Real love is like holding an egg in your hand. The tighter you squeeze, the more you lose. Ron P.
When we learn to love the beauty & gifts of others as separate from us, healthy relationships can flourish. Control is the enemy of love & at the heart of our painful relationships is usually one person trying to change another.
When we let it, love grows into a flower of unsurpassed beauty. When we trust enough to allow our loved ones to really be themselves & make their own decisions, we open the door to intimacy. Nothing is more loving than feeling free to live without criticism from our partner.
Learning to love someone better challenges us. It isn’t easy & we run up against our deepest fears of rejection, inadequacy & loss of control. But these are things we don't want to bring to a relationship anyway.
The work we do to improve our own health is the most important task in our lives. Part of this work is to let others do the same for themselves. When we can begin to do this, we are beginning to be ready to reap the rewards of real love.
Today help me let go of others, especially those I love.
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The first act of bad faith consists of evading what one cannot evade, of evading what one is. Jean-Paul Sartre
When did we learn to pretend to be other than we were? When did we learn that what or who we were wasn’t good enough — that we could never do or say or be enough?
We learned in childhood, as did our parents & their parents as well. Wearing a mask was a habit that evolved into becoming that mask, while our real selves disappeared.
In many ways, our real selves are still untested. But unlike the old days when they’d emerge only under pressure, we now try our real selves on like new clothes — first in a locked room when no one’s looking; later, in the open air & finally, with other people.
Being who we are is scary & strange & awkward at first, but it is an act of faith, one that builds upon the next act. These acts of faith are the process that is our recovery.
Today help me show my real face, if only for a moment.
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The first act of bad faith consists of evading what one cannot evade, of evading what one is. Jean-Paul Sartre
This part was the best part, small brief inventory, I consider it to be the exact opposite of Acceptance, and of doing His Will, not mine. So I am going to definitely put on my Frig. and a check and balance to " Am I Living in Acceptance" Cause sometimes I'm not. (Confession - oh well, they say it's good for the soul) ugh, ugh.
Love and a Hug this morning, and you'll be happy to know that what woke me up this morning was a huge Thunderstorm, making So much noise, the scary kind. Well, maybe not happy, but will bring a little smile, I'll bet.
So from the Sunny Shores of California, just not today. Now it's coming down in Buckets! Worst storm of the year, in April?????
Reading this has made me realize that the mask that I was wearing is being chipped away. Yes I agree that there are still parts still hanging around that will more than likely be there for a long time but my friends, family and co-workers have noticed a big change in me. They have noticed that I am much happier now and I laugh, smile more. There was a gentle man at the meeting last night who said to me that even though we haven't been at the same meetings at the same time that he has noticed a change for the better in me. That made me feel really good - put a big smile on my face. I guess I am starting to love myself! Just my share.
Later - Jeannie
-- Edited by jeannie at 12:09, 2006-04-05
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phil this is great, i notice that i am now willing to "let go--let God" and things DO come easier....relationships, yes, and even events......i love the squeezing the egg....boy i did that so bad b4 recovery----- fighting and resisting, holding on with clenched hands......this program is really changing my life....even with this f.o.o. and inner child pain, i can see progress...........thanks, phil, hope U R having a sober and gr8 one!!! rosie
