Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.
When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.
Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
I really believe that this is a foundation for my recovery. But I have take a further analysis of my wants and needs. For me being an alcoholic and drug user, being responsible and recognizing the difference of what I want and what I need went to the way side. I wanted it now, so I needed it now.
Today, I want a lot of things. Without the alcohol and drugs interfering with my thoughts, I can step back and ask myself do I really need it? Can I afford it? Is it something that's just a whim right now? Is it something that will benefit my family or just me (which in some cases is OK)?
I've recently caught myself on the verge of getting something that, in reallity, I don't need. After a few moments of thinking about the pros and cons of whether or not I have to have something, I usually make the correct decision. "Usually" isn't always though as I have aquired somethings that really weren't necessary. But I'm recognizing this which reinforces the want or need next time.
