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There are no easier softer ways....I've tried them all
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How It Works Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such u...
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Daily Reflections apr 10
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GROWING UP The essence of all growth is a willingness to change for the better and then an unremitting willingness to shoulder whatever responsibility this entails. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 115 Sometimes when I've become willing to do what I should have been doing all along, I want praise and recognition....
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What are the three single movies you would reccomend anyone to see?
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Feel free to mention if any movies are "tied" but try to get it down to just three if you can... It took quite a bit of thinking before I came up with this list but if there were any three movies that I'd reccomend anyone to go see within their lifetime it would be the following: 1) Fight Club 2) ...
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how can I help him??
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My little brother has been having some problems... not alcohol related - yet anyway... but I wouldn't be surprised if he goes down that path eventually too... he's going through things I went through, at about the same age I started. He's been depressed for at least a couple of years. He was in cou...
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I recovered from 3 years of alcoholism and I honestly don't feel any sort of accomplishment...
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Well, where to start? Guess introductions since I haven't shown my face around here yet - I'm a 23 year old whos main pursuit is morality. I work a shit job like most do now that corporations have forced the majority of the population into servitude to survive (roughly 80% of the wealth in the US is co...
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Reaching out
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Hello out there I have only 3 months sobriety under my belt and I feel great. That being said, I am having difficulty reaching out when the alcoholic in me resurfaces. I am by nature a very shy and introverted person; I can't get up the nerve to verbally communicate the issues I am having in my new found so...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 9th April 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Third, alcoholics recover their proper relationship with other people. They thimk less about themselves and more about others. They try to help other alcoholics. They make new friends so that they're no longer lonely. They try to live a life of service instead of selfishn...
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Little quips and quotes...
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I love em. Literature one of the huge redeeming features of humanity, IMHO. "Only the half mad are wholly alive." Edward Abbey "Say what you mean and mean what you say." Alice- Through the Looking Glass. Don't look forward to the day you...
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Could NOT resist posting this-----
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Subject: [NCE-DCC] How Many List Members Does It Take To Change A Light Bulb? Date: Sun, 01 Apr 2007 09:10:31 -0700 One to change the light bulb and to post that the light bulb has been changed. Fourteen to share similar experiences of changing light bulbs and how the light bulb could have been cha...
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Abstinence and Recovery
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Hi there everyone, I am fairly new in sobriety and I keep hearing the terms abstinence and recovery thrown around a lot at meetings. Do they have different meanings to you guys and have they changed as you have stayed sober? For me abstinence is just about not drinking and recovery is about getting bett...
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Self Care
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I don't precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself. But I know you can figure it out. -- Beyond Codependency Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask God to help when you feel overwhelmed. Many of us have learned how to dep...
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Giving
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Learning to be a healthy giver can be a challenge. Many of us got caught up in compulsive giving - charitable acts motivated by uncharitable feelings of guilt, shame, obligations, pity, and moral superiority. We now understand that catering and compulsive giving don't work. They backfire. Careta...
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WHO'S WORSE THE ALCOHOLIC OR US..
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(((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...
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Daily Reflections Apr 9
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FREEDOM FROM "KING ALCOHOL" . . . let us not suppose even for an instant that we are not under constraint. . . . Our former tyrant, King Alcohol, always stands ready again to clutch us to him. Therefore, freedom from alcohol is the great "must" that has to be achieved, else we go mad...
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glad im not there
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I have a friend in canada who is a big user of cocain cannabis and alcohol. its 2 in the morning and he has done an 8-ball he is desperate for alcohol to sort him out as he is high as a kite, he is just off to raid his parents vinatage wine collection in their sleep. what can I do but wish him well on his jorney. I ha...
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Damn near wet my pants....
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Until I figured out they were dolphin. Was out paddling this a.m. and had this fin pop up directly in front of me, kind of heading straight towards me. It looked fricken big and had my heart going all pitter-pat until two more popped up and one did a big flying walenda. Cool though- they aren't too shy. Ran...
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Question???
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First I want to wish you all a happy Easter. I have a question that I hope someone can response to. My ex-boyfriend drank and smoked pot everyday. Is he unhappy? When I read all your posts, a lot of you mention how unhappy you were. Is that true for everyone that is using? Especially when they have been usi...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 8th April 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ Second, alcoholics recover their faith in a Power greater than themselves. They admit that they're helpless by themselves and they call on that Higher Power for help. They surrender their lives to God, as they understand Him. They put their drink problem in God's hands and l...
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Happy Easter
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ME, Me, me - gotta take care of #1
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If I don't, what good am I?! I find that I'm quite angry today.....if you read my posts you know I've "been there" recently for my ex husband, thru his DUI, hip surgery, and life just kicking his ass right now in general.....I have shared my ES&H to the best of my ability with him and I have g...
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Easter Weekend
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In whatever way that you spend Easter Weekend...One day at a time...and sober... I'd just like to take a moment to wish each and every one of you a good one... And thanks for being here... From the heart...and with love.... Phil
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24 Hours a Day ~ 7th April 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ In A.A. alcoholics find a way of solving their personality problems. They do this by recovering three things. First, they recover their personal integrity. They pull themselves together. They get honest with themselves and with other people. They face themselves and the...
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Daily Reflections Apr 7
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A WIDE ARC OF GRATITUDE And, speaking for Dr. Bob and myself, I gratefully declare that had it not been for our wives, Anne and Lois, neither of us could have lived to see A.A.'s beginning. THE A.A. WAY OF LIFE, p. 67 Am I capable of such generous tribute and gratitude to my wife, parents and friends, witho...
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hiya
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just checking in, having a fun evening in just me and the dog! nice to know im not one of them active drunks who are being rowdy on the bank holiday weekend.
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Unfilled Needs
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Take time every day to do something silly. -- Philipa Walker Spring fever may bring out our longings and our sense of unfilled needs for attention, play, or laughter. We may be afraid to express these needs because they are not often taken seriously, but thought of as childish. We may even be afraid our...
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Walk of Fear
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We are attempting to publish a book on how people like you have walked through your wall of fear and what you found on the other side. Our wish is to inspire people to look beyond their paralyzing fears (Divorce, Financial, Health, Children, etc) with your help. So if you have an inspiring short story an...
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Asking Directions
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When we do not know which way to turn, let us not be too proud to ask for directions. We have found our way to a program, which can guide us out of the confusion and into an ordered, satisfying way of life. In our program, there are people who can give us the directions we need, if we will ask for help. There is m...
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LAUGHTER IS A SIGN OF RECOVERY
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((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) Since the MIP athon, I have been reading all your posts... I am Not a Recovering Alcoholic....I am in Al-Anon Recovery programme... And I must confess... You lot crack me up....lol I have sat reading all these tonight and you are all nuts.(lmao).... I am Scottish...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 6th April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ All alcoholics have personality problems. They drink to escape from life, to counteract feelings of loneliness or inferiority, or because of some emotional conflict within them, so that they cannot adjust themselves to life. Alcoholics cannot stop drinking unless they find...
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Daily Reflections Apr 6
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A LIFETIME PROCESS We were having trouble with personal relationships, we couldn't control our emotional natures, we were a prey to misery and depression, we couldn't make a living, we had a feeling of uselessness, we were full of fear, we were unhappy, we couldn't seem to be of real help to other peop...
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Patience
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How sick and tired we may become of people telling us to be patient or to learn patience. How frustrating it can be to want to finally have something, or to move forward, and then not have that happen. How irritating to have someone tell us to wait while our needs have not been met and were in the midst of anx...
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A Prayer
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mood swings
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I intend to ask my doctor about this but thats a week or two away so i just wanted to know are mood swings normal I go from happier than i've been in years to sad to nervous to craving with reallly no reason or warning don't get me wrong much of the time i feel good then are thos other times
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Daily Reflections Apr 5
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TRUE BROTHERHOOD We have not once sought to be one in a family, to be a friend among friends, to be a worker among workers, to be a useful member of society. Always we tried to struggle to the top of the heap, or to hide underneath it. This self-centered behavior blocked a partnership relation with any one...
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But what about the real alcoholic?
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"He has a positive genius for getting tight at exactly the wrong moment, particularly when some important decision must be made or engagement kept." Man arrives at DUI hearing drunk
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24 Hours a Day ~ 5th April 2007
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A.A. Thought for the Day ~ People often ask what makes the A.A. program work. One of the answers is that A.A. works because it gets people away from themselves as the center of the universe. And it teaches them to rely more on the fellowship of others and on strength from God. Forgetting ourselves in fell...
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Detaching in Love
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Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships - the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships - the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! Detachment is not something we do once. It's a daily behavior in recov...
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Pics... Off topic... just wanted to share :)
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Thought I'd post some pics of green acres... haha... here's our critters, and our old farmhouse... Our old farmhouse... it's not much... lol 100 years old... only 3 main rooms, well, there's a bedroom upstairs but the roof needs to be fixed and stuff before we could use it... lol Chickies... walked ou...
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Priorities
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April 4, 2007 Redefining Your Priorities Your Last Breath Procrastination is an almost universal human habit and one that infiltrates nearly every aspect of our lives. Modern existence is so complex, and much of what we long to do is left to wait by the side. We know what is important but tend to let the...
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Step 9 question
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Hi all I usually post on the Alanon board, but have a question that I think can be better answered by AA folks. I understand from step 9 that not all amends should be completely direct and honest, and it specifically says especially where a third party is involved. So my struggle is regarding an affair t...
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writing
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I do some writing now and then. I have a piece I wrote a few weeks back about the life of an alcoholic and recovery. Its rather lengthy, but if anyone wants to read it, Ill post it.
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24 Hours a Day ~ 4th April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When I came into A.A., I found men and women who had been through the same things I had been through. But now they were thinking more about how they could help others than they were about themselves. They were a lot more unselfish than I ever was. By coming to meetings and associating w...
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Daily Reflections Apr 4
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CRYING FOR THE MOON "This very real feeling of inferiority is magnified by his childish sensitivity and it is this state of affairs which generates in him that insatiable, abnormal craving for self-approval and success in the eyes of the world. Still a child, he cries for the moon. And the moon,...
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What Is Detatchment?
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The ability to allow people, places, or things the freedom to be themselves. Holding back from the need to rescue, save, or fix another person from being sick, dysfunctional, or irrational. Giving another person "the space'' to be him or herself. Disengaging from an over-enmeshed or depend...
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hi SJ
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hi SJ... i just saw you wrote on a different post and you are new here... I am sure everyone agrees that only you can determine if you are an alcoholic and I am glad you are recognizing that you may have a problem... welcome and i hope you keep posting!!!
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Transformation
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"The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones." -- William Faulkner Longing for a miracle that will transform your life? Miracles happen, and if we dont want that magic to disappear on us, we need to learn from each epiphany -- to integrate it, apply it, and build on it...
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24 Hours a Day ~ 3rd April 2007
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Thought for the Day ~ When I was drinking, I was absolutely selfish, I thought of myself first, last, and always. The universe revolved around me at the center. When I woke up in the morning with a hangover, my only thought was how terrible I felt and about what I could do to make myself feel better. And the...
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hello again
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Hello again... I visited here a while ago when I first got sober ( well actually, a LONG while ago)... I just picked up my two year medallion Thursday. What an amazing journey it has been. Without the program and AA, I would not be here to visit this board again. Im sure for those also in the program, I don...
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Courage
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Courage is the price that life exacts for granting peace. -- Amelia Earhart We have learned from experience that a wave of peacefulness washes over us after we have successfully finished a task that was difficult to face. Courage has its reward. However, from time to time, and from task to task, we fin...
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Daily Reflections Apr 3
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ACCEPTING OUR HUMANNESS We finally saw that the inventory should be ours, not the other man's. So we admitted our wrongs honestly and became willing to set these matters straight. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 222 Why is it that the alcoholic is so unwilling to accept responsibility? I used to drink because of th...
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