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Relationships
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How much emotional space do you occupy in your relationship? Could the amount of emotional space you and your partner each take up have anything to do with whether your relationship makes it or not? Indeed it does. Just what do I mean by "emotional space?" It's the time, energy, an...
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Twenty-Four Hours A Day
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*********************************************************** A.A. Thought For The Day If alcoholism were just a physical allergy, like asthma or hay fever, it would be easy for us, by taking a skin test with alcohol, to find out whether or not we're alcoholics. But alcoholism is not just a p...
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February Fourteenth
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Rambling...
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Humanity as a group seems to be fixated with origins and the nature of god. There always seems to be many quests going on at many levels of society seeking out the nature of various gods and theories of origins. I myself was raised in two households with very loose religious requirements (i...
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A Touching Passage (for me)
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This is My HeartThis is my heart. It is a good heart. Bones and a membrane of mist and fire are the woven cover. When we make love in the flower world my heart is close enough to sing to yours in a language that has no use for clumsy human words. My head is a good head, but it is a hard head and it whirs inside with a...
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Loneliness
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The crisis of our time . . . is a crisis not of the hands but of the hearts. -- Archibald MacLeish We singlemindedly search for love, for belonging, for affirmation from others that will wipe out the torment of alienation that haunts our wakefulness and our dreams. "Does he truly care?" we wo...
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Aaaarrrggghhh!
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I'm really stressed out. Need to get to a meeting soon I guess. Crap going on with my ex, he wanted to keep this a no contest divorce, then put in the papers that he's not responsible for any of the debt, I told him he has a choice, keep it no contest and put in the papers that he's going to pay ha...
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Strength
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I ASKED FOR STRENGTH I asked for Strength... And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong. I asked for Wisdom... And God gave me Problems to solve. I asked for Prosperity... And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work. I asked for Courage... And God gave me Danger to overcome. I asked for Love... A...
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Into ACTION
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"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelte...
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first meeting
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Hi everyone. Thanks for your words of kindness re my near slip. It was true for me to go home and wait it out. Once there, warm and comfortable the urge left me. I'm going to my first meeting this am. Not brave enough to go by myself, so I called my brother to go. He goes frequently although he still somet...
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Calm
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Anyone read the book A Million Little Pieces? There is a part in the book where the alcoholic/drug addicts states he's transcended his fury and has reached a state of calm. A state of absolute peace without fear or doubt. He refuses to believe it is god and doesn't care what it is, he just ackn...
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my first meeting
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First of all, I would like to thank everyone that helped me prepare for going to my first meeting... I got there tonight thanks to all of you for your postings and responses! When I first got there (which was extra early because I was paranoid about walking in late and having the attention brought to me ev...
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A personal scare today
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Today was one of those days, when I should've stayed in bed. Started out thinking I slept through the day without waking up. Than got a frightening phone call from the school about my daughter whom was rushed to the hospital by ambulance. My first thoughts were OH MY GOD, than procceeded to ask wh...
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Letting Go Of Those Not In Recovery
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We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge it is cold and dark. We stood there with others in the cold and darkness, doubled over in pain. Some of us developed an eating disorder to cope with the pain. Some dr...
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Stress
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Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. -- Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...
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comin up on 6 months
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Thursday will be 6 months! Will definitely get to a meeting then to get my chip... I really need to be getting to more meetings, I can feel myself starting to slip a little lately... not wanting to drink or anything, honestly overall doing ok... just been really quiet and subdued lately... not much...
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life
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hi everyone, just a quick note to say hi, life has been good here. when i came to aa they gave me some promises that i thought never would be coming true for me. boy was i wrong! something about a new freedom and a new happiness, i came here to get sober, have gotten so much more. i dont post much but i am here...
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another ? about AA
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Sorry that I keep asking questions about AA, but I dont know anyone that has ever gone so I am going to ask the most qualified people I know... YOU!  There are a bunch of codes for the AA meetings and I am trying to figure out which one I should try first.. I know the difference between "O"...
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Letting Go Of Old Beliefs
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Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their go...
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Growth And Change
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When we do for other people what they should do for themselves, we both stay stuck. Perhaps it's human nature to grow and change only when we have to. Unrelenting pain can serve as a motivator. Sometimes ultimatums are effective too. But making excuses for others or taking over their responsibil...
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Preoccupation With Self
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It's odd that you can get so anesthetized by your own pain or your own problem that you don't quite fully share the hell of someone close to you. --Lady Bird Johnson Preoccupation with self can be the bane of our existence. It prevents all but the narrowest perspective on any problem. It cuts of...
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Inner Journey
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The first step to forgiveness "To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel t...
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Eskimo thoughts for the day
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If I dont wanna fall through the ice...I'd better stay away from the thin spots. If I'm going to tease a polar bear...sooner or later...I'm going to be lunch. When I'm riding a whale....I'd better stay away from the blow hole.. When building an igloo...dont forget to put in a do...
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Alcoholic Cardiomyopathy
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Hi everyone, I spent an hour with a cardiologist yesterday and had a few tests. I have been told that I may have alcoholic cardiomyopathy. I have a fair few symptoms and I'm going to have a scan of my heart and a 24 hour heart monitor fitted soon. It just shows that alcohol affects more than the liver, w...
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Four weeks
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Ok, so the first time I came on here I was only one day sober...now I am four weeks and have been to four f2f meetings close to my place. The first one I found bloody awful to be honest! I was SO nervous that just getting my ass in the door was like the hardest thing I have done in a very long time, if not ever... t...
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so close to a slip
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I spent a few hours with my sister today. She is my most reliable drinking partner. I had not seen her in approx seven wks, since I stopped drinking. While talking we discussed our drinking habits, past, present and future. We agreed that we are children of an alcoholic and had a few good laughs about our...
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I missed another anniversary
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Oh well...six months yesterday the 8th (for maybe the second or third time in a decade or so of trying) and still going strong. The way I feel most often is that alcohol is no longer a part of my life and the number of days sober does not strike me as something special I guess. Anyway...Just wanted to put...
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questions about AA
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How come the latest meetings are 8pm where I live? Is that when they end everywhere-what about imsomniacs lol... I was just curious to see if thats when the last meeting for the day is everywhere or if it is just where I live - maybe once my body gets use to sleeping without alcohol I will understand a bit...
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Each Day Is A New Start
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Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone call, to begin whatever project we have been putti...
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Reading my Old Writings
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I dug up my anniversary writings - my log that I wrote in on my sobriety date for my first few years. I was kind of surprised to discover that it stopped when it did.... after 6 years. I have probably looked at it since then, but not added to it. My first year was pretty exhuberant writing I guess. Aside fr...
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My Daughter Wrote the Most Profound Thing....
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My oldest, 7 pictured in my avatar wrote me a little note: Daddy: Don't be who people want you to be. Be who you want to be. Holy SH*t!!! At 7, she is very wise! I'm still numb about it! I asked her last night where she got that from and she said "I don't know, I just wrote it." I...
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man I made a b--lls up
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I think im addicted to ebay!! my latest thing was I found someone from a magazine article selling a musical instrument cheap I decided to buy two off him and sell one on ebay to make my money back. well I sold it before it arrived at my house. the ebayer has paid me already and I have nothing to post him it may a...
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Rambling.
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As far as careers in alcoholism go I think I’ve been fortunate. I go to meetings and look around and see a lot of hard miles on a lot of tired faces. I think I was around sixteen when I realized I was an alcoholic. Drank until I was 22. Came up with an excuse and quit until I was 36. Got divorced and d...
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Live in the Solution
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Live in the solution and not the problem. Chaos, anger and resentment are the killers in our head. Once we concentrate on letting God and live in a solution, the defects of chaos, fear, anger and resentment leave our day. When we wake up, we have a self fufulling prophecy: Do I have a good day? Do I have a b...
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My first post
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Hey everyone! My name is Jamie and this is my first post. I've been reading over posts for a couple weeks now and I see how supportive everyone is. I quit drinking for eleven sleepless days/nights and decided this past sunday that I would be able to have a few beers. I am sure you see where this i...
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A poem
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Last week I threw out worrying;
it was getting old and in the way;
it kept me from being me;
I couldn't do things my way.
I threw out those Inhibitions;
they were just crowding me out;
Made room for my New Growth;
got rid of my old dreams and doubt.
I threw out a book on MY PAST
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Say Thanks For The Ordinary
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Don't overlook the wonder of the ordinary. The extraordinary, the amazing, the phenomenon are daily glorified in the movies, the news, and on television. Our senses become bombarded. We become addicted to drama. The only things that get our attention are the big, catastrophic, knee-jerking...
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Choice
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Choice: Today's word reminds us that our free will is what gives us power. Every day we are presented with numerous choices, each one affects us and those around us. The wise recognize the immense responsibility involved in decision making and choose carefully. They weigh the outcome of their d...
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insomnia-alone-frustrated
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hi guys, I'm at my wits end. For the last month I've had complete insomnia. Sometimes I can't get to sleep, even after working 12/hr shift. Other times like now I sleep for an hour off and on. I def drank most nights so sleep was not a problem, when I didn't I took sleeping pills. Can'...
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Not Always Easy~OM
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Meant To Be Some of our goals and dreams come to fruition so easily that it is as if an unseen hand has done much of the work for us. When this happens, we say it must have been meant to be. On the other hand, when dreams and goals require a tremendous amount of effort, we may interpret this to mean that our drea...
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To mtm105
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I explained it once in private mtm.... Now....Im going to do it on the board....and if anyone disagrees with it...they will let me know... If you want to criticize and judge AA....and surround our, sharing "experience strength and hope" with those that are reaching out for help.....I fo...
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An Article re: Alcoholic Relationships
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Why People Remain in Abusive Alcoholic Relationships The Stockholm Syndrome By Doug Kelley, CH, CSL July 2002 "Alcoholics don’t take spouses—they take hostages." —Diane G. at an Al-Anon meeting Those who have never experienced the turmoil of an abusive relationship find it difficul...
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quote on comfort
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"Comfort is the one thing you cannot get by looking for it. If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth - only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin with and, in the end, despair."-- C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
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Honesty with Ourselves
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I have one request: may I never use my reason against truth. - -Elie Wiesel Honesty with ourselves is a great asset in every situation we confront. The skill to look reality square in the face and call it what it is takes us a good distance toward coping with it. However, many of us also have the skill to spi...
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Anniversary
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For the sake of anonymity... I won't say the date or the year. But right around now, this is when I got sober. Not my birthday, not a new years resolution, not a DUI or court order. There's absolutely nothing significant about the date, other than... I went to my first AA meeting. They said k...
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why i love AA
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like i have said before, i was raised in a drinking culture. i have decended from a long line of boozers on both sides of the family....i tried to cut down or quit on my own, it was futile. when i finally came into the doors of aa they truly spoke my "language". the language of the heart....the bi...
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those off days
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do you ever get the impression that people ignore you if your having a bad day? When I was doing well and chatty a certain person would talk to me, just recently I have not done very well and make a mistake in a presentation at college this person is being off with me now, I am trying to just relax with it to be h...
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Daily Reflections Feb 7
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A PATH TO FAITH True humility and an open mind can lead us to faith, and every A.A. meeting is an assurance that God will restore us to sanity if we rightly relate ourselves to Him. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 33 My last drunk had landed me in the hospital, totally broken. It was then that I was a...
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Off my chest
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Hi everyone, been absent awhile, NORO virus! Yuck! Anyway here's something I want to share because I know the burden will shrink in size. My parents died when I was young. I spent many years in foster care (10). When I was thirteen I moved in with a recovering alcoholic who then adopted me at age seve...
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Canuck thoughts for the day...
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Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference. I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it. So I said "Implants?" She hit me. Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants. Marriage changes passio...
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