a rapping came at her window, and she rolled it down slightly. "Need help?" "I've got a flat and...

Quetzal · Quetzal

As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies - laughing at myself for my ways - gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about - absolute loving, joyous, nurturing self-accepta...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings. We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation. When t...

timverton · timverton

Yes, it's been one year for me of straight sobriety as of today. I see that There appears to be some good company. Zster celebrates two years and, I believe, Destinydreamer (Jamie) celebrates six months. I guess this date must have been one of those serious "morning after" times for som...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Hi everyone, In my post a few days ago saying that I was eighteen months sober, somebody asked me to share on how I had done it. That got me thinking. When I first came to AA, I just wasn't ready to really accept that I was an alcoholic. I had to go back out and prove to myself once and for all, that I really was. T...

ron70062 · ron70062

After getting sober again this time, My Dr. Put me on some meds. One of them I take at bedtime to help me sleep, another is for anxity. I take it because I have A.D.D and I take a low dose of Adderall and the meds for anxity help calm me down some . It's a VERY low Mg. The other day I applyed for a new job. I passed th...

jeannie · jeannie

True forgiveness only occurs when we treat the subject as a closed matter. If we bring up old hurts whenever feelings fly, then we have never really forgiven. To hold a grudge is to build a wall between yourself and another person. Forgiveness breaks down walls. My higher power came to break down w...

TimW · TimW

I've been very busy learning my new job. Stopped tonight to catch up on some reading and to say congrats to those with birthdays. Best I can say is keep it up it only gets better. My good friend and fishing buddy died a couple days ago. He used to be drinker also but had sobered up many years ago. It's al...

destinydreamer · destinydreamer

As some of you know my parents moved down south last summer which forced me to get an apartment and partially grow up!I have lived on my own for a year now and only started becoming responsible a short time ago. My 6 month sober date is in a couple days and I realize that I have straightened out my life ALOT th...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Hi everyone, Well, today I have been sober for eighteen months! It seems amazing to me that I have managed this when I look back at my drinking days. And, how my life has changed. I just never thought it would be possible. I am so truly lucky to have found the rooms of AA. My sobriety really is all down to AA an...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Sharing is healing. - Cathy Stone It's not easy to share the intimate details of our lives. We have guarded our secrets for years. But now it's suggested that we tell our secrets to people whose names we barely know. That's certainly not the way we were raised, and listening to others reveal their awful...

Bryan39 · Bryan39

Hello all this summer has flown by I have my kids with me (they usually live 7 hours away ) I'm 4 and 1/2 months sober and I've had a wonderful time just hanging out with the kids its been great I'm clear headed, not depressed and just getting joy from being a dad. Here's the point of this post I went to over 1...

miller2 · miller2

Hello all... just stopped by to say hey. Work has me pretty busy right now, but I had a few minutes this morning for a fly by... lol . hmmmm... I didnt see the daily reflection... it used to be posted here every day.

Quetzal · Quetzal

Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the...

Wren · Wren

When Our World Falls Apart There are times when our whole world seems to be falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes our relationships crumble and sometimes its our physical environment. At other times, we cant put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls h...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves. We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help. We can learn to say yes to health...

Wren · Wren

No matter how painful our early experiences were, our Essence cannot be harmed. Our Essence is waiting for the opportunity to reveal itself. In a very true sense, we are waiting for the opportunity to become ourselves. Our spirit is yearning to break free, to express itself ... And yet, ironically, w...

ron70062 · ron70062

As alot of you know, I went back out , but thanks to my VERY loving God , Im coming up on 2 Mos. ! As a result of me going back out, and coming back into the world of reality A.K.A. sober, my good friend and X drinking buddy next door Mike decided he wanted to get sober too. Yesterday he picked up his 1 Mo. chip. Im s...

Phil · Phil

There are quite a few, on the board...achieving stepping stones..one day at a time, in sobriety. You are miracles. Most of us are living on borrowed time. We shouldn't even be here, when one thinks about it...and where we have all come from. Thanks to a "Higher Power" of our individual unde...

Quetzal · Quetzal

For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Chris...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....

LisaF · LisaF

I've struggled a lot with finding a good sponsor since I moved to Nebraska... and am having to look for a new one again.... and it's not the whole deal of finding one that will tell me what I want to hear, or anything like that... I think I've posted some about this before, the first one was controllin...

ron70062 · ron70062

A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After ma...

Phil · Phil

Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems. Having expectations in our culture is...

TenderheartsKS · TenderheartsKS

Today is a celebration of love, laughter, life, tears, joy, and an incredible journey in recovery. It is by far the most important thing I have ever done, and continue to do, a day at a time. Today, I celebrate 17 years of sobriety. Without God's goodness, a LOT of help from my friends in the rooms of AA, an...

Quetzal · Quetzal

You can't let adversity get you down. Keep smiling. -- Violet Hensley Violet's smiles certainly fit this category. She lights up rooms with her joy and energy, her fiddle playing and storytelling. We don't all smile quite so easily. Why is that? Some naively assume one's easy; individual circumsta...

Quetzal · Quetzal

We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more. -- Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It t...

Wren · Wren

We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measurin...

Twins2feed · Twins2feed

My name is Mike, an alcoholic who has been associated with treatment programs since 1985. May 12, 2007 was a typical crisis event that led me to "in-patient" treatment for the first time. The difference between the past and the present is that (1) this is the longest I've been sober since 19...

Quetzal · Quetzal

I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. -- Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...

Phil · Phil

How it Works When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions which you find in this book. Do not let any prejudice you may have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking yourself what they mean to you. At the star...

JohnInNYC · JohnInNYC

I am having a very anxious day, for a bunch of little reasons. First, my in-laws, who don't live in the U.S. and only speak Spanish (which I can speak to some degree, but not completely comfortably) are here and hanging out at my apartment. When they are there, they sit and talk to my wife in Spanish and d...

clara · clara

Hi everyone, I am new on this forum. I am also new to realising that I am an alcholic. Its hard to say that! I want to stop drinking and often manage a couple of days but not more. If anyone has any strategies that have helped you when you first decided to quit I would appreciate your comments. Regards,...

Quetzal · Quetzal

So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life feeling abused, trapped, and not knowing how to take care of myself in relationships. -- Anonymous No matter how long we have been recovering, we may still tend to give up our power to others, whether they be authori...

Doll · Doll

How to Be Humble"It's hard to be humble," says an old country song, "when you're perfect in every way." Very few people, of course, actually think they're perfect in every way, but it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages com...

JohnInNYC · JohnInNYC

I love The White Stripes, a band, for those who don't know them. They have a song on their new album that I have listened to a lot in my first few weeks of sobriety, though I doubt they write their songs with that in mind. The lyrics are funny, but the point is, things have gone wrong when they have because o...

TenderheartsKS · TenderheartsKS

A TRUE STORY By Malcolm Forbes The Gingham Dress A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun threadbare suit, stepped off the train in Boston, and walked timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President's outer office. The secretary could tell in a mo...

Phil · Phil

We continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past. We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matt...

MicKen · MicKen

My husband and I had been having trouble because of my drinking. I am on day 26 of sobriety, and was so happy. Tonight he told me he wants a divorce, that he is too emotionally detached at this point. We have one little 6 year old boy. I don't know what this will do to him. And, I don't know what I am going to d...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Happiness is a mental habit, a mental attitude, and if it is not learned and practiced in the present it is never experienced. -- Maxwell Maltz If only I had a new bike, then I'd be happy. If only my family were more understanding, then I'd be happy. If only my hair were styled better. If only I had more frie...

Phil · Phil

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Still Here (Preview) Hi Just wanted to check in, still here and sober. Internet is down for a bit, but still pluggin away at her lol. Kids have been away for a bit, and well mama is taking some time for me. Taking it easy, over did it with my left side of my chest, pulled something in the outter wall of my chest. Other than that t...	Tina	3	529	Aug 15, 2007 by learning
	Thx all - for helping me get this far (Preview) Greetings all, I want to thank you, very sincerely, for being part of my sobriety - getting to the two year mark. Two years ago, my husband (of 18 years) and I got sober together. One year ago, he was diagnosed with the cancer that took him from this world within 3 months. Thus, I missed my 1 year bi...	Zster	11	650	Aug 15, 2007 by Pam P
	Sharing a letter by Bill W. from many moons ago.. (Preview) This is the substance of a revealing letter which Bill Wilson wrote several years ago to a close friend who also had troubles with depression. The letter appeared in the "Grapevine" January, 1953. EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY "I think that many oldsters who have put our AA "booze cure&...	Phil	2	542	Aug 14, 2007 by Phil
	step 2 (Preview) "came to believe that a power greater than myself could restore me to sanity" i went to a meeting last night that talked about this step. a fellow shared that he needs to read what is in black and white...that it doesn't say.. came to believe IN a power greater than myself...therefore he nee...	wantneeda	5	557	Aug 14, 2007 by Dave Harm
	Don't Sweat The Small Stuff... (Preview) Let it go The trivial annoyances, even though they are virtually meaningless, can overwhelm you if you let them. Choose not to let them. Be diligent about the things that truly matter, and be very flexible about the things that don't. There's no sense in wasting your precious time arguing or agonizin...	Phil	4	912	Aug 14, 2007 by cooncatbob
	Changing (Preview) You cannot build a house or a life without some foundation. While we were still drinking or using drugs, it seemed our lives could not change. There was no foundation to build on. We had no working principles in our lives. We found we could not become the good things we wanted to become. Until we quit drin...	Quetzal	0	456	Aug 14, 2007 by Quetzal
	Have A Great Week !!! (Preview) I just wanted to tell everyone hello, and that I hope all of you have a Great and sober week. Im so happy...I get to pick up my 2 mo. chip this week...provided that I dont drink. All of you have played a VERY important role in helping me get back on the right track. I started my new job last Thursday, and Im lovi...	ron70062	2	485	Aug 13, 2007 by Sick of being sick
	Sitting with Feelings (Preview) It can take great courage to really sit with our feelings, allowing ourselves to surrender to their powerful energies. All too often we set our feelings aside, thinking we will deal with them later. If we dont deal with them, we end up storing them in our minds and bodies and this is when anxiety and othe...	Wren	1	644	Aug 13, 2007 by Phil
	Friends (Preview) Don't overlook the value of friendship. Don't neglect friends. Friends are a joy. Adult friendships can be a good place for us to learn to have fun and to appreciate how much fun we can have with a friend. Friends can be a comfort. Who knows us better, or is more able to give us support, than a good friend? A...	Quetzal	0	539	Aug 13, 2007 by Quetzal
	Kindness (Preview) The rain was coming down in sheets now, and she had no idea how to change a flat. As long as it was raining so hard she held out little hope of getting someone to stop and help her. Suddenly, a rapping came at her window, and she rolled it down slightly. "Need help?" "I've got a flat and...	jeannie	4	513	Aug 13, 2007 by Pam P
	Letting Go of Perfection (Preview) As I journey through recovery, more and more I learn that accepting myself and my idiosyncrasies - laughing at myself for my ways - gets me a lot further than picking on myself and trying to make myself perfect. Maybe that's really what it's all about - absolute loving, joyous, nurturing self-accepta...	Quetzal	1	617	Aug 12, 2007 by timverton
	Directness (Preview) Direct people are a joy to be around. We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings. We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation. When t...	Quetzal	1	510	Aug 12, 2007 by nmike
	One year today... (Preview) Yes, it's been one year for me of straight sobriety as of today. I see that There appears to be some good company. Zster celebrates two years and, I believe, Destinydreamer (Jamie) celebrates six months. I guess this date must have been one of those serious "morning after" times for som...	timverton	11	502	Aug 12, 2007 by timverton
	How I Did It (Preview) Hi everyone, In my post a few days ago saying that I was eighteen months sober, somebody asked me to share on how I had done it. That got me thinking. When I first came to AA, I just wasn't ready to really accept that I was an alcoholic. I had to go back out and prove to myself once and for all, that I really was. T...	Quetzal	3	490	Aug 12, 2007 by timverton
	Any advice ?? (Preview) After getting sober again this time, My Dr. Put me on some meds. One of them I take at bedtime to help me sleep, another is for anxity. I take it because I have A.D.D and I take a low dose of Adderall and the meds for anxity help calm me down some . It's a VERY low Mg. The other day I applyed for a new job. I passed th...	ron70062	4	543	Aug 11, 2007 by Pam P
	FORGIVENESS (Preview) True forgiveness only occurs when we treat the subject as a closed matter. If we bring up old hurts whenever feelings fly, then we have never really forgiven. To hold a grudge is to build a wall between yourself and another person. Forgiveness breaks down walls. My higher power came to break down w...	jeannie	2	1788	Aug 11, 2007 by Pam P
	Been busy (Preview) I've been very busy learning my new job. Stopped tonight to catch up on some reading and to say congrats to those with birthdays. Best I can say is keep it up it only gets better. My good friend and fishing buddy died a couple days ago. He used to be drinker also but had sobered up many years ago. It's al...	TimW	3	482	Aug 11, 2007 by Quetzal
	moving (Preview) As some of you know my parents moved down south last summer which forced me to get an apartment and partially grow up!I have lived on my own for a year now and only started becoming responsible a short time ago. My 6 month sober date is in a couple days and I realize that I have straightened out my life ALOT th...	destinydreamer	4	478	Aug 11, 2007 by sheilasdad
	18 Months Sober Today (Preview) Hi everyone, Well, today I have been sober for eighteen months! It seems amazing to me that I have managed this when I look back at my drinking days. And, how my life has changed. I just never thought it would be possible. I am so truly lucky to have found the rooms of AA. My sobriety really is all down to AA an...	Quetzal	12	1688	Aug 11, 2007 by sheilasdad
	Sharing is healing. (Preview) Sharing is healing. - Cathy Stone It's not easy to share the intimate details of our lives. We have guarded our secrets for years. But now it's suggested that we tell our secrets to people whose names we barely know. That's certainly not the way we were raised, and listening to others reveal their awful...	Quetzal	0	436	Aug 11, 2007 by Quetzal
	A sober summer (Preview) Hello all this summer has flown by I have my kids with me (they usually live 7 hours away ) I'm 4 and 1/2 months sober and I've had a wonderful time just hanging out with the kids its been great I'm clear headed, not depressed and just getting joy from being a dad. Here's the point of this post I went to over 1...	Bryan39	4	1539	Aug 10, 2007 by TenderheartsKS
	just checking in... (Preview) Hello all... just stopped by to say hey. Work has me pretty busy right now, but I had a few minutes this morning for a fly by... lol . hmmmm... I didnt see the daily reflection... it used to be posted here every day.	miller2	3	447	Aug 9, 2007 by Quetzal
	Asking for What We Need (Preview) Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it. Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the...	Quetzal	0	631	Aug 9, 2007 by Quetzal
	Clinging to the Core (Preview) When Our World Falls Apart There are times when our whole world seems to be falling apart around us, and we are not sure what to hold onto anymore. Sometimes our relationships crumble and sometimes its our physical environment. At other times, we cant put our finger on it, but we feel as if all the walls h...	Wren	0	441	Aug 8, 2007 by Wren
	Saying Yes (Preview) Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes. We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves. We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help. We can learn to say yes to health...	Quetzal	0	461	Aug 8, 2007 by Quetzal
	There's Hope (Preview) No matter how painful our early experiences were, our Essence cannot be harmed. Our Essence is waiting for the opportunity to reveal itself. In a very true sense, we are waiting for the opportunity to become ourselves. Our spirit is yearning to break free, to express itself ... And yet, ironically, w...	Wren	1	488	Aug 7, 2007 by cindy
	My Buddy next door, Mike (Preview) As alot of you know, I went back out , but thanks to my VERY loving God , Im coming up on 2 Mos. ! As a result of me going back out, and coming back into the world of reality A.K.A. sober, my good friend and X drinking buddy next door Mike decided he wanted to get sober too. Yesterday he picked up his 1 Mo. chip. Im s...	ron70062	8	936	Aug 7, 2007 by Phil
	To all of you (Preview) There are quite a few, on the board...achieving stepping stones..one day at a time, in sobriety. You are miracles. Most of us are living on borrowed time. We shouldn't even be here, when one thinks about it...and where we have all come from. Thanks to a "Higher Power" of our individual unde...	Phil	5	627	Aug 7, 2007 by timverton
	Saying No (Preview) For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No. No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Chris...	Quetzal	1	538	Aug 7, 2007 by timverton
	Solving Problems (Preview) Problems are made to be solved! Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." ....	Quetzal	1	484	Aug 6, 2007 by ron70062
	Question on sponsorship (Preview) I've struggled a lot with finding a good sponsor since I moved to Nebraska... and am having to look for a new one again.... and it's not the whole deal of finding one that will tell me what I want to hear, or anything like that... I think I've posted some about this before, the first one was controllin...	LisaF	2	512	Aug 6, 2007 by wantneeda
	Ive got to share this one because it is SO true (Preview) A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably combed and shaved perfectly, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. His wife of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After ma...	ron70062	3	576	Aug 6, 2007 by Quetzal
	Unfulfilled Relationship Expectations (Preview) Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! - Guy Finley Unfulfilled expectations always cause problems. Having expectations in our culture is...	Phil	4	1877	Aug 5, 2007 by timverton
	A celebration... (Preview) Today is a celebration of love, laughter, life, tears, joy, and an incredible journey in recovery. It is by far the most important thing I have ever done, and continue to do, a day at a time. Today, I celebrate 17 years of sobriety. Without God's goodness, a LOT of help from my friends in the rooms of AA, an...	TenderheartsKS	6	1082	Aug 5, 2007 by wagon
	Keep Smiling (Preview) You can't let adversity get you down. Keep smiling. -- Violet Hensley Violet's smiles certainly fit this category. She lights up rooms with her joy and energy, her fiddle playing and storytelling. We don't all smile quite so easily. Why is that? Some naively assume one's easy; individual circumsta...	Quetzal	1	520	Aug 5, 2007 by Phil
	Gratitude (Preview) We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more. -- Codependent No More Say thank you, until we mean it. Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It t...	Quetzal	1	509	Aug 5, 2007 by Pam P
	Perfectionism (Preview) We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measurin...	Wren	6	573	Aug 4, 2007 by cooncatbob
	Hello. I'm new here. (Preview) My name is Mike, an alcoholic who has been associated with treatment programs since 1985. May 12, 2007 was a typical crisis event that led me to "in-patient" treatment for the first time. The difference between the past and the present is that (1) this is the longest I've been sober since 19...	Twins2feed	8	655	Aug 4, 2007 by TenderheartsKS
	Vulnerability (Preview) I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am. -- Anonymous Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control...	Quetzal	0	463	Aug 4, 2007 by Quetzal
	Some readings re Step Two (Preview) How it Works When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions which you find in this book. Do not let any prejudice you may have against spiritual terms deter you from honestly asking yourself what they mean to you. At the star...	Phil	0	736	Aug 3, 2007 by Phil
	Anxious Day (Preview) I am having a very anxious day, for a bunch of little reasons. First, my in-laws, who don't live in the U.S. and only speak Spanish (which I can speak to some degree, but not completely comfortably) are here and hanging out at my apartment. When they are there, they sit and talk to my wife in Spanish and d...	JohnInNYC	5	508	Aug 3, 2007 by Phil
	New on this forum (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new on this forum. I am also new to realising that I am an alcholic. Its hard to say that! I want to stop drinking and often manage a couple of days but not more. If anyone has any strategies that have helped you when you first decided to quit I would appreciate your comments. Regards,...	clara	11	597	Aug 3, 2007 by clara
	Owning Our Power in Relationships (Preview) So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life feeling abused, trapped, and not knowing how to take care of myself in relationships. -- Anonymous No matter how long we have been recovering, we may still tend to give up our power to others, whether they be authori...	Quetzal	0	489	Aug 3, 2007 by Quetzal
	How to be Humble (Preview) How to Be Humble"It's hard to be humble," says an old country song, "when you're perfect in every way." Very few people, of course, actually think they're perfect in every way, but it can still be pretty hard to be humble, especially when you live in a society that encourages com...	Doll	3	1919	Aug 2, 2007 by Twins2feed
	For all of us who ever wondered why we got here (Preview) I love The White Stripes, a band, for those who don't know them. They have a song on their new album that I have listened to a lot in my first few weeks of sobriety, though I doubt they write their songs with that in mind. The lyrics are funny, but the point is, things have gone wrong when they have because o...	JohnInNYC	0	448	Aug 2, 2007 by JohnInNYC
	A Humbling Story (Preview) A TRUE STORY By Malcolm Forbes The Gingham Dress A lady in a faded gingham dress and her husband, dressed in a homespun threadbare suit, stepped off the train in Boston, and walked timidly without an appointment into the Harvard University President's outer office. The secretary could tell in a mo...	TenderheartsKS	0	442	Aug 2, 2007 by TenderheartsKS
	Some Readings Re Step Ten (Preview) We continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along. We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past. We have entered the world of the Spirit. Our next function is to grow in understanding and effectiveness. This is not an overnight matt...	Phil	0	634	Aug 2, 2007 by Phil
	divorce (Preview) My husband and I had been having trouble because of my drinking. I am on day 26 of sobriety, and was so happy. Tonight he told me he wants a divorce, that he is too emotionally detached at this point. We have one little 6 year old boy. I don't know what this will do to him. And, I don't know what I am going to d...	MicKen	12	2411	Aug 2, 2007 by MicKen
	Happiness (Preview) Happiness is a mental habit, a mental attitude, and if it is not learned and practiced in the present it is never experienced. -- Maxwell Maltz If only I had a new bike, then I'd be happy. If only my family were more understanding, then I'd be happy. If only my hair were styled better. If only I had more frie...	Quetzal	0	438	Aug 2, 2007 by Quetzal
	Desiderata (Preview) Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive...	Phil	3	4168	Aug 1, 2007 by Phil
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