Characteristic of the so-called typical alcoholic is a narcissistic egocentric core, dominated by feelings of omnipotence, intent on maintaining at all costs its inner integrity.... Inwardly the alcoholic brooks no control from man or God. He, the alcoholic, is and must be the master of his destiny. He will fight to the end to preserve that position. A.A. COMES OF AGE, p.311
The great mystery is: "Why do some of us die alcoholic deaths, fighting to preserve the 'independence' of our ego, while others seem to sober up effortlessly in A.A.?" Help from a Higher Power, the gift of sobriety, came to me when an otherwise unexplained desire to stop drinking coincided with my willingness to accept the suggestions of the men and women of A.A. I had to surrender, for only by reaching out to God and my fellows could I be rescued.
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
I'd like to meet the person who can "sober up effortlessly"!!!!!!!!
My desire to quit drinking came fairly easy after I was truly willing to ask for help! The rest, a daily maintainence program is necessary!!!! Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
I'd like to meet the person who can "sober up effortlessly"!!!!!!!!
Drinking took a LOT of "effort" for me..... It was exhausting trying to hide the evidence, trying to "act" sober, trying to NOT drink till the weekend or when I was off the next day, trying to come up with a good reason for calling in (when I didn't succeed in waiting) and trying to not sound drunk when I did call in.... Compared to all of that, sobering up IS effortless. I have an instruction manual, a sponsor, a group of AA's and legacy before me to tell me exactly what I need to do......Doesn't get much more "effortless" than that
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
