We all know from experience that we cant change other people, yet most of us have a tendency to try. This is because we naturally feel the need to do something to change situations that we find troubling. It often doesnt occur to us that the best way to create change is not to try to convince others to change but to change ourselves. When we make adjustments from within, we become role models for others, and leading by example is much more inspiring than a lecture or an argument.
We sometimes look outside ourselves for whats wrong with the world, but the outside world is really just a mirror reflecting us back to ourselves. When we encounter negativityanger, depression, fearwe empower ourselves by looking for its roots inside of ourselves. For example, if you have a friend who is unreliable, observe yourself and notice if there are ways in which you are unreliable. You may be surprised to discover that you have your own struggles with this issue in ways you werent able to see. Once you own the issue for yourself, you can begin to work for change within yourself. This will also enable you to have more compassion for your friend. At the very least, as you strive to become more reliable, you will become more of the person you want to be. In the best-case scenario, you will be an inspiration to others.
You can apply the same method to larger issues. For example, if there is something you see in the larger world that you would like to changelets say, greedtry taking responsibility for changing it in yourself. Instead of being angry with those you see as greedy, seek out the roots of your own greed and come to terms with your power to transform it. This may be the best way to lead the world toward greater moderation and generosity.
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He knocked upon my door today. I ran to open wide. There stood Yesterdays Regret. I invited him inside. He hovered in my shadow all the live long day, Reminding me of past mistakes and he would not go away. By night I was in anguish, my weary heart so sad. I cried, "Higher Power, please help me. My past has been so bad." My son," He said. "Those things are gone, deep beneath the blue. I dont remember them at all. You must forget them too."
She knocked upon my door today. Tomorrows Fear was waiting there. "Come in," I said, and opened wide. She was followed by Despair. They rode upon my shoulders all the live long day, Asking, "How will you?" and "What if?" They would not go away. By night I felt so helpless. There seemed to be no way. I cried, "Higher Power, please help me. I cant face another day." "My son," He said. "Dont eer forget. Just remember how Ive not ceased to make provision always up till now.
When Regret or Fear comes knocking, refuse to open the door. Live your life just for today, and theyll return no more."
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