You cannot stop thoughts like that, you can refuse to entertain them, not staring at them in horrified fasination. Think of it this way, if you where the person who would to be like that, you wouldnt give a damn. Working the program and growing will begin to starve them out.
Just want to put your mind at ease. That is the most natural human response.
I sat down with my children, 22 years ago, to tell them just that, I remember being quite surprised, I could sense the ONLY thing they wanted to do was get up and Get out of the room, they were in their late teens, and had always felt very close to them, so their actions did kind of surprise me. it is overwhelming news, and the fear that comes up is very natural, really, I think it is the fear that that word itself can bring, "What about me, am I going to have to go without you."
Please, please do not get into thinking that this is a Selfish thing, I had done some research on the subject. When I found out I had to deal with this, I used the "Research" approach to overcome the feeling of Frozen Fear, and it worked, makes it "right sized".
And what you just described, as how you reacted, is in the Books, it is the most natural of responses.
I will say a Prayer for your Mom, and also for you, these are difficult times. And hope so much that she will be alright.
your concern here is perfectly natural, having feelings is the main thing. i lost my mother to cancer in feb, i know just how you feel, having feelings isnt alway a character defect, hang in there i am thinking of you. wagon
I don't call that being selfish. You are bound to be in shock having received news like that. I don't have any personal experience, but I do think that your reaction is perfectly normal. As Wagon said, having feelings aren't always a character defect.
Please look after yourself. You are very much in my thoughts.
Take care,
Carol
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Awwwww, hun, I'm so sorry about your mother...........This is a huge deal. No one (with a heart) could honestly say they wouldn't have the same thought. Her illness IS going to impact you and it's OK for you to wonder how. Keep it in perspective and you'll be just fine.
(((((HUGS))))) & prayers.
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