I realize my personal relationship conflicts are really not suited for this board (better suited for Dear Abby ??!!! ), so I'm sorry for doing it, however, I was terrified that I would say screw it all and drink! I no longer have a sponsor here, she moved 1000 miles away, and although I can call her anytime she usually is not available and doesn't return my calls for days. I'm looking and praying for another, but the women here are few and far between and the ones we do have do not have what I want, the ones that do have what I want don't sponsor anymore! I do have a call list and I use it, but not for relationship issues! I did that once and it was a matter of only hours that it was all over my HG! So, I have a trust issue.....
Want you all to know that you kept me sober one more 24 hours. Thank you, and God bless you.
Love and hugs
Jen
oh! p.s. I believe all will be just fine from here on out..............I'm going to live in today and cherish what I have today....How's that go ? Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not here, today is a gift! (that's why it's called the present)
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
We had a great talk. We came to the conclusion together that this is a long distance relationship and that makes it difficult. He assured me we dont' have to be married to ensure he's not going anywhere......He said 'been here for 6 yrs, not planning to go anywhere" - We discussed the possibility that I have abandonment issues. I will be looking into that one soon........All is well........atleast for today (hee, hee......)
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
Jen, The apology isn't really nescessary. If recalled correctly alcohol usually is a mask or cover up used for other issues one may be avoiding. Things one needs to discuss. Unloading, as you did, often brings everything out in and relieves alot of the stress/burden. As far as us helping you, if in some small way the encouragement or words helped, it was a pleasure. It is believed as Carol (Quetzal) said you are a strong person. You shared what was perhaps an issue in your heart. Got it out in the open and bared your "soul". In reality we perhaps gave a little nudge but you did the real work. And you were strong enough to realize using alcohol would not help. BRAVO!!! I'm glad he is there for you, as well. You were able to talk and that is an asset in a healthy relationship. As I said, my sister and her fiance have yet to ink, by standards, an official document for years. He is accepted as family, as she is by his children, ect. I've known many who did sign and before the ink was dry the relationship took a dive and fell apart. We here can give all the suggestions in the world from what we have experienced, seen or heard. Ultimately, it is you, who has to make those choices. It is always there in your heart......when you listen. Dear Abby.....maybe. But then I've read some things advized and thought...PLEASE!!! LOL Glad it is better today. Wishing you the best, Wanda
Want you all to know that you kept me sober one more 24 hours. Thank you, and God bless you.
And that's why we and this board are here. There was nothing innappropriate about your situation being posted---if something is threatening your sobriety, I would hope it was on this board asap, than to have you come back and say ' I slipped" because you felt alone. That is why we're here, Doll. To help share and diffuse the pain and heartache before it turns into a drink. Believe me, if I get a pain it'll be on here. Love, Chris
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
Phil, You surely must have a lap top. How could it be otherwise if your on that hill?! LOL Is it permissible to be an "adopted" Canuck? Fireworks are fireworks whereever they are. Pass me another hot dog and Mt. Dew, please. LOL Wanda
YAY! I am so happy that things are looking up for you... and like it was already said... please do not apologize!!! I am personally happy that you posted what you did... I believe you are brave to open up like that and it helps us to see that!
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"Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't"
Please don't apologize! You have nothing to apologize for. We are all here to share the highs and the lows of our sobriety and to gain strength from each other. All that matters is that you are still sober.
Take care,
Carol
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
