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"Shame is the first feeling that strikes me whenever I, or someone I love, has a problem," said one recovering woman.

Many of us were raised with the belief that having a problem is something to be ashamed of.

This belief can do many damaging things to us. It can stop us from identifying our problems; it can make us feel alienated and inferior when we have, or someone we love has, a problem. Shame can block us from solving a problem and finding the gift from the problem.

Problems are a part of life. So are solutions. People have problems, but we, and our self-esteem, are separate from our problems.

I've yet to meet a person who didn't have problems to solve, but I've met many who felt shamed to talk about the problems they actually had solved!

We are more than our problems. Even if our problem is our own behavior, the problem is not who we are - it's what we did.

It's okay to have problems. It's okay to talk about problems at appropriate times, and with safe people. It's okay to solve problems.

And we're okay, even when we have, or someone we love has, a problem. We don't have to forfeit our personal power or our self-esteem. We have solved exactly the problems we've needed to solve to become who we are.

Today, I will let go of my shame about problems.

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26_7_8.gifHappy Victoria Day weekend....


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grwat post Q love this part especially
"the problem is not who we are - it's what we did "



So phil how does one celebrate Victoria Day ?

Bryan

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Victoria Day...is Monday....long weekend for most....
 
Canadian statutory holiday celebrated on the last Monday before or on May 24 in honour of both Queen Victoria's birthday and the current reigning Canadian Sovereign's birthday.

While Victoria Day is often thought of as a purely Canadian event, it is also celebrated in some parts of Scotland, particularly in Edinburgh and Dundee, where it is also a public holiday.



Here in Redneck country....the alkys walk around with a Canadian Flag .....in one hand..and a bottle in the other.....yelling....."Did we have a good time last night?? or they call a taxi..and ask what town they are in...and how much to get home...

On the sober end....Usually its the time of year where everyone opens up their cottages around the Great Lakes...after the winter season.....all the parks are filled with campers...Families plant their flowers and veggy gardens...

And some of us hafta work..:)

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