hi There Phil,

This was an interesting Post.

" We’re driven by pleasing everybody and doing everything perfect. These are dragons of the mind."

Made this alke feel pretty good, cause I definitely do not have to please everybody, ANYMORE, and I do not do ANYTHING perfectly.

Hope this means I get an "A", but when I thought about it, I don't think I'll wait for someone to give me an "A". I just gave myself an "A+" (Smile)

As to the "Drivers"

Be perfect..............NOPE......Even Dislike the word Perfect, Intensely

Please everybody...........NOPE.....Too exhausting.... and what waste of time!

Try harder.............NOPE...............and do the Best I can do, and accept my limits.

Be strong..........NOPE............I enjoy being vulnerable.

Hurry up.........NOPE........That is even Laughable!

So now I can clearly see that I get an "A+++++" (Another Smile)

NOW THE BIG PROBLEM COMES UP, WHY CAN'T I GET MY DRIVERS ON MY COMPUTER TO FUNCTION ??????????????? Oh Well that is maybe asking for the impossible.......After all I have not had to use a hammer on it ONCE.

Hugs, Toni

Most of the time these five dragons/demons are pulling at me in all different directions, at the same time.  I guess "try harder" is the main instigator.  I always feel that I have to "try harder" to be "perfect" and "please everyone". Then if I don't meet "try harder"  expectations then I feel like a major failure so then the "hurry up" and "be strong" kicks in.  When I do put on a good front of "being strong" it usually backfires on me because I know that everyone can see right through it.  When these five fail then the biggest one of them all comes for a visit and that one is called "depression".  It is here for a long visit, this time - I can't find a new address for it.  Any suggestions - anyone! 

Hi jeannie Pie,

i am going to try to remember something I heard a long time ago, so bare with me here.

The Principles of Perfection:

I am a perfectionist for this reason. I will and do set unrealistic goals for myself, kind of with a perfectionist view of how I should go about something. (Probably coming from Family of Origin,................. garbage)

Well, I will spin in this, trip and fall, fall short of any sort of perfectionistic standards I have set for myself, being strong, perfectly, trying harder, perfectly, and hurrying up, in a perfect way too.

Then when all these fail, and fail miserably due to my expectations, I will once again be rendered this useless and worthless person, that very deep down, I believe I know I REALLY AM.

It is what I call a "Set up for going backwards, into the throws of low self-esteem".

One continueous, circular battle that will all ways leave you at the starting point of no, or low self esteen.


setting up a standard, that you already know you can not acquire, is very self-defeating, and when we let go of our Big Expectations of ourselves, and accept who we really are, with our limits, we all have them, as well as all the wonderful, God Given attributes that we all do possess. I sure believe that you have them Jeannie, I see them all the time, in you, your kindness, your sweetness, your willingness, your loving nature, you compassion for others. We (I) see all these things in you, and Prayer that you will see them too. You are quite a person, jeannie, watch you go through a great stuggle, and survive that struggle. Free at last.

God Bless you dear.

Toni

Now maybe you have an understanding of why I have an Intense Dislike for the word Perfect.

Makes me think of those days when I did not feel so "good" about myself, and a dear friend used to say to me, "Yoo Hoo.... Toni, " God does not make Junk"