I am jumping over from the Alanon board to gain some insight. I have to ask why did my A quit having sex with me? He moved out in June. Said he didn't love me, never did. Life's too short. I am not happy in this relationship. He hasn't drank in over 20 years. He has other addictions and fixations. He worked the program years ago and has said that he is giving in to his disease. Up to the end he said how great sex was with me. He won't ask for anything from me and will rarely hug me. I ask because I miss him and the closeness we use to have or I thought that we had. I try to work my program and want to miracle of emotional sobriety.
I'm sorry that things are going badly in your relatioship. I don't think there is anything more I can say at this point. I don't know the person, so I don't know why he is doing the things he is doing. We are not all the same, and have different personalities and situations. I'm glad to hear that you are in alanon, and I hope that that is helpful to you in dealing with these difficult things.
God bless you,
amanda
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I guess this happens weather your alcoholic or not. People or 1 person grows apart from the other. I know my daughter is going thru something like this. She is the one who wants to leave.
I can really relate to that, Phil. ACoA has helped me to understand myself, and actually my also ACoA parents,,, and I participate in that as well as AA. A lot of us alcoholics come from alcoholic and dysfunctional families,,, and we have developed survival skills instead of social skills.
May the Supreme Being bless you all,
amanda
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Sorry to see you struggling with this. have been married twice, well I really feel that I only been married once. The second one was a drug and alcohol induced "Lust relationship", never a marriage. He was always high on Pot, and I was alway high on drinking - so go figure, eh? We were in a Marriage, so to speak, but were never present for the whole thing - wonder why it didnt work???? Just kidding.
Dont have any answers for you, i am not in a relationship. had so many of those, I call it now the "R" word. But they are risks for sure. Worth taking a risk, that is always a personal thing.
Some people are Blessed with long term Loving relationship, and I envy them, how great it would be to have a loving partner. But I accept the cards I have been delt, and look for the Positives in a "Solo" life. "Wide my World, narrow my bed" is a line from a song I always remember. And I can and do find joy in a solitary life. peaceful. More time to be with God, as i understand God.
We must always look for the Gifts that are given. And hopefully you will someday find a gift somewhere in this. But I do feel sorry for the pain this Alcoholic has caused you, hope you are feeling a little better today.