Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgment or condemnation of the person or situation from which we are detaching. Separating ourselves from the adverse affects of another person’s behavior* can be a means of detaching: This does not necessarily require physical separation. Detachment can help us look at our situations realistically and objectively.
Detachment allows us to let go of our obsession with another’s behavior and begin to lead happier and more manageable lives, lives with dignity and rights, lives guided by a Power greater than ourselves. We can still Love the person without liking the behavior. ~ Al-Anon Family Groups
Detachment means you can stop: Suffering because of the actions or reactions of other people Allowing yourself to be used or abused by others Doing for others what they can do for themselves Manipulating situations so others will eat, got to bed, pay bills, exercise, or do whatever you think they “should” do. Covering up for another’s mistakes or misdeeds Creating A Crisis Preventing a crisis if it is in the natural course of events
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Thought For The Day
"Isolation is the dark room, where we develop our negatives"
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Life is short..Live it sober to the fullest...One day at a time...
Thank You for this wonderful reminder, i came in as a severe Codenpendant. Learned that Codepency can Kill, just like Alcholism, so did a lot of work to release myself and relearn how to become, Inter-Dependant. Huge changes occurred.
And with that Inter-Dependance learned how to begin doing that Loving Detachment stuff, when you put 100% of yourself into something that just won't work in a relationship,or any of the other things that come up in life, can surrender to the acceptance and the failure of this effort, and discover how to lovingly detach. Noticed I could not detach with any anger, it had to come with a quiet resolution of forgiveness and surrendering. And then comes that oh so wonderful ability to just give it to God, and surrender and detach with love.
For me this process took a long time and a lot of work, well worth the work, and a big part in the Recovery Process. We give up Alcohol, and realize that that is only the tip of the iceburg. We have to change E V E R Y T H I N G. And with the guidance of a Higher Power, this is accomplished, that is not correct, it never gets really accomplished, hence the growth is a never ending thing, one of the True Blessing of this Program, I always want to remain a humble student with the new lesson in front of me. My Higher Power that I choose to call God, is the Teacher. "When the student is ready, the Lesson will appear" has alway been a favorite thought, as it applies to this Process.
The 12 Steps of Recovery were applied to Drinking in the first 2 years, and the 12 Step lead us to continue that 12 Step work, continuously, working on all other aspects of our lives. Thank God, this is a Program of constant growth. Very Blessed to be in this AA program that asks that you keep peeling away the onion, and it is one BIG onion, because everytime one layer comes off, what do we see, still so many, many, many more layers. I now call it the Prepetual Onion (Smile)
Thanks for Posting this my friend, and hope your day has been managable, under the circumstances of your intense schedule and Life on Life's terms issues.
