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What Has Happened?
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Hello to the group!
My name is Debbie H. and I am a recovering alcoholic with almost 30 years of sobriety. I checked out this site, as I am finding that I have no interest at all to attend AA meetings anymore. I have been to maybe about 8 meetings in the past 15 months. I am questioning...
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Daily Reflections Nov 1
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I CANNOT CHANGE THE WIND It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 My first sponsor told me there were two things to say about prayer and meditation: first, I had to start and sec...
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Principles
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I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure -- try to please everybody. -- Herbert Bayard Swope
Principles are rules or codes of conduct we set for ourselves; like being honest, striving to be on time, and taking responsibility for bills and expenses. It is...
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Reflections for Beginners
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Reflections for Beginners from 'Hour To Hour - The First 30 Days' - by Shelly Marshall the author of 'Day By Day' & other Meditation Books
It doesn't cost a lot of money for us to recover. It costs a lot of time. We have to be diligent and program consciousness from this hour to the ne...
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big book
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There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self- searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we h...
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QUESTION:
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This was brought up in a meeting. I looked up the definitions:
IDENTIFY: To recognize or establish as being a particular person or thing;
COMPARE: to examine (two or more objects, ideas, people, etc.) in order to note similarities and differences...
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Exercise program for Alcoholics
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Monday
Beat around the bush Jump to conclusions Climb the walls Wade through the morning paper
Tuesday Drag my heels Push my luck Make mountains out of mole hills Hit the nail on the head
Wednesday Bend over backwards Jump on the Band Wagon Run around in circles
Thursday Advise Presi...
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coming back home...
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hello my (((friends))),
been a long, lonely, tiring road. worse, worser and the worsest battle. I'm ashamed to say i fell for dang near a year!!! But, thankfully, i made it out alive and i'm here for another day. Thankyou for being here. I missed you's.
love and peace in recovery, Wendy
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Miracles are instantaneous
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Miracles are instantaneous. They cannot be summoned, but come of themselves, usually at unlikely moments to those who least expect them. -- Katherine Anne Porter
Nobody can force us to be in recovery or twist our arm to make us work our program. There might have been times when we wanted someone t...
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Daily Reflections Oct 31
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AVOIDING CONTROVERSY All history affords us the spectacle of striving nations and groups finally torn asunder because they were designed for, or tempted into, controversy. Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the rest of mankind some millennium of...
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Going Through the Opening~OM
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Contracting Before Expanding
Sometimes our lives contract before they expand. We may be working hard on ourselves spiritually, doing good in the world, following our dreams, and wondering why we are still facing constrictions of all kinds-financial, emotional, physical. Perhaps we even fee...
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Walk In Dry Places
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Who is a winner? Staying Sober Newcomers in AA are urged to "stick with the winners." But who is a winner? A winner in AA is one who finds sobriety and represents principles that help others find and maintain sobriety. Any person who can help others is a winner. The losers are people who don't make enough...
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FEAR
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ive decided after much thought to sell my business and move on to something new.ive been thinking that life and the way i look at it has changed.For the first year or two it was all about make up for lost time,prove to every one that i was back on top,work,work work,money money money.I think ive had to have...
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To Doll
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Hey Doll? Take a look at this pic....and let me know, if you can figure out..where it is...:)
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Step number one....From the AA 12 and 12 book...
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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our mi...
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Would you say I have a problem?
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Hi, I'm 20 years old and this is my first post here, and I'm not even sure whether I'm techincally an alcoholic or not.
I'll try and explain when, how and why I drink and then let you make comment.
When I drink? This is usually under one of two conditions. Either when I'm out with my friend...
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Introduction and Question
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Hi everyone. I'm new to the board, and have been sober/clean for 5 years. Was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and not sure how to go about treating it. I see from past posts here that some others face the same decision. I was hoping you'd share your expeirence and solu...
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Daily Reflections Oct 30
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LIVE AND LET LIVE Never since it began has Alcoholics Anonymous been divided by a major controversial issue. Nor has our Fellowship ever publicly taken sides on any question in an embattled world. This, however, has been no earned virtue. It could almost be said that we were born with it. . . . "So long a...
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yo Pytbull
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Hows the snow thing goin up your way...?
Nothing on the ground here...but at 2am ...one couldnt see the front end of the car....was bad...there were 3 of us following ditches on main highways..trying to get Halloween partiers home...
And today doesnt look much better....
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Listening to CD's this morning....
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It's a Sunday morning in....I got the house to myself & I'm in my PJs on this brisk-Florida AM.
So, I'm cleaning up the place (living w/two bacholars-dishes are piled high in the sink) and start looking for Janis in my CD collection.
She was no where to be found.
I scanned over the two ra...
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The Potion
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Acceptance
A magical potion is available to us today. That potion is called acceptance.
We are asked to accept many things: ourselves, as we are; our feelings, needs, desires, choices, and current status of being. Other people, as they are. The status of our relationships with them. Problems....
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Keep It Simple
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****** Each morning puts a man on trail and each evening passes judgment. Ray L. Smith
****** In many ways, the Tenth Step is very natural. We continue to take a personal inventory. And when we're wrong, we promptly admit it. At the end of each day we ask ourselves, "How did my day go?" As we think about o...
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Ten Top Reasons why older people should not go "Trick or Treating"
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10. You get winded from knocking on the door.
9. You hafta have another kid chew the candy for you.
8. You ask for high fiber candy only.
7. When someone drops a candy bar into your bag you loose your balance and fall over.
6. People say "Great Boris Karloff Mask!!" and your'e not wearing a mask.
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Frozen shoulder
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Hi everyone,
Just to say ... I've got a frozen shoulder and can't post as much as I would like to right now.
My boyfriend is here and looking after me and I have absolutely no desire to drink!! So, it could be so very much worse.
Take care and have a great weekend,
Carol
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Hey Everyone, I'm back
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I did not go out, as in to drink or use, I have just been away from the board. I am glad to reconnect. This board does me a world of good and the convenience of sitting at your computer talking to other alkies is unbeatable.
Not much going on with me. Coming up to my fifth year cake.&nbs...
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Ordinary Moments
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ORDINARY MOMENTS
We have our time together
Sometimes we feel bad because we cannot afford all the things we need or want. Whether or not we have all we want, we can get lost in the quest for material possessions and the happiness we think they will bring.
These thoughts can carry us...
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went to an AA convention
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went to my first AA convention tonight... it was really cool... my sponsor had told me it would be so awesome to hear so many people saying the serenity prayer together, but I didn't see what would be so cool about that... but 678 people saying the serenity prayer and the lord's prayer together was just s...
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Night Light
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When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without so much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it--but all that had gone before.--Jacob Riis
Many ti...
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Lightbulbs being turned on..all over the map...
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Putting this on the board as a share...just in case others have, or are dealing with it, in some form or another...
In my case?...the pieces are starting to come together...as to why good marriages and good relationships are doomed for failure...without acceptance and understanding...o...
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Consulting Heart and Mind~OM
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Making Choices From A Place Of Balance
Each of the myriad decisions we make every day has the potential to have a deep impact on our lives. Some choices touch us to our very cores, awakening poignant feelings within us. Others seem at first to be simple but prove to be confusingly complex. We make the b...
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One needs something to believe in
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One needs something to believe in, something for which one can have wholehearted enthusiasm. -- Hannah Senesh
Life offers little if we sit passively in the midst of activity. Involvement is a prerequisite if we are to grow. For our lives' purposes we need enthusiasm; we need enthusiasm in order...
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Soul Perspectives on Letting Go
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Our attachments to people, things and situations are a result of feeling that these people, things and situations give us something that would otherwise be missing in our life. We both get something from such relationships as well as learn lessons of giving. Whatever or whomever we are attached to i...
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Desiderata
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Good morning all. I ran across this some years ago while drying out in a rehab hospital and rediscovered it while going through some records. I hope you may find it as inspiring as I have and do. Enjoy your day!...Tim
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember wha...
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A Time to Be Silent
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A pilot had turned off his radio in order to elude the enemy, but as he came across the channel, he turned it on again and began turning the dial to find the proper frequency, which changed from time to time. His plane was almost out of petrol, and he was terrified of what might happen if he ran out and did not...
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Making Amends......
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Hi to all,
Last week I was going through some hurt feelings and the resulting anger, different but not really that so different, this happened a year ago, and thought I had learned a lesson, but apparently I did not. Speaking of hurt feelings and anger, is at times necessary in my own personal lif...
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Relapse
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Recovery Poem From Darla
There is a monster who lives in my head, He talks to me softly he wants me dead.
He tells me this time I'll stay in control. He tells me not to let anyone know.
He convinces me that no one cares, He whispers the pain is to much to bear.
He tells me how wonderf...
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Daily Reflections Oct 27
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GLOBAL SHARING The only thing that matters is that he is an alcoholic who has found a key to sobriety. These legacies of suffering and of recovery are easily passed among alcoholics, one to the other. This is our gift from God, and its bestowal upon others like us is the one aim that today animates A.A.'s...
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Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem. . . .
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Today's Gift
How easily we love others when we feel self-assured, when we're comfortable in our chosen work, with our families and friends, with our directions in life. But the way isn't always smooth, nor should it be, and for this we can thank God, our protector and mentor. The challenges of a ro...
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AAAGGGGHHH - Where to start
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Hi everyone,
I'ts been a long road as of late. This physical illness has worn me down so bad that every button that I have is exposed at all times. I talked with a member today via email and it only makes sense to post here. I have been so freaking needy since I've become ill. It...
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You love me so much
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You love me so much; you want to put me in your pocket. And I should die there smothered. -- D. H. Lawrence
Adult children often try to control people to keep them from moving away. To ensure that we won't be left alone, we might smother-love them with everything we have.
Of course, we become obse...
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Putting Yourself First
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Putting Yourself First
We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen mask before we help anyone else with theirs. This advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironica...
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Separating the message from the messenger
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This is not an easy concept to come to grips with, or at least it wasn’t for me. When I first got sober I listened to everyone and thought they were border-line saints. They had been sober for so much longer than me and had so much more insight.
I soon saw that all these almost-saints were in fact flawed. W...
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Enabling & Rescuing vs Tough Love
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By Robert Burney
"We cannot begin to make progress in learning to Love ourselves until we start being kind to ourselves in healthy ways. A very important part of being kind to ourselves is learning how to say no, and how to set, and be able to defend, boundaries.
Unconditional Love...
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Daily Reflections Oct 26
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ONE ULTIMATE AUTHORITY For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I am chosen to carry some small responsibility for my fellows, I ask that God grant me the patience, open-mi...
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THE DAILY REPRIEVE
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“BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD” “But for the grace of God, there would have been thousands more convincing demonstrations.” Alcoholics Anonymous, page 25:0 For what it’s worth: All alone, pitiful, ugly death was about to be my end. Instead, fellowship, dignity and a beautiful life are my reality. This mi...
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Canadian eh....
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25 Signs Showing You Might Be Canadian
1. You're not offended by the term "HOMO MILK".
2. You understand the phrase "Could you pass me a serviette, I just dropped my poutine, on the chesterfield."
3. You eat chocolate bars, not candy bars.
4. You drink Pop, not So...
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life!!!
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Talking to a good friend last night who has returned to drinking after five years without a drunk.My heart went out to him sweating,shaking and ashamed and humilated.I could relate to how he was feeling having had several benders before i truly was done.I tried to get him to focus on what he didnt do and...
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Unconditional love
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Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being. -- Erich Fromm
Feeling the need to be perfect to ensure we'll be loved is as familiar as the robin's whistle heralding spring. Am I too fat to be loved? Do people think I'm dumb when I speak...
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Daily Reflections
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A.A.'s HEARTBEAT Without unity, the heart of A.A. would cease to beat; . . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 125 Without unity I would be unable to recover in A.A. on a daily basis. By practicing unity within my group, with other A.A. members and at all levels of this great Fellowship, I receive a pronounced feeling o...
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"Stuff" Hidden In The Closets
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We all have some kind of “Stuff” cluttering our lives. It is so easy for the psychological “Stuff” to accumulate. It can come from childhood disasters, broken relationships, etc. We store this “Stuff” in closets, attics, basements, and garages of our being. On the surface no one can see how we hide al...
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