He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city."--Proverbs 16:32
Anger is an appropriate response to physical danger and pain. Anger is not an appropriate response to mental, ego, or self-esteem danger and pain. Anger is about hurt. Anger is about hurt that can be actual, imaginary, or potential. The hurt can be vicarious, that is, about others rather than self. The three steps of anger: hurt to anxiety to anger. Anger is about anxiety about hurt. Anger is problem-solving anxiety about hurt.
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Easy Does it..Keep It Simple..Let Go and Let God..
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment."--Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, page 449 (The Big Book) "Easy Does It."--AA "Take Life One Day at a Time."--AA "Let Go and Let God."--AA "Live and Let Live."--AA "Turn it over."--AA "Just for today."--AA "Live life on life's terms."--AA "I cannot afford resentments."--AA "Detach with love."--Al-Anon "I didn't cause it. I can't change it. I can't control it."--Al-Anon "Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace."--Buddha "God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me."--Anonymous
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Easy Does it..Keep It Simple..Let Go and Let God..
oh wow!!! phil, i was exploding with rage over my life, and i knew, somehow i knew it was based on hurt.....and i believe, too, that anger is a FEAR based emotion......first i was frightened/ helpless feeling over my circumstances than the ANGER/RAGE came in as a result of it.........thanks for this very thought provoking share...........i am doin ok, hang in there, hope U R doing great!!!!!!! see ya/ rosie
