There's not enough time or space here to tell of all the problems we've had with my step-daughter. Just to give a idea I had her prosecuted on a 4 yr defered felony last year and she blew that, did 30 days and had her probation revoked and lost her kids....
She's been pretty much homeless for the last year or more, bouncing from one house to another, burning her bridges all along the way....
Last Wednesday she came home begging for us to let her move back home and I turned her away. She came back Thursday for the same and I did the same.... I felt like crap but.....
Well, I answer the phone this morning and It's my step-daughter begging for me to come and get her... She's drunk and high and hysterical and no place to go... I got dressed and went looking for her. She couldn't even tell me exactly where she was...
I finally find her, a soaking wet, a drowned rat huddled up against a building trying to get out of the driving rain and 40 degree temps.... All her so-called friends left her....
I get her into the car and she promptly pulls a pint of Southern Comfort out of her pocket and I freak out, take it away from her and pour it into a trash can....
Getting her home we get her into some dry clothes, something to eat and get her to bed....
Through all of this I'm finding a positive, even if it's just for me.... I thank God I was sober and was able to go and get her and bring her to safety.
I'm a re-lapser, stepped on a landmine four years ago after 11 yrs sober and blew my life apart.... I'm back into the program now. Today I'm 18 days sober and feel grateful I was sober so I could help J.
I'm going to a NA/SA speaker meeting tonight and am going to try to get J to come with me.... Hopefully she'll come.... Maybe, just maybe she hit rock bottom this time....
I am sorry sorry youre going through such tough times with your daughter. Im sure it just breaks your heart! My dad went through a similar thing with my brother. Like Dean says, unless she goes through a treament center her chances at recovery might be slim. My brother ended up in rehab then a 1/2 way house. Today I am proud to say he is clean over a year and is starting his own tree cutting service! Talk about a miracle!! To top it off I think he's even my dads favorite!!! lol
Prayers are with you! Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Well, now I just feel plain silly for my complaints......Thank you for putting things into perspective today........I said a prayer "J" and you all will come out on the other side of this really soon.
((((Hugs)))) and prayers.
((((Lani))))
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Hey Jim, You are THE BEST thing she can be around right now. It my not be immediate, but if you can just expose her to the program, and she sees you at peace, it will work on her over time. Lets hope she is lucky enough to "get it" young, but if not, just your example will help her over time. Thats what my parents did for me. I was pretty wild and kicked out a few times and left on my own a few times, but the exposure to the peace my parents had acquired over the years was what drew me back! Good Luck! Tom
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Jim, Your daughter sounds JUST like the old me. Just like me. And your telling us what has been going on tonight has helped me a little more to appreciate what my family had done for me over the years. My last drunk did not have any legal consequences, but I feel I was DONE. The love and acceptance WITHOUT enabling which I was shown by my family after "YET ANOTHER ROUND" made all the difference in those first days and weeks.
Blessings to you and your family tonight, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. You have my thoughts and prayers tonight!!
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