Pride works from within; it is the direct appreciation of oneself. --Arthur Schopenhauer
Pride, like all emotions, has two faces: one healthy and one sick. It is our challenge to use the healthy side well. Sick pride fills us with ourselves, looks down on others, and has no room for generosity. Healthy pride is heavy with humility. If we can feel joyful when we succeed, and tell others about it honestly, we are not being boastful.
Sick pride often keeps us from doing things because we are too proud to ask for help when we need it, or too proud to risk failure, or too proud to do anything that might not turn out perfect.
Healthy pride about our greatest victories always comes with the awareness that we did not do it all by ourselves. We had the aid, advice, and encouragement of loved ones. In all things that really count, we never walk alone. Even those who claim pride is not a virtue admit that it is the parent of many virtues.
What makes me proud of myself today? --------------- Stopping Victimization
Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization.
Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and. more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
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Easy Does it..Keep It Simple..Let Go and Let God..
Stopping Victimization Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us. We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness. We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization. Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and. more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
i think i was hanging onto the "victim" mentality out of fear of "ok if i am no longer a victim...that means i gotta DO something and MAYBE be responsible------scary thought for someone who was trained to be victim and a "learned helplessness"------ like being "pitied" justified me somehow-- now?? i want to walk through all this crap , so i can get beyond it.....yeah, i fear failure and sucess, but i am becomming able to "kiss my fears" and after thinking---prayer/meditation, etc, i can now take some risks....GOOD risks, and high percentage risks, but still some risk....and if i goof?? its ok!! i am no longer devestated with my failures......oh i am not going to plunk down my savings on the lottery or something......i am going to take "conservative" risks, but for me?? thats pretty good--- becuz b4, i did NOTHING...i was frozen in fear......how would i handle life if it ever DID get better??? being victim/ misery was "comfortable---familiar" boy that really makes me sad to think how "trained" i was to be "down" all the time............thanks for great share---rosie
