We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised physical and financial security, a sense of belonging, continuity and comfort. The old model has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
The old rules don’t work anymore! We cannot continue to depend on traditional, deeply ingrained beliefs, expectations and assumptions about relationships. We need to stop building the most important relationships of our lives on outdated beliefs, destructive myths, unrealistic expectations, faulty assumptions and un-negotiated roles and responsibilities.
Modern partners are concerned with:
Living their vision
Love of self
Deepening emotional intimacy
Having shared values
Commitment to living in authenticity
Willingness to honor the fires of passion that burn inside
Couples are demanding more intimacy and insisting on supporting each other to live their best “individual” life. At the same time, contemporary partners are committed to co-creating deeply meaningful relationships that provide:
Safe havens to be one’s most vulnerable self
Open to the most sacred feelings shared with another
Connections defined by joy and the hopes of a future that will be a lasting testament of their love and commitment.
A big challenge for partners today in committing to another person is the potential loss of personal identity and giving up personal hopes and dreams. Those losses would have been a virtual certainty in the old model of marriage and relationships.
Not so today! Contemporary men and women are ready to honor their individual needs and create partnerships that honor their deeper selves; create committed, functional relationships that deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection; and develop skills, rituals, and practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection with each other!
Only you can make it happen!
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Thanks for both post Phil, the first one is something to work towards. The last one, well, I can't seem to find my broom, lost it last year ...so I won't be going out trick or treating tonight.
Have a grateful sober day and don't eat to much candy. Do they celebrate Halloween in Canada?
Morning Gammy. Yes. Halloween is a big deal up here. The big kids, and little kids--do the dressup thing, and by the look of some of the front yards.... ghosts and lights hanging from trees--.
This will be the first year Im not doing it. Used to put on the masks, and hide behind trees, and scare the livin bee jee sus outa some of them. It was a lotta fun.
Retired..... My kids are grown up now--but will still dress up and go out. Im going to a meeting. Thats scary enough.:)
The Christmas thing is a biggy too. Had over 700 lights up last year. Extreems hu? And Santy Clause has left the building.
This year there might be 100 lights..... Moderation... yu know.:)
Have a good one.
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Hi Cherei.:) I wait till the girls go to bed... then I raid the bags..as they wonder the next morning, as to why their bags shrunk--Ile just look at them both, with that dumb look on my face, and answer "Musta been the cat" lol Keep Smilin!!
Rosie? I try to keep a low profile.:) got too much attention, when I drank.
God works through people. We all are a part of that. You are a part of that. Thanks for being here, for us... as we are for you.
Happy Halloweeny!!
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rosie