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Goodmorning all....
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Just having that first cup of tea,and trying to keep warm. I've been reading the board the last few days but I've not been feeling well, so just doing the bare necessities. I've been going to meetings, reading AA literature, and getting ready for Christmas.I will chair the AA meeting tonight,I know qu...
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Outlaws at holidays
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I need something else explained to me about the alcoholics. We havent heard from
them since Christmas last year which was a bs letter they were trying to move in
with us and I didnt answer...We get this Christmas letter from a neice of my husbands
I sent a christmas letter to her knowing she would l...
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Christmas
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2 Thoughts For The Day
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Holiday Triggers
One year, when I was a child, my father got drunk and violent at Christmas. I had just unwrapped a present, a bottle of hand lotion, when he exploded in an alcoholic rage. Our Christmas was disrupted. It was terrible. It was frightening for the whole family. Now, thirty-five year...
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Reasons to be Cheerful
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1. Its worse for the troops in Iraq
2. Blunkett has gone
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Still trying to get to that first meeting
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We had it all set up for this past Saturday. It was an "open" meeting so that my husband could go with me and it was a meeting specifically for beginners. I have a 16 month old daughter so we had to arrange a baby-sitter without revealing where we were going. The only babysitter we have is my cousin and the me...
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Welcome Stan-Howdy Busbe.:)
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Welcome to the board Stan. Couldnt help but reply to your post about being happy at Christmas when drinking. "H" I cant remember any. (Smiles) I was the one who stayed up all night and played Santa Clause, by myself. Gave the cookies and milk to the dog and cat--and emptied every bottle in the house, that...
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Warm Heart
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This will warm your heart...just when you lost faith in human
kindness:
Someone who teaches at a Middle School in Hudson, Florida
forwarded the following letter. This letter was sent to the
principal's office after the school sponsored a luncheon for the
elderly. This story is a credi...
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oops
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I need to apoligize for my message earliler about what the outlaws wrote I missed
the top of the card which said hope u have a merry Christmas so after I read it
again it didnt sound as bad as the first sorry I have to eat crow Busbe
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Happy Hannakuh to you and yours
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Skeleton
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This skeleton goes into a pub and asks for a pint of lager.
A minite later he asks the barman for a bucket and mop.
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Christmas Songs
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Psychological Christmas Songs
SCHIZOPHRENIA - Do You Hear What I Hear?
MULTIPLE PERSONALITY - We Three Kings Disoriented Are.
DEMENTIA - I Think I'll Be Home For Christmas.
NARCISSISTIC - Hark The Herald Angels Sing (About Me)
MANIA - Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Law...
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back to outlaws
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U start talking to them and then thats when u give them an inch and they take a mile
they start wanting to move in with u and u dont give them the ok on that u r back to
being a peice of s--- if u know what I mean
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Wasted
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The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed.
--Chamfort
When we are adrift in our addiction, we take ourselves very seriously and often lose contact with reality. We become lost in fantasy and obsession. Life becomes joyless because we can't see beyond our addiction, and we fi...
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Loneliness
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I am just a heartbeat away from loneliness.
--Laura Palmer
The holiday season can be difficult for anyone who has had a major life change. A person who has been widowed, has moved, or has had to deal with new physical limitations may become lonesome when each holiday, birthday, or anniversary r...
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Bartender
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An armless man walked into a bar which is empty except for the bartender.
He ordered a drink and when he was served, asked the bartender if he would get the money from his wallet in his pocket, since he has no arms.
The bartender obliged him. He then asked if the bartender would tip the glass to his...
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an easier, softer way
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I was at a meeting this morning... and I told a guy that I am looking for an easier, softer way... and I found it! He was a great enabler! He agreed with me, and gave suggestions! I told him that I didn't want to be that rigorously...
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Have agreat day
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A man in a hot air balloon realizes that he is lost. He reduces height and spots a man below. He goes closer and yells out, "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend that I would meet him a half and hour ago, but I don't know where I am!"
The man below says, "Yes, you are in a hot air balloon, hoverin...
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Presidents
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Four brewery presidents walk into a bar.
The guy from Corona sits down and says,
"Hey, Senor, I would like the world's best beer,
a Corona".
The bartender gives it to him.
The guy from Budweiser says, "I'd like the best beer
in the world. Give me 'The King of Beers,' a Budweise...
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first step
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working on the first step has ben difficult for me now. i have been spending so much time trying to mantaining contol that i have lost the feeling of anything else. even though i am truly powerless and my life is unmanagable. i have drifted into the thought that i am hanging on by a tread. i a...
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oooooooooooooooooo myyyyyy
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Doctor, Doctor I keep thinking I'm a dog.
Doctor: Sit on the couch and we will talk about it.
But I'm not allowed up on the couch!
Doctor, Doctor You've got to help me - I just can't stop my hands shaking!
Doc: Do you drink a lot?
Not really - I spill most of it!
Doctor, Doctor I keep thin...
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Merry Christmas to you and yours
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Hi Everyone
All is good here! Surely miss you all. I have been very busy with program (sponsees etc. etc.)and volunteering with the phones (monitoring). Book study is completed as of today then I start one here at home myself in January. When I got...
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ooooo-Im soooo confused!!
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Questions that have Confused humankind!!
a.. Who was the first person to look at a cow and say, "I think I'll
squeeze these dangly things here, and drink whatever comes out?"
a.. Who was the first person to say "See that chicken there....I'm gonna eat the next thing that comes outta it's but...
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Problems
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On Problems & Problem Solving
A Problems is
A challenge
An opportunity
A warning
An eye opener
A threat
A riddle
God's gift
Way to success
An obstacle
A blessing
A test
A perspective
A lesson
A weakness
A vulnerability
Whe...
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"the message"
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I was really struggling last week, and had to go to two meetings a day and pray a lot of serious prayer. I won't go into what it was about specifically,, but suffice it to say that it was about getting closer to someone I care about,,, and finding, by surprise, some self-destructive negativ...
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Sometimes
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Sometimes you must keep going.
Life punches you in the stomach.
It knocks your breath out and leaves you bowed and gasping.
You lose a job. . . you must keep going.
You find out you have a serious illness. . .you must keep going.
You have a headache. . . you must keep going.
Sometim...
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Something from "Living Sober"
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"We have found out that anybody who has trouble of any sort related to drinking may have the condition called "alcoholism." This illness strikes without regard for age, creed, sex, intelligence, ethnic background, emotional health, occupation, family situation, stong constitution, ea...
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how do AA 12 steps compare to others? (OA, ACOA..)
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Hello, I'm back again. Hearing you guys speak so highly of working the steps and going to a meeting, I've thought I could benefit from that. I have worked the steps with a sponsor through OA (Overeaters Anonymous) and Alanon for Sex and Love Addicts (my exhusband s/l addict). I've really loved the step...
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Heartache
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Hi, this is my first time entering a post so I guess I'll start with trying to summarize my story.
I went through a divorce 3 years ago. I was married for 14 years. Due to some trying times with custody battles with "JR'S" ex-wife he started drinking. For the last 7 years of our marriage he became a h...
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Denial and some more sharing
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A refusal to comply with or satisfy a request.
A refusal to grant the truth of a statement or allegation; a contradiction.
Law. The opposing by a defendant of an allegation of the plaintiff.
A refusal to accept or believe something, such as a doctrine or belief.
Psychology. An unconscio...
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how do we be honest?
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Where do we get the strength to be honest with others about ourselves, without fear of rejection??? What is the idea behind rigourous honesty?
thank you, mary
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when we stop for another
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Hi guys, as you know, I'm searching myself to see if I'm alcoholic. Someone in a previous reply to me had said she'd stopped for her kids while nursing, and specifically stated she'd done it for someone else (kids). This reminded me of myself now. Since my divorce 7 years ago and raising my son who is 8 on m...
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Honesty
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By being honest with ourselves about what we feel when we are hurt, we learn to accept our feelings and to recover from emotional distress.
Emotional dishonesty is a self betrayal which keeps us from healing emotional wounds and experiencing the inner peace of self-acceptance. Self-acceptan...
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Worried
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When I look back on all these worries I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened.
--Winston Churchill
A rolled-up ball of yarn does not take up much space--it sits, ready to be used when needed. It gets u...
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A new beginning
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Santa Gets Sober
I am an alcoholic; my name is Nicholas. You can call me Nick for short. I always knew I was different from other kids in my neighborhood. See,I was born with this beard, and instead of having a dog like the other guys, I had reindeers for pets.
Most kids like to get things, but I a...
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Hafta to really work daily on this one
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Forgiveness
Forgiveness is the key to peace. Forgiveness is letting go. I often think of it as letting go of the stranglehold we have on a person whose actions we could not control. Whatever it is we are not forgiving, it’s something we can’t change because it’s already happened. We could be waiting...
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A Good Excuse
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A man bought a new Mercedes to celebrate his wife leaving him and was out on the interstate for a nice evening drive.
The top was down, the breeze was blowing through what was left of his hair and he decided to open her up. As the needle jumped up to 80 mph, he suddenly saw flashing red and blue lights beh...
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GUILT
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could someone explain why I feel guilty about not wanting to have my husbands
alcoholic brother and his wife living with us for supposedly a month could go longer.
Now we have never got along and I would have to deal with the BS which drives
me crazier. Now we live in a warmer climate a...
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Thought
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Because you're not what I would have you be, I blind myself to who, in truth, you are.
--Madeleine L'Engle
Sometimes we expect far too much of the people around us, and because no one can ever live up to those expectations, we are almost always disappointed. But wouldn't it be better if we just let...
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Down and out
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Just dropping in to wish you all a good day.
Low Self-Esteem
In simple terms low self-esteem means harboring low opinion about oneself, treating oneself disdainfully, or having a poor image of oneself. People who dislike themselves rarely establish healthy relat...
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One day
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Hi All,
I am having a lousy day. Hope you don't mind me sharing it. I realise it's always more encouraging to read an upbeat message, but the truth is, I don't have them to offer all the time. There is nothing drastically wrong, and the last thing I'm going to do is contemplate drinking... just having a b...
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Just Dropping By....
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Hello to everyone and hoping that good days are going on for each and all of you. I'm happy and grateful to be sober! I can't believe how fast the time goes... sometimes I feel like I'm huffing and puffing to keep up with it. That's what happens when you get oldER.
Hubby and I w...
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Coping With Failure
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Failure vs. Success: Nothing bites us more hurtfully than failure. Especially in case of people with poor self-esteem and low self-confidence, the pain and fear associated with failure is more serious, damaging and debilitating. Failure prevents many unfortunate victims from being true to the...
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zzzzzzzzzz caffine time
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Good morning to all of you today. looks like its another good one in Ontario Canada. 6 inches of snow on the ground-guess Ile put lawn mower back in garage. Me thinks its winter for another 3 months.
Good to hear from you DW. I hope your procedure on Friday goes well, and that youre back up and running s...
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Hey DW??
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Havent heard much from you lately young lady. You doin ok? You gotta a physical
thing going on, on Friday?
Yu know that apartment I was going to plan on moving to the First of February?
It turned into a 4 bedroom home, with 2 bathrooms, double car garage, fireplace,
rec room, nic...
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Clear Thinking
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Clear Thinking
Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.
We didn't res...
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Scary Stuff
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There are times in our lives
When we come across many things
That may scare us, or upset us
But we continue to walk ahead.
As some of these things make us stronger
And others can make us weaker
I find love seems to be the one
That brings out the most fear of all.
For some who have been hur...
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Some more insider stuff
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We know that one very important aspect of being a loving Adult is to set loving boundaries for the Inner Child. Whether or not a boundary is loving depends upon which aspect of you is setting the boundary - the wounded adult or the loving Adult.
The intent of the wounded child-adult in setting a boun...
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Divorce
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Subject: Parents!
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>> An elderly man in Auckland calls his son in Sydney and says, "I
>>hate to
>>ruin your day, but I have to tell you that you mother and I are
>>divorcing,
>>forty five years of misery is enough."
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>>"Pop, what are you talking about?" the son screams.
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Healing
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Wishing you all a great day!! Made a decision to lay out my email on here--re experience strength and hope. Others have done that for me in the past.
Im not God, or can I solve and fix any problems you might have. But i can listen, and understand, and be there for you, as others have been there for me. Im j...
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