hello everyone, im new here. so i got sober in dec of 05 and drank again in sept of 06 and continued until jan of 07 when i found out i was pregnant. i quit instanlty and have spent the last months accumulating some peace and happiness with many things that i learned from AA and other places. but now i look around and feel like theres something missing sometimes. i really miss the meetings. it was the only thing i could use as a higher power for the longest time even though i wouldnt say a word. being out of them for a while and developing a new understanding of my life that incorporaes but does not exclusively use AA i feel like maybe i wouldnt really belong? i do not feel in my heart that i have a problem with drinking, but i love everything else about the program. so i feel like i am in such a weird place. also being pregnant is very hefty on the emotions and my family is not around the dad and i can be at odds and my friends just arent there like they said they would be.... so i really miss just the support aspect of it all too.... so i dunno..... just some thoughts about anything i guess would be helpful to me. thanks ahead of time :)
Hmmm.......Most people who "do not feel in their heart they have a problem with drinking" don't go to AA and continue to go for 9 months.. nor do they use the term "got sober".....AA membership states 'the desire' to stop drinking, if you don't have a problem, then you don't have the desire, therefore, you don't belong there......I'd suggest, get some counseling, see a therapist.
Good luck.
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Hey Lucybear! Glad to have you here! First off congrats on being pregnant! I am assuming it was not expected since you said you found out in January. So congrats on that and congrats on quitting since you found out. I work as a waitress and I have seen some VERY pregnant women drinking. DISGUSTING! Anyway... that was off the topic!!! I am not really sure what to say... Do you think that you do the AA thing as a social event rather than for recovery? I am not sure I understand what you are saying. I cannot tell you whether you are an alcoholic. I agree with the previous post that maybe you should get some therapy. Do you think that might be beneficial? Let us know how it is going... and again congrats mom!!!
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There's plenty of support here Lucy. :) And as Doll suggested.... even speaking with a social pysycologist can be a great way to get some feed back on what your feeling, and it's not like... talking to a professional sike.. most communities have a free service. Id say that if you once drank, and you have the desire to not drink, then AA is OK for you. But if you honestly know you do not have a drinking problem, stick to the open meetings... dont go to the closed meetings. Best wishes for you and the soon to be new baby.
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Hi there Lucybear! Tim, alcoholic. Congratulations on the sobriety and big congratulations on the pregnancy! If you like the meetings, don't be so self-concious that it lets you stop attending. They are GOOD whether you speak or just listen. This site has been a saving grace for me personally, maybe it can be that to you also. It's not like a chat room with immediate responses to your postings, but they will be answered/replied to. Plus, reading the current and previous pages will give you a pile of insight into the ways and thoughts of many an alcoholic. But wait! There's more!! There are SOOO many inspiring postings that are food for thought and pondering about living life on a daily basis. I find it all a tremendous gift to aid in my sobriety. I hope you can too. Welcome Lucybear and good fortune to you...Tim
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Hi Lucybear, I'm Mike, a recovering alcoholic. Open AA meetings are a great place to learn about alcoholism and how being sober can improve your life. Should you wish to continue staying sober and keep accumulating some of that peace and happiness, I'd say go to all the open meetings you want. You don't have to share if you don't want to. Listening helps me quite a bit. If you find they help you, that's a good thing. I' m a drunk who has been sober 11 years now. Keep coming and maybe you'll decide that you'd like to stay. Mike in Boston
Hi Lucybear, I think others have already already posted excellent insight and information here. I just want to say welcome! And hope to see you again . . . Take care, laura
If you agree with the replies, and you feel you don't belong in AA.......Have you ever been affected by someone elses drinking?????? Family, friends...etc
If so why not join Al-anon....we work the "12 steps adapted from Alcoholics Annonymous".
The programme is awesome...we have a message board here, also a chatroom.....
The support from this site..is a miracle for us all...
thanks so much for responding you guys! in the rewriting of ten million posts i realized i like it here and ive gotten so much help already :) i think in this case the anonymity is doing the trick!
the only reply i have is about therapy... im a good 10th stepper, so this is no issue. i think i just need a friend or two who speaks my language and who is focused on things that AA just so happens to focus on. becoming the best person you can, and living happy, joyously, and freely.
