A lot good posts about relationships the last couple of days. Making me take some personal inventory instead of someone else's for a change. Good thing yes, but ouch. Feels like pulling a scab off.
I like the joke about the two A's on their second date - that was pretty much me and my ex husband. It was doomed from the start but we managed to drag it out for 11 years.
I've got a bad habit of justifying my own bad actions because the other person's were worse. That needs to stop. I hope to have a good relationship at some point in my life but I see I have a lot of work to do on myself before that's ever going to happen.
P.S. - I went out to dinner tonight for business. Everyone else was drinking but I had diet Coke. Didn't feel sorry myself or even want to drink. A little bit uncomfortable but I got over it.
Wow Lizzy, congratulations!! Sounds like old HP was on your side tonight.
The last company I worked for did not allow the serving of alcohol at any functions or meetings. That was pretty cool. I believe it was all about a liability thing.
My ex BF, an alanon to boot, was in management and loved to pour alcohol down his employees' throats.. what a sick-o!!
Anyhoo, there I go, taking someone else's inventory... thx for the reminder. Geese, I am a quick forgetter!! Take care.
Well done on being fine over the business dinner. I remember the first time that I went out and wasn't drinking. I didn't want to drink, but I felt uncomfortable, too.
I used to justify my bad actions by comparing them with everybody else's. I was the world's worst at doing that. I remember once being out and barely able to walk and talk, and yet thinking that it was fine because another woman that we were out with had had an argument with her husband in public. I couldn't have been that bad because I hadn't done that! What totally screwed up thinking! I thank my HP that so much is changing in my life now.
Thank you for reminding me just how bad it was and still could be if I drink again.
Take care,
Carol
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I've got a bad habit of justifying my own bad actions because the other person's were worse. .
Progress not perfection. The thing that tickles me the most about this is most people do this, not just us in the program! So aren't we very blessed that as Alcoholics we can now recognize it........For me, recognizing my character defect is half the battle ~ More shall be revealed........
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Wow, this was a great reminder of how when we are having a Problem with someone, anyone, all we need to do is go Look in the Mirror, how little did we know that when we gave up the Blame Game, just how FREEING it would be.
and have to say I love seeing your MIP Name, just looking as Happy Me, brings my mood up, a few decimals.
And what a triumph to be at a dinner and just say, "No thanks" Those are our Big Moments, eh?