hello all... new to this page but have questions. first off i am 32, have a child, just got seperated from my husband. i know you cannot blame another person for addiction, but my husband was a great contributor to some problems i had. first off i am trying to figure a way to get past the withdrawls with out having to go into an inpatient program. my son is 4 and honestly there is no one that can take him.. and my hardest part with stopping to drink at this point is the fear of withdrawl. at one point i was taking high doses of morphine. hubby was getting them for me after a point that i had a back problem.. long and short he (and he would tell you this in a heart beat) that he was getting me pills to help keep me quiet and happy so he could go out and say he was working all night... i toughed that withdrawl out.. lots of imodium etc but i toughed it out and after a few days i delt with the mental part.. but i still kept drinking..(same amount as them) well now we are getting divorced.. he has been useless in reguards to care for child for 4yrs and i need to kick this now before anything else..and i know he cannot/ will not take care of our son. there is no one else to take care of him for me.. so i need to tough the withdrawl part out some how.. i don't want to drink anymore.. its the withdrawls that scare the s*&t out of me. they seem much worse when i try then stopping opiates.. when i make my mind up to do something i can do it.. especially when i look at my sons face... i am worried about dt's etc.. i am not sure what to do.. i know meetings etc.. but i am afraid of "dropping out" and having a seizure in front of my son.. its been about 3yrs total of me drinking but its been enough to give me pancreatitis and a hospital stay for that (which my husband left me there alone over 80% of the time).. i need to be around for my child and myself.. i am just so unsure of what to do right now. i honestly want to stop.. its just the physical part that scares me at this moment.. any advise would be great.
Hi and welcome to the board, lots of wonderful support and good sobriety here. I can not tell you what to do, just a suggestion, I would go to my family dr and explain what are trying to and your fears, and ask for his help. And then I would call AA in your area, and get to a meeting as soon as you can, face to face support is soooooooo important, and believe me, you can get the support you need from AA. AA will even pick you up, if you have problems with a baby sitter, you can take him, a color book and puzzles would be helpful for him, so don't let that stop you. The most important thing right now is to take care of yourself, and just for today, not to drink. It can be done, there are lots of us who have done it, and we are all here to support you. I admire the courage you are showing in realizing you need to stop drinking, it is a wonderful first step of a great journey forward for both you and your son. You are in my prayers, and write back soon and let us know how you ard doing. Love, W
Many (most) of us have been right where you're at. I got sober when my son was 2 and in the middle of a divorce. I opted to dry out myself instead of going to treatment at age 29. I too had an extensive drug history. Unless you have some serious medical conditions, you can do it. Go see your doctor and ask advice. Reducing the amount you drink per day for a week before quiting might help. The biggest problem is time. Right now you have the desire to quit drinking. It's a window of opportunity that opens and can shut. You might wake up next week and say the hell it and continue drinking. With that said, the time is now. Like the others said, get to some AA meetings. The most successful of us will tell you that we went to 90 meetings in 90 days. I did 1000/1000 days. How you will find time to do that? The same way you found the time to drink and drug. As far as the DTs go, you'll only have to do it once if you stay sober. It's like you're in a burning building that is surrounded by water and you're complaining about your swimming skills. If you stay in the building you might die, oh and you have a child with you. We'll leave the light on for you.
Welcome to MIP. There are some great folk here and lots of good help and ideas. I do hope that you'll stay around.
I would strongly suggest that you see your GP and explain to him/her all about your drinking and your desire to stop. My GP was very good and understanding when I approached her and was finally honest about my drinking.
Then, try to get to an AA meeting as soon as you can. For me, I couldn't have stopped drinking and stayed stopped without going to regular meetings. There really are some of the most wonderful people that you'll ever meet in the rooms of AA. You'll find the AA 'phone number in your local 'phone book. Try giving them a call. You really haven't got anything to lose but have everything to gain.
Please keep posting and letting us know how you are getting on, won't you? You're in my thoughts.
Take care,
Carol
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thank you for the warm welcome... i do have the desire and will do it... my primary care dr i don't know how receptive he would be.. but i am going to try as many routes as possible.
as for meetings... i have one litterly in my backyard.. our backyard meets with a church's back.. well they have a female AA meeting there a few times a week.. i feel bad because we would have picnics and they would see us (friends/neighbor's) all out there doing "our thing" and there they were going to support each other and we would be "partying it up" so to speak.. i just need to go over... even though i am half there age but i am sure they can give me some good advise. and hope that they are not mad at all the times they have seen us.
i need to get over 2 things.. 1) the fear of DT's.. i get up in the morning's and my hands are shaky.. 2) that my soon to be ex can through it in my face in court... but my son is worth dealing with it..
i just need to get over the few first days of misery physically./.. the mental part i have already become determined to do.. now its just the body that needs to work with me..
