Got some interesting news last nite, in regards to my son gettin a job.
A friend of the family whom I've known since the young fellow was 2, contacted me last via msn. Knows of the situation with my son and well both of my children look upto this young man who is in his 20's as a brother. This young man can relate alot to my son and understands the where I'm coming from and well has wanted to get things settle for himself and I respect that. I always thought of him like my own since he was small, even though we lost contact for some time.
But back to my post, he is got a position to run a kitchen and went to school to become a chef. He's willin to take Arthur in and give him a job, which means arthur would be working with him.
I talked to my son a little bit last nite about this opportunity, and I think he might go for it. It might be just what he needs in order to get his life straighten around, I went through a lot of emotions last nite while a work and well, think personally that this could be what he needs to make changes for the better, this would mean moving down to the city and well adjusting to a whole new life. And well as a parent, feelings of fear, emptiness and well just knowing that it's time to let him grow as an individual for the better is scary.
Thinkin that this is what he needs, I've done all I can do and hopefully with the LOVE, Strength and courage and prayers, he will become the man that he should be. I will always be Here for him:
God please watch over my son as he makes this step in the right direction, watch over him and keep him safe. Give guidance and courage to do well and succeed.
Thanks to those who have kept us in their prayers, and hope for the best, lets pray for one another in hopes of a sober today.
Hi Tina, I am happy that this may be going well for your son. Sure it is scary. While you speak of letting go, I too am bracing for a small round of that. My daughter asked if she could take a computer desk I had last night. She is due to give birth to my first grandchild in July and is unmarried. She has taken responsibility in some ways. Kept her parttime job which is often full time hours, continues college classes, and has stowed money back. She had told her boyfriend he needed to payoff his truck before she'd consider moving. That is a good thing. Yet in my heart there are reservations about this. He continues to drink and goes out often on weekends regardless of whether she goes or not. I don't think he really comprehends the enormous undertaking of rearing a child. He takes her to appts. ect. but so far all that has been planned for this new one has been her doing. She spent her on money on a crib, has boughten a few other items as well. I'm having (inside) mixed emotions as you. I said nothing when she announced that she planned to be moved out before the birth. It took everything to do that. I know what she has or can have to take with her. So far I've yet to here what he is contributing. I don't think he really understands or does she that staying with their parents for a while longer is giving them a chance to provide more properly. It is bothering me, yet I too have to let her go and make her own choices. Pray pray pray and let go and let God. Yep, we seem to understand this each of us. Wanda
Spoke with my son tonite, and well he's going through some emotions of his own and we spoke of the positive aspects of moving from a small town to the city. He understands that I want whats best for him and well is scared.
I hugged him and told him and told him to go down for a month and see how it goes, told him it doesn't mean he lose friends or not able to come to visit. I'm still gonna be here and I'm still love him, that his sister is still gonna be his sister and we love him no matter what.
