What is the real meaning of love and how do you know if you have it or not because I haven't feeling for anything or anyone. My instincts to feel are gone. Here's the Websters version: A feeling of warm personal attachment or affection. Could you please tell me yours?
Later - Jeannie
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Anymore I have a hard time surviving that place where you're first just head over heels in love. Some trust stuff comes into play that I need to work on someday, but right now I'm pretty committed to avoiding romantic entanglements until I work on me a bit more.
But for me, love is so apparent when at some point each day I realize that seeing her is just the best thing that is going to happen to me all day- and that I'm lucky to get the chance to treat her like she's someone special and show her how much I care. A thing that sticks in my mind is that getting to be the one that makes her feel better when she's down is just one of the luckiest things in the world.
For me, love means feeling bigger and better for being in the relationship than out of it. My boyfriend and I have been together for sixteen and a half years and I don't feel 'complete' if I'm not with him.
I love my family and friends and I just feel a better person for knowing them and having them in my life.
I read a definition of love once that mentioned a feeling of 'profound oneness' and I guess that's how I would define love.
Take care,
Carol
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That is a hard one. For me it varies with the person. When it comes to my daughter it is an all encompassing unconditional feeling. As for my husband, I guess the best way to put it is it depends on me and my outlook on life for the day. There are some days that i feel such strong feelings of love that make my heart fell like it is going to explode but there are days when I feel kinda numb. It also depends on how much love I am feeling for myself at the time too. I find it very hard to love others when I don't love myself. So I try to remind myself that I am worth the loving even with my faults. And that makes it easier to feel my love for others.
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Honestly, I have no idea. Especially when you ask the "real" meaning of love. Personally I think we should have many, many words for "love" and not focus so much on that one word!
Just respondin to your post and might add that it is a good question!!
For me the meaning of what Love is, that first for most I feel that one must learn to love themselves and than would learn to love others, yes we love our family's, friends and well our animals.
Hope that everyone is learning to Love them selves.
I'll add the following because it will help me to work on my love for myself (with my Higher Power) which in turn will help to make me a more loving person. I think this is the whole point of love..
This can be used whether I believe in Jesus or not. For me it's a universal concept.
THE TRICKLE-DOWN THEORY OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Jesus loves me, this I know.
He loves me unconditionally.
THEREFORE: HIs love for me is based on who HE is.
THEREFORE: I have not earned His love, nor can I earn His love.
THEREFORE: I cannot be separated from His love. When I obey Him, He will bless me. When I disobey Him, there will be consequences for my behaviour. He may not like my behaviour, but He always loves me.
THEREFORE: Since I have experienced God's love, I know I am loveable.
THEREFORE, since I know that God loves me, I am able to believe that there are people who could love me too.
THEREFORE, I am able to trust people who genuinely love me.
THEREFORE, I am able to accept the love that those people give to me.
THEREFORE, since my most basic need for love and a sense of self-worth have been met by God, I don't need to be 'fixed' by other people.
THEREFORE, although I have needs that I look to other people to meet, I believe those needs are balanced and God-given (companionship, affection, fun), I try to be honest in assessing those needs and in asking for what I need.
THEREFORE, I expect other people to be honest with me. I can handle criticism or confrontation if it is done with love.
THEREFORE, since I know that I am God's special and unique creation, I know that the love I have to give is valuable.
THEREFORE, I don't feel that I have to 'perform' for other people. They will either love me for who I am or they won't It's important to me to be loved for who I am.
THEREFORE, I am able to get my mind off what others are thinking ABOUT ME and focus on other people and THEIR NEEDS
THEREFORE: I am able to sustain a healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
A pretty tall order I think for me but I get the general message! On a simpler note, my sister gave me the following one birthday ~
Love is patient, love is kind, It does not envy It does not boast It is not proud It is not rude It is not self-seeking It is not easily angered It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
This makes me sad in some ways as I am learning to let go with love those I have failed in the past but I hope my capacity for love improves as I do. Thanks for all your shares & being here, Danielle x
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