"The most effective means of achieving self-acceptance is through applying the Twelve Steps of recovery."IP No. 19, "Self-Acceptance"Most of us came to recovery without much self-acceptance. We looked at the havoc we had wreaked in our active addiction, and we loathed ourselves. We had difficulty accepting our past and the self-image produced by it.Self-acceptance comes more quickly when we first accept that we have a disease called addiction, because it's easier to accept ourselves as sick people than as bad people. And the easier it is to accept ourselves, the easier it becomes to accept responsibility for ourselves.
ME______________ yes, the STEPS, and inner child work, original pain work, along with step 4, to accept me, this is what happened to me..and i am a miracle to have survived it.....i survived...so i can accept me......i did so many self fabotaging thngs, it was hard to love me.....i took over where the perp left off
ME__________sadly, i hated me, wanted to destroy me.....i mean if i messed up something, i had the awful urge to hurt me......i used to beat my head with my fists...pull my hair...pinch my skin.......curse me.....the anger/ rage, i was taking out on me......now when that anger comes up and i know it is "old stuff" i curse the abuser's sorry soul...beat the chair as i curse him....i REdirect the anger WHERE it belongs....NOT on me, but to the source of the evil......that wasn't my inventory it was HIS, and now i put that responsibility SQUARELY on his shoulders......yes, i did things to hurt me over the self loathing i felt.....and i am making amends to me by getting help--working the program---REparenting me/ REprogramming me/ treating me like a human being/ taking care of me.....yes, i am making amends, becuz deep within either i had some love for me, or it was my higher self kicking in and saying "hey u may not love u, but i do, and we are getting into recovery and STAYING in it"......this is the ONLY thing i have EVER stuck with......most stuff i would try, get tired of no results, and abandone it......not this......
ME_________i had gr8 difficulty accepting my past, myself, my self worth, self acceptance.......now i can do it better cuz i am just "one of many" injured souls who is in recovery DOING something about her injuries........i am sick, not bad.....funny this post says exactly what i was saying to my sister over last weekend.....i am sick, thats all
We achieve self-acceptance through the process of ongoing recovery. Working the Twelve Steps teaches us to accept ourselves and our lives. Spiritual principles like surrender, honesty, faith, and humility help relieve us of the burden of our past mistakes. Our attitude changes with the application of these principles in our daily lives. Self-acceptance grows as we grow in recovery.Just for today: Self-acceptance is a process set in motion by the Twelve Steps. Today, I will trust the process, practice the steps, and learn to better accept myself.
ME_____________yes, working on me, my symptoms, original pain and BIG focus on managing me NOW, NEW coping skills, NEW ways to think/ act......new perception of me, my karma......i am comming to making my peace with my life, i just want to go on and do what i can do for the rest of my life.........i wold rather say "detaching" than surrender, total honesty, total openess, total willingness, faith is going to take more time and "seeing is believing" for me.....humility, realizing that i need help...i cannot do this w/out a power higher than me to help.....i accept me better......i really do....i mean i was below zero, now u can actually see me on the richter scale......i just show up and trust in the program....it is a decision.....work the steps.......work on me.......
Rosie, everything you said, in relation to the quotes, is so true for so many of us. It took a long long time for me to realize that I did things as a result of my disease, and not because I am a naturally "bad" person. To learn to care enough about myself to take the steps needed to learn self acceptance, to take the negatives that haunted me from my past and put them where they belonged. I learned I could take responsibility for my past actions without wanting to hang myself from the dormers. I am not ever going to be perfect. I am going to make mistakes, bad decisions, whatever, every day because I am a human, and often governed by inner fears. If we were perfect from the get go, we would have nothing to work towards. No goals for self empowerment. All I can do when I screw up today is examine what went wrong, what my fears and motives were, make amends when necessary, and stay aware that I don't keep repeating that screw up over and over. Like we talked about a few days back---each day, a new beginning. I think you're doing great. You're self honesty is inspiring for me. Wren
"Not facing our fears keeps us from making meaningful and loving connections with others. Fear says we are separate and we need to be defensive. It says that we cannot trust others and let them in. Fear blocks us from loving. Fear and love cannot occupy the same space. Fear is rooted in the personality, love within the soul.
The power to heal our wounds and face our fears is not found in the personality. It comes from our very essence, the soul within." ~Andrew Schneider
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Funny, isn't it, how friends and a Power greater than ourselves can neutralize nightmares?
Something I've been told over and over..........we're not bad people trying to get good, we're sick people trying to get well. I can identify with you when you talked about self-hatred and all the pain. I still struggle with loving myself. I can forgive other people for wrongs done, but when it comes to forgiving me it's a whole different ball game. This is really tough. Hopefully it will get easier with time. Take care.
wow!!! Just the other day I was sayin, I dont have to prove anything to anyone, usually I have to prove things to myself.........because I think alot of times, o u cant do that, u will never finish it......... recently I have enrolled in college,went back to school after 10 yrs of trying to get my G.E.D havent been to school in like 20 yrs and I am having to learn alot........but when I accomplish things now the feeling of accomplishment is sometimes over whelming and I find myself alone and emotional. And today I realized, I dont trust myself, and so all day I have been stressing over this speech I gotta do. Im sober today!!! Thanx for lettin me share!
