My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below....
I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be...
I believe that any replys that someone gets...are done so with love and concern...nomatter what the content...and are not put on... as an ego trip...or a put down...
Some are done with tough love...some of us need that...and others dont...
We have this board here for alcoholics....practicing...or recovering...and even tho anyone is welcome....it is still basically for alcoholics...
It is still a place where we can come to share our experience strength and hope with each other...laugh...cry...and be....
I went through a rough period where I used to vent everything, on this board...every emotion..every thought..every fear...
What I recieved back was love and support...I did not recieve back, what I should or should not be doing...
As with regard to the Ally post...
We are not in any position to give advice of any kind...except to suggest that you take it up with a sponsor...or at your own meetings..or the person you are involved with...and as has been mentioned before....I also used to run around all over the place....looking for the answers that I wanted to hear....and did not listen to the answers that I should have been hearing...
The other thing is....
If one asks a question on this board...? Be prepared to get answers that you might not want to hear...
Principles before personalities is still a biggy...
Amanda and I know all about that one.:) Weve been there...
The take what you need and leave the rest is a biggy...
The newcommer is the most important person on this site...
Its not about us....
And when someone reaches out? We must reach back with love, understanding, and compassion...
Answers to questions? Im as old as dirt on here....and I still dont know what some of the questions are......let alone..the answers...
All I know for sure is..
We are all in the same boat together...and the suggested program works if we work it...
And its one day at a time for a lifetime...
Onward!!!!
From "Still A Dummy With Two Brain Cells" :)
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
How did you manage to escape with two brain cells?! I am convinced I have one and a half at best!
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"There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguements and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance-that principle is contempt prior to investigation."
~Herbert Spencer
Oh, not half as glad as I am........I don't think I've felt half this inept since I sobered up. He'll be fully back on by Thursday. I am baking myself a cake on that day.
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
It's Funfetti cake, with the little pieces of candy in it? And matching frosting. If you want to drive to Washington, I'll share the whole thing with you. That's half a cake! I'm not greedy, see, I'll share, LOL. You gotta bring the candles, tho......
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
amen to that, phil. looks like we've been there and done that, and learned something,, so now we can share that experience, eh? and the strength we gained from it,, and the hope it gives us that we dn't have to go through that again.
now... let's just all move on, eh?
peace to all,
love in recovery,
amanda
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time
Welcome back, Phil. Are we Newcomers until we manage to fulfill on all 12Steps & are working in maintenance? I ask because I still feel very much a Newby & am currently working on my Inventory which is taking a little time & a few meets with my Sponsor. I also ask because I love the care, protection & guidance I'm offered by those who are working their programs. It helps me feel safe & appreciated & right now I just love lapping that up! I want to feel I have that until I'm ready & strong enough to pass it on. It's not that I don't pass anything on right now but my head's still dizzy & reeling from what I've just done to myself for so long. I'm nowhere near recovered from that alcoholic state just yet! But I feel I'm getting there step by step. I'm looking forward to my thinking clearing & the neurosis passing & the message forming strong inside. I have so much love & respect for that that's given to me tho it'll be a little time yet until I know what I have is good & sound & worth passing on. Insecurity & self~pity are obviously big defects of mine! lol Anyway, thanks for being here for me everyone. I know this is all worth it. Love in Recovery, Danielle x
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Thanks, Phil. So good to have you here. I remember a member said to me a couple of months ago that I wasn't a newcomer any more & I damn near shit my pants! lol I'm sure he must have been joking & was quite surprised with my reaction =S Just goes to show we can't make any assumptions about people's recoveries & where they think they're at. Mind our own isn't it & share on that. Thanks for your words, Phil. I'll keep on keeping on, Danielle x
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