Honestly......

lani · MIP Old Timer

Honestly......

lani · MIP Old Timer

Hate to continue on but....I guess I should just be happy that I am where I am. I wouldnt have had the insight to know that there are bigger and better things out there for me! (I told you I was crazy) Im just sad, confused, scared... But the great thing is I have the nerve to share this all with you and be honest for a change.....AAAuuuggh! So, pick up my boot staps. Its not the end of the world! Going online to apply for some jobs! Love ya all...Funny thing is, my name is really Laurie but when I first set up my site I thought you had to pick an alias!!! Like the name Lani tho...(xo)

Quetzal · MIP Old Timer

Hi Lani,

Y'know, some things just ain't fair! Having Laurie and Lani as two lovely names is a bit much for this alkie! I'm Carol because I was born so close to Christmas and Mum thought I was going to be a boy and couldn't decide on any names for me!!!

Seriously, now, Lani, things will get better for you and God will find you the job that is right for you when the time is right. I truly believe in that.

You are lucky because you have the support of your co-workers and that must be wonderful for you. You are well thought of and loved and liked. It could be so much worse.

There was a time when this would have led to you picking up a drink, but you are getting stronger on a daily basis. When the shock of this has worn off, you'll be able to look back with pride about how you handled things.

It's fine to feel our emotions such as being sad, scared or confused. It's what we do about them that counts. Today is a new day for all of us. We can all make today really count.

In the meantime, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please keep posting and letting us know how things are going for you, won't you? We're all here for you.

(((Hugs)))

Carol

Snopup · Veteran Member

The last time I was fired I became very depressed. My wife told me to get a job, anything. I did get unemployment (have you checked that) which took alot of pressure off. This allowed me to really concentrate on my career. I knocked on alot of doors. Had quite a few interview and several second ones, but no offers.

One day I was called by a temp agency for engineering types. They said that I fit a paticular profile for a company who was looking for temps (staff augmentation is what they called it). However it was in another town about 6 hours away from where we were living. The pay was very good and it was only to be a year or so. We decided to go for it. I would live as modistly as possible there and come home on weekends. Never miss a one. When my time was up, the supervisors and management were very impressed with my work that they created a perminate position for me. My wife and I talked about it and decided that it was going ok and to stay with it. A couple of years later, we moved the family here. It's been the best decision we've made. I've been here for over 5 years now, with a good long term future ahead of us.

So stick with it. Don't suttle for just anything. It may be tough, but with alot of diligence, the RIGHT job will come along. Best wishes.

Pam P · Veteran Member

Dear Lani and anyone unemployed,

I'll be praying for you Lani. God will not leave you nor Forsake you. We just went through exactly what you are facing right now. Except with a few other problems joining in at the same time.

My household, my husband and I went through 4 months without a job. This just happened recently. He was fired from his job after a 2 year investigation that shouldn't have been dumped on him.
However, he was and we suffered the consequences. God wanted for us to learn some things and to spend some time with him and to fellowship with him. To also grow together more, walking, riding a bike together and working together side by side. Praying sitting together not just in the car going to work.
Our Marriage was tested at first, then it was strengthened, given more endurance, courage, and friendship. Mostly we bonded OUR LOVE together for the first time in years.

God answered our prayers for extra income because unemployment wasn't enough. We worked for my elderly parent's helping them 3 or more times a week getting one of there homes ready to sell. As well as worked on the prperty they live on helping them on it too.
One of my husbands friend's at work sent us $ dollars to help us out. It was a surprise and a "BLESSING."

Economic insecurities leave us! RIGHT? Staying out of DEBT brings so much peace and joy to our lives. You would be surprised how wonderful we live on my S.S.A. and my husbands income. We live comfy,and don't owe anyone.

This is what GOD wanted to show us both by the job lose. That even with the change and less money we can still make it. Happier, healthier, more fullfilled and filled with joy.

Praise the Lord and his righteousness for all our GIFTS and our Talents.

I do hope that you have a wonderful opportunity ahead. That while you are jobless you can be encouraged with all the Wisdom, strength, hope, perseverence, courage, long-suffering, patience, and joy. May you run the race that GOd has set before you in perfect harmony with The HOly Spirit. Bringing you a job that you want close to home. Giving you the perfect hours you can be gone and be with the children. SO that they can have communication with each parent each day. Lord GOd pour your annointing down from Heaven unto this child and fill her to overflowing so she knows without a doubt when she asks. That you are LORD of her life.

In Jesus Name,
Amen

-- Edited by Pam P at 05:39, 2007-10-11

Sobrietyspell · MIP Old Timer

Thankyou for sharing your struggles & fears with us, Lani. Your humour too. It gives me great hope & opportunity through others to know that this is happening for a reason & we can turn any seeming negatives into positivity. This is the creativity of the Program & our faith. You wanted to know what my situation is & tis this. After 6months sobriety I took the bull by the horns & accepted a post in a Women's Refuge. The role involved a lot of responsibility in regards to helping manage vulnerable women & children's lives fleeing domestic violence, being rehabilitated & rehoused. It also had a lot to do with dealing with outside agencies & the general running of the refuge & service. This has had to be the toughest most intense working experience that I have had & my concentration & self-consciousness rendered me insufficient. Being faced with my limitations on a daily basis was really hard & after a 6month probation period both myself & my bosses consigned that I couldn't go on. This was gutting for me as I had tried so hard. I respect that I tried but still can't help feeling that I failed in some ways. It's not entirely that I'm wholley inadequate but that my unmanageability was too much at this time. They don't know how much I've changed & turned around in the last year so by their books I'd probably just have quite a bad reference. I know that I've won lots of battles on a personal front but my pride means I'd have loved to continue with some kind of unmarked working career. I took on a lot for my early sobriety but I don't regret it because I learned a lot about myself & within that field too. Like you, I am grateful that I am having to leave because those women's lives are too important not to have the best working for them & I'm glad I didn't make any mistakes that were crucially detrimental to anyone. I will find service elsewhere & maybe better suited to what I'm capable of right now. I am maintaining as much dignity & self-respect as I can in the face of this & have been sensible with my money so can look after myself for a few weeks while I find something else. In the meantime I can return to my employment agency whilst I redirect my focus & confidence. Thanks for sharing yours with us. We will do this together, Danielle x