"My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding." -- Og Mandino   We often expect other people to meet our needs. When they don’t give us what we want, we may feel anger, resentment and even revengeful. Rather than blaming others, we could choose to get in touch with our needs and then fill them ourselves.   "Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame." -- Erica Jong   "Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrong." -- Charlotte Bronte    

I know that when I'm wasting my time and worse,someone else's by playing the blame game, and "taking their inventory" as I perceive it, that usually means I am not looking at what a sorry schmuck I am, and I have to take stock of my own crap, first,  of which there can be an abundance ...there's a time to let go and get on with your own life instead of working out one's own shortcomings on others. t,  Wren