Hi all , hope this finds you well...Happy Sunday! Well, Ive had the best day and the worst day of my life Friday. First of all, let me admit that my alcoholism lead me to where I am currently. I am powerless!!! The greatest thing is, I discovered all of this before my incident happened! As some of you know I was miserable at my job. Not because of the patients, who I LOVE, or the bosses or the staff. Just one or two of my fellow nurses drove me crazy!! I was so stressed out! Anyways point one finger at them, four back at me. Well, I got fired Friday! Not charting on a patient again....I was going to go on with excuses like, certain other people did the same things I did and never got in trouble, but I wont. Anyways, My boss cried when she told me, said I was a great nurse and person, yadda yadda, but she had to let me go. Initially, I was so upset, scared to tell my huband and family...But you know what, by the grace of GOD I am ok!! God did for me what I couldnt do for myself, I needed to get out of that job before I got into really serious trouble, but I was to lazy, busy to do anything!! So, Im ok, looking for a new job, and my husband is actually relieved Im out of there! So sad because I'll miss my patients!!!! But, I actually stayed sober through it all and right now thats number one. I complained about no time for me and I must say watch what you wish for!! Plan on lots of meeting, etc. Nice thing is, my sponser and my husband are on "shut down" for 2 weeks so I'll have them around for support!! I still cant believe what a load has been taken off my shoulders...Oh, my biggest worry now is: what do you disclose on an interview about this? Any ideas? Love ya all, have to get my daughter .....Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Glad you're OK. Looks like they were just making a reduction in workers. I think your boss will give you a positive referral if asked, if she cried when when you were leaving. I wouldn't disclose it on a job application or in an interview. That's doing their job for them. I would call my x-boss and ask her to give a positive reference if asked.
Personal experience- I got "let go" many more times during sobriety than when I was drinking. Probably because when I was drinking I knew I needed to keep a lower profile due to the time I missed from hangovers etc... When I was getting sober, I tended to act with impunity and give my superiors a lot suggestion about how they could do their job better LOL. Well after a succession of "let gos", in sobriety, I decided to do a 4th step on my employment issues. The affect was dramatic on my outlook. I decided that I was a terrible employee and that I was much more suited to self employment and have been so over since. This might not be of any help to you, but then again there are a lot of nurses in FL that are independent subcontractors that drive around doing in home treatments etc... If I was a nurse that's what I'd look into.
Hi Lani, Yes, in ways we do not understand at the moment life seems to be "crapping" on us, that is precisely when God in there working on our behalf....at least that has been my experience. Can't say I was ever fired from any job....unless one counts AH "firing" me from our marriage by leaving it and moving in with mistress. (A whole other story. LOL) Each job held has had its own quirks..... Midnight shift....ERRRGG! Felt like a zombie all the time. Money issues in others.... Low pay scales. Seasonal..... And then of course as you stated ...... the co-worker clash. I look back on those times and now realize some of it was MY OWN ATTITUDE. With each job there were lessons...... (Getting sleep and forget the dirty dishes.....the laundry got done. Who really cares if it didn't get done today. Or Okay, I only get paid this much..... hmmmm......food for the kids or new outfit? Ect.) I regard now that each one was a "stepping stone" My current position has its own little gems...... at times stress, at times coworker stuff, ect., however, I am happier than with all other previous jobs......because it lies alot in the way of my own attitude. The twelve steps and AA program have been of a tremendous help. And in my wildest imagination.... I never thought I'd ever be a part of AA nor did I ever think that any alcoholic could be of any use to me. Though I hate alcohol and what it does to peoples lives......I no longer have "attitude" toward the alcoholic. That in itself has spilt over into other areas of my life regarding the people I work with, socialize with, or come in contact each day. What I truly have no control over, I don't even attempt to.......what I can control.....which is ME, my reactions, my attitude, my actions, my words.....I make ever attempt to do so in beneficial ways.....not only for me but those around me at the time. Yes, I am grateful to have that Someone Upstairs working on my behalf when I have not been. I am happy that although you lost your job, you were able to manage without picking up and looking to the bottle for solace. And I am every bit as confident that in the future Someone will be looking out on your behalf to help you. By the way, ditto on what St.Pete said. Nursing positions a plentiful here in my home state of IL as well. There seem to be alot of openings for in homecare/independent contractors. Trust in your HP that he will put you where you need to be when the time comes. I think I would also take the advice to ask if a recommendation by the woman who let you go could be given. The "tears in her eyes" implies to me that she more than likely wasn't 100% behind the firing. You more than likely posses qualities of greater good that were being seen than the errors you had made. Like is often done complaints can be taken to the next level. She may very well have gotten some pressure from her "boss" to do something about the situation. Anyway......I think it is worth to see if she could help you. Wishing you the best and continued triumphs in sobriety, Wanda Best wishes and continued triumphs in sobriety. Wanda
Good morning... Thank you for all your support and words of wisdom! Life is good. Time to make a new resume and look for a job!! Have a great day! Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Sometimes change is good. The fear of change is tough to overcome. Being clean and sober, you will probably be better to evaluate you future. Take your time and do your homework for your new career. There's a lot of help is getting back into working, finding the right job, how to get your right job, etc.
