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Denial
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I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy. When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing things too p...
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Hi all
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Just thought I'd check in!!! Things have been a bit outta sorts, lost my job last week. But for the grace of god I've found another job with in a week, Than suddenly got a unexpected panic phone call about my son sunday nite. Son was in a stage of hyper ventillating and couldn't breath and well spent 2 ho...
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Accepting Our Best
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We don't have to do it any better than we can - ever. Do our best for the moment, and then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in another moment, later. We can never do more or better than we are able to do at the moment. We punish ourselves and make ourselves feel crazy by expecting more than our re...
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QUESTION???????
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There has been a question on my mind for a while now - it is concerning the celebration of A.A. birthday's. So here goes - Why do some people not want to celebrate their day? I mean it's an achievement of living a sober life for X number of years not to mention the fact that it shows new people coming in th...
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Enjoy Recovery, catch a big one
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Hey everybody, Do you need to get on with your life and have some fun. I finally got sober and have been sober now for over 20 years. I go to men's stags and I get involved in life with my buddies in AA. In the past I did not get together with the guys and do the fellowship thing. Today that is different....
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Have A Good Day
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"When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation--some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment."--Alcoholics Anonym...
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Owning Our Energy
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For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to process them. Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, is done to facilitate this "out of...
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Made it to mississippi
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I'm at my dad's, made it here safe and sound... my car worried me a bit on the way, but made it, I gotta get it in the shop real soon... my cousin said my brakes need to be bled, that they have air in them, which is why they aren't stopping good (let me tell ya, that was real fun in the hills just south of St. Loui...
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To my dear friends
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I am sorry that I have not been much of a contributor to the board lately. Alot going on "down south" in California, and I've been a bit out of sorts of late. I go into surgery, as Phil and Carol know, tomorrow, in Seattle, to have a tumor and parathyroid removed, so I've been sort of balancing my...
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Friendship
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A man moved into an apartment and held an open house in order to meet new people. Many people showed up, and they seemed to enjoy themselves enormously. He invited them to come back, and frequently held parties that were the hit of the apartment complex. When he lost his job, and the funds became sc...
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Taking Care of Ourselves on the Job
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It's okay to take care of ourselves on the job. It is not only okay - it is necessary. Taking care of ourselves on the job means we deal with feelings appropriately; we take responsibility for ourselves. We detach, when detachment is called for. We set boundaries, when we need to do that. We negotiate co...
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Big Book How it works
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The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that basis we are almost always in collision with something or somebody, even though our motives are good. Most people try to live by self-propulsion. Each person is like an actor who wants to run the...
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Sometimes..because of our past...I have moments when I feel that I dont deserve good things to happen
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Been going with a great healthy lady for bout 9 months...45 minutes away...spend an evening...and Sundays together...and as a mutual thing..thats not going to change for a long time..Shes not in the program...and does not NEED someone in her life....but shares that its nice to HAVE someone in her l...
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Any One Have the Urge to Drink Today?
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We've had quite a number of newcomers start threads in the last few days. I'd like to here about it, and how you were able to get thru the day without drinking. more later- pass
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new member
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Hello All. First time on a msg board like this. Would I be in the wrong place if I have concerns other than drinking? I am new, sorry If I am barking up the wrong tree. just trying to do the right thing. Jim
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I met a girl...
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many years ago in rehab. She was young, about 18 then and she was basically forced into it by her family because she had f#@ked up her life with party drugs, ecstasy, cocaine, speed, etc. She was the youngest person in the place and because she was immature and a little ditsy all of us worldly, brillia...
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My first meeting coming back
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As many of you know I've been in and out a few times...a lot of times actually. When I look back to my first stints in AA it seems so different than now. I seem so different. I used to go to meetings with such an overwhelming feeling of desperation, like I wanted to be sober and clean and "cured" r...
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Procrastination
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Procrastination - not acting when the time is right - is a self-defeating behavior. It produces anxiety, guilt, disharmony, and a nagging consciousness of the task that life is telling us it's time to do. We are not always procrastinating when we put off doing something. Sometimes, doing a thing bef...
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Silence
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It took every ounce of courage he had to say anything. He had always been shy, and he was terribly afraid of being made fun of. He knew that if he ever opened his mouth, he would say the wrong thing and be rediculed. He had been that way all his life. People probably thought he didn't know anything, an...
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Would any one like to share?
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My blog (you can find it in my profile) needs some updated material, and Im kinda at a loss.. writers block mabye lol. If any one would like to post thier story (how it was, what happend, what it's like now), or your experiance with alcohol, or any other unique suitable material , feel free to PM me. . I'll p...
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I'm on the road... in Kansas City...
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Hey everyone... Well, crap hit the fan tonight with bf (or ex bf I should say...) I actually left... I'd already finally made the decision that I'd head south to stay with family, till I find farm work somewhere... called my dad and talked to him about it earlier today, well then the crap with bf, I had...
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Boundaries
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Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...
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When will I be ready?
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My name is Brian and I am an alcoholic. I have been attending meetings and staying sober for a few months now. My girlfriend will reach 10 years clean soon. Unfortunately I relapsed a few days ago and she told me, she and I need to stay apart until I have dealt with my drinking. It feels like we are breaking u...
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My name is _________ and I'm an Alcoholic...
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Self-Pity
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable. -- Maya Angelou Some days we grasp at self-pity like a blanket on a cold night, and we are momentarily comforted. However, extended periods of self-pity will undermine our primary purpo...
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Restless, Irritable, and Discontent
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How well those 3 words describe me right now... I dunno what's going on with me... Noticing some of my character defects/personality flaws/immaturity/whatever you wanna call it... Noticing how probably some people are right, that I'm not ready for any kind of committed relationship... or maybe I...
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Labels Limit Us
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"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."-- Lao TzuHow do you define yourself, to yourself and others? Are you first and foremost a husband/wife? A mother/father? A bus driver, dentist, musician ... ? A Christian, Moslem, Jew ...? A nag, joker, dreamer ...?Be aware that any lab...
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Is this person an alcoholic?
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I grew up around major alcoholism and it was obvious because those people were at it all day and left a trail of destruction around them. I now am around someone who for some reason or other I can't make a decision about as to whether or not they are a true alcoholic. Maybe because it has been so hard to see...
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Regret
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Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it: it's only good for wallowing in. -- Katherine Mansfield Newcomer Someone I hoped would be an important part of my life for years to come has left. I'm devastated. I don't know how much of what happened is my fault; I keep thinking, "If on...
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Could use some prayers/support... even if this sounds silly...
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Way off topic from being even remotely related to AA... but I could use a bit of support, kind words, hugs... It's been a long very rough night... I guess overall I'm ok, but I'm hurting so bad... I did the hardest thing I've ever had to do... I had to put my tom down... by myself. I've never hurt an ani...
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It's difficult sometimes....It really is...
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To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outco...
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young alcoholic
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Hi everyone im on here cause i want to know if i am an alcoholic so you no more about me im 16 from scotland and i drink either everyday or every other day i drink things like fortified wines and super strength lager i drink to forget things and make me happy and because if i dont have a drink i feel edgy depress...
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Fear Of Intimacy
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http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/fear_of_intimacy
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We Are Responsible
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I am responsible for myself; my recovery, my well-being, my happiness, all these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility. -- Anonymous Our Higher Power does not lay claim to our free will. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair an...
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Self Care
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When will we become lovable? When will we feel safe? When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve? We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves. -- Beyond Codependency The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spent m...
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New Member
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I am a new member. I am trying to attend AA meetings but do not have the time or means to do it. I am hoping that I can gain the same kind of support and encouragement here. I don't know what to do so I will need a lot of help. Thank you to anyone willing to do so.
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Hello anyone out there?
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I've been asleep on this forum for a while. Just wanted to check in and say 'hi'. Hope all is well with everyone. Take care.
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The Unexpected
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Is there room in your day for the unexpected? Recovery works best for me when I'm open to what comes along each day. I used to set rigid schedules for myself, write long lists of things to do, and proceed through the day wearing the blinders of my preconceived scenario. Binges were my way of rebelling aga...
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Detaching in Relationships
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When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don't care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying, and trying to force things to happen, we're showing how much we care. We may believe that contro...
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From A NewComer Asks
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Am I an alcoholic? If you repeatedly drink more than you intend or want to, or if you get into trouble when you drink you may be an alcoholic. Only you can decide. No one in A.A. will tell you whether you are or not.What can I do if I am worried about my drinking? Seek help. Alcoholics Anonymous can help.What...
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Happy Birthday Tim!!!
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Happy Birthday Tim!!!! Hope you're having a wonderful day 'cos you deserve it. Take care, Carol
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Cherish every moment
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Leave it up to a dog to remind me it's the simple things in life I need to cherish and be grateful for. YOu see, I have quite a zoo crew at home, including one dog now 14 years and 4 months old, Raven, the lab/hound dog mix. Raven was my oldest daughter's dog, with me her first four years of life, then several ye...
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Daily Reflections - August 18
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Getting Well Very deep, sometimes quite forgotten, damaging emotional conflicts persist below the level of consciousness. Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions.pp.79-80 Only through positive action can I remove the remains of guilt and shame brought on by alcohol. Throughtout my misadvent...
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We Are Responsible
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I am responsible for myself; my recovery, my well-being, my happiness, all these things are, ultimately, my own responsibility. -- Anonymous Our Higher Power does not lay claim to our free will. We can choose not to be responsible and make ourselves more miserable by going to new levels of despair an...
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Experiences Shape Your Reactions
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Our view of the universe is largely determined by our experiences. It is when we are caught off guard by the spontaneity of existence that we are most apt to respond authentically, even when our feelings do not correspond with those of the multitude. Events that arouse strong emotions with us or are su...
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Question
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Hello everyone. Today I have come to the tough realization that I am an alcoholic. I want to stop drinking and know I need to go to meetings to find some support. I'm nervous about going to a meeting because I don't know what to expect. Will I have to participate right away and tell my story? Or am I fre...
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New to the Board
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Hello group, For those who haven't had your second cup of coffee my name is Dean, I'm an alcoholic and drug addict, and I live in St. Pete FL. I also spend a lot of time in Boone, NC working on my retirement home. I got sober in Northern Va. in '89. For those in that area, I spent a lot time at the Unity Club in...
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steps and traditions
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Does anyone have a Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions index in a text file they could send me? I have one for the Big Book, and am making a bound copy for my home group, but can't seem to find one for ther 12&12. I have a hard copy of an old one, but I don't think it will scan too well... it's well-used!
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Valuing this Moment
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Detachment involves present moment living - living in the here and now. We allow life to happen instead of forcing and trying to control it. We relinquish regrets over the past and fears about the future. We make the most of each day. -- Codependent No More This moment, we are right where we need to be, ri...
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Morning Thoughts - As Bill Sees It
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On awakening, let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity and from dishonest or self-seeking motives. Free of these, we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for God gave us brains to use. Our t...
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