well let see....my heart got broken and i have been getting over that...back to basics, meetings, get there early for setting up ect. greet new people. first 2 months after the "surprise" i couldnt eat and felt nauseated and had the shakes, i was crying harder than i ever have in my life. i dont know if i will ever get over this, but im learning to live with it. on the good side i lost 10 pounds and look great! i got a new haircut and everyone likes it. i have made some new friends. thank god, i only need to focus on today. meeting was good last night and will go again tonight. thats all i know for sure. love to you all
I just came out of a relationship, not that long ago, that I truly thought was going to go the full mile....
There were a few adjustments to make on both sides, in a few areas, as there always is, in any relationship...(personally and together) ....and those, are always ongoing....I had no doubt in my mind that everything was going to be fine...one day at a time...
We talk about expectations.....but there are normal expectations and expectations that can be out of proportion...especially a few decisions that I made towards that relationship, in regard to the future...
When one person committs to me, I have a big tendency to believe them...I committ back fully....and visa versa
I still believe in THAT today......but sometimes...when things get trying....THATS when the real tests begin...
I got a phone call one Sunday night...and even tho I pretended to take it well...I sure didnt..
And it took about a month to completely let go of that...I was devestated...
Yes...my friend.....been there.....a few times...in the past....
Thank God, that time takes time....we get through those dark tunnells...
And we get on with life....as YOU are doing...
Keep on truckin gal!!
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Thanks, Cindy. I'm nursing my heart also & following that suggested re staying single for the first 2yrs of sobriety. Not clearly cut acheived since Day1 but it has been another recovery for me so 1Day@aTime I'm managing to the best of my ability for now. I still love my ex despite the mess & hurt but that is something I feel I am growing through & I'm abstaining from contact. He needs to recover too & has chosen to be with someone but that's his recovery & none of my business. He's also living in another country which may be a blessing of Higher Power or could otherwise be too close for comfort! Anyways, best to stick with my stuff. If it wasn't him, maybe it would be someone else. I don't know. Another good reason to stay single while I sort myself out. I'd be good for no~one if I couldn't be sure on this, another of my reasons. God's delays arn't God's denials & all that. 'Que sera sera'. For now I am enjoying female fellowship & learning how to rely on myself for my joy. (I didn't mean for that to come out in any way dodgey; Sorry everyone! lol) Could delete but won't cuz tis funny =S Anyways, I'm glad you're trooping onward, Cindy. Keep up the goodwork. Here for you should you need. Danielle x
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thanks, phil and danielle, ... speaking as a woman, Phil ,i cant imagine what the hell is wrong with her...you are a catch! and danielle a prayer and a wish for u that it works to bring you your hearts desire.
"Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with."
Words of wisdom I read somewhere! Lani
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on the good side i lost 10 pounds and look great! i got a new haircut and everyone likes it. i have made some new friends. thank god, i only need to focus on today. meeting was good last night and will go again tonight. thats all i know for sure. love to you all
send pics lol, seriously glad to hear that your having fun (wait did you say that? )
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