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hello all. My name is Michael and i am an alcoholic. I am married with two children ages 5 and 6. I am 27 years old from tennessee. my beer drinking habits are ruining my family and my life. I am in need of support and prayers. I found this message board today as if God directed me here. Thanks for any advise or words of encouragement.

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Howdy..and welcome...


Ile just share what they suggested to me..when I sobered up...


"Dont pick up a drink today,, one day at a time...get a sponsor...and go to AA meetings..."


We have a 12 step recovery program..that is suggested...


The First step, in detail is posted below....


We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our minds into such an obsession for destructive drinking that only an act of Providence can remove it from us. No other kind of bankruptcy is like this one. Alcohol, now become the rapacious creditor, bleeds us of all self-sufficiency and all will to resist its demands. Once this stark fact is accepted, our bankruptcy as going human concerns is complete. But upon entering A.A. we soon take quite another view of this absolute humiliation. We perceive that only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps toward liberation and strength. Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built. We know that little good can come to any alcoholic who joins A.A. unless he has first accepted his devastating weakness and all its consequences. Until he so humbles himself, his sobriety--if any--will be precarious. Of real happiness he will find none at all. Proved beyond doubt by an immense experience, this is one of the facts of A.A. life. The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered. When first challenged to admit defeat, most of us revolted. We had approached A.A. expecting to be taught self-confidence. Then we had been told that so far as alcohol is concerned, self-confidence was no good whatever; in fact, it was a total liability. Our sponsors declared that we were the victims of a mental obsession so subtly powerful that no amount of human willpower could break it. There was, they said, no such thing as the personal conquest of this compulsion by the unaided will. Relentlessly deepening our dilemma, our sponsors pointed out our increasing sensitivity to alcohol--an allergy, they called it. The tyrant alcohol wielded a double-edged sword over us: first we were smitten by an insane urge that condemned us to go on drinking, and then by an allergy of the body that insured we would ultimately destroy ourselves in the process. Few indeed were those who, so assailed, had ever won through in single-handed combat. It was a statistical fact that alcoholics almost never recovered on their own resources. And this had been true, apparently, ever since man had first crushed grapes. In A.A.'s pioneering time, none but the most desperate cases could swallow and digest this unpalatable truth. Even these "last-gaspers" often had difficulty in realizing how hopeless they actually were. But a few did, and when these laid hold of A.A. principles with all the fervor with which the drowning seize life preservers, they almost invariably got well. That is why the first edition of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous," published when our membership was small, dealt with low-bottom cases only. Many less desperate alcoholics tried A.A., but did not succeed because they could not make the admission of hopelessness. It is a tremendous satisfaction to record that in the following years this changed. Alcoholics who still had their health, their families, their jobs, and even two cars in the garage, began to recognize their alcoholism. As this trend grew, they were joined by young people who were scarcely more than potential alcoholics. They were spared that last ten or fifteen years of literal hell the rest of us had gone through. Since Step One requires an admission that our lives have become unmanageable, how could people such as these take this Step? It was obviously necessary to raise the bottom the rest of us had hit to the point where it would hit them. By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression. To the doubters we could say, "Perhaps you're not an alcoholic after all. Why don't you try some more controlled drinking, bearing in mind meanwhile what we have told you about alcoholism?" This attitude brought immediate and practical results. It was then discovered that when one alcoholic had planted in the mind of another the true nature of his malady, that person could never be the same again. Following every spree, he would say to himself, "Maybe those A.A.'s were right..." After a few such experiences, often years before the onset of extreme difficulties, he would return to us convinced. He had hit bottom as truly as any of us. John Barleycorn himself had become our best advocate. Why all this insistence that every A.A. must hit bottom first? The answer is that few people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom. For practicing A.A.'s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions that almost no alcoholic who is still drinking can dream of taking. Who wishes to be rigorously honest and tolerant? Who wants to confess his faults to another and make restitution for harm done? Who cares anything about a Higher Power, let alone meditation and prayer? Who wants to sacrifice time and energy in trying to carry A.A.'s message to the next sufferer? No, the average alcoholic, self-centered in the extreme, doesn't care for this prospect--unless he has to do these things in order to stay alive himself. Under the lash of alcoholism, we are driven to A.A., and there we discover the fatal nature of our situation. Then, and only then, do we become as open-minded to conviction and as willing to listen as the dying can be. We stand ready to do anything which will lift the merciless obsession from us.


 



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Look up Alcoholics Anonymous in your phone book, give them a call and who ever answers the phone tell them exactly what you posted here.........don't drink.......pray.......

-- Edited by Doll at 11:31, 2006-04-20

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Hi Country,


and Welcome to this Recovery Board.  My name is Toni, and I am an Alcoholic Addict.


Cannot improve on what Phil's suggestions were, and Doll's as far as picking the Phone and getting in touch with you local AA.


The Meetings are the Biggy.  If you can get to one today, that is a great starting point.


We are all happy you are here, and I share you opinion, I found this Board, when I was Praying for some help. 


Looking forward to getting to know you, here.   GOOD WORK!


Toni


WELCOME!



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Hello Michael. I'm Chris and I'm an alcoholic from the UK.


Welcome here, glad that you found us, hope you stay around. This board is a great place for help, information, thoughts on the desease and support.


Thats all I've got to add.


 


Bye for now


Best wishes


 


Chris.



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hey michael, i am rosie, and i am alkie too....welcome to this board.....LOTS of love here....i really feel at home posting here....


u r welcomed here,  AS U R......so  again, welcome,  rosie



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Welcome Michael, good luck and I hope you can make it to an AA meeting and I hope you will find there what I did, Love, support and understanding. This is an awful illness but there is a solution and no matter what has happened before you have a chance to turn it all around. Good luck. Love from Trudi 

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Hi Mike,


Getting sober is a great experience. If your an alky like me it is important to get to meetings daily and follow suggestions without thought. My best thinking got me drunk and strung out. I have to rely on other people now to help with my distorted thinking process. Alcoholism is a disease. It's the only disease that will tell you everything is alright, just have another drink and your problems will go away. Wish you the best.



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Hey Country-

It gets better. I recommend trying to find a face to face meeting and a sponsor.

Take Care,
JB

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We're here to help you, and now you are in our prayers. The 12 steps are principles that we put in use in our lives. If we do this continuously we can defeat our faults in this area, and in our living. It does work. The only thing that has worked for me, and I tried countless ways to "control" my drinking. Hang around here, and go to meetings. Miracles are in the making. Have one! ....-Paul

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Hello Michael - Name is Jeannie and I am an alcoholic from Canada.  Very nice to have you with us.  You will find that there is a lot of kind, caring and most of all loving people here.  I have  been in this program for eight months and I have discovered that the people who are in this program and on this board are genuine.  So here is a big


                                                        WELCOME 


Jeannie



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