My ex bf is an alcoholic. I am an alanoner, and I have gotton some great advice from you in the past. I was hoping you would help me again.
I left my bf a few weeks ago. His binges were too much for me, almost constant disappearing and drinking. I got a new place and left. I felt it was all I could do. It was a very hard thing to do nonetheless.
Anyway, he is now alone in this apartment. He is drinking himself to death as far as I can see. Cans, bottles everywhere, and all the rest. He's not eating much. He's very argumentitive and really resents me. I don't see him much, I had to chose not to, it's all too much for me.
However I am worried, and I know how futile that is. I just don't know how far this can go. I do not want to step in to "save" him. I do not want to stop him reaching his bottom ofcourse. But what do I do? do I let him kill himself? Should I be intervening in some way? Is there a way?
I have told his parents about his drinking and the fact that we broke up. I felt I had no choice. It was just too much for me to deal with alone.
I would very much appreciate your opinions, thanks.
Unfortunately, hun, only HE can save himself.........You have no power......Pray for him the gift of desperation..........and take care of yourself.....((((AM))))
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
All I can say is that the desire to stop drinking and wanting a better way of life had to come from me. My boyfriend loves me dearly, but there was nothing that he could do or say that could stop me from taking that next drink. I had to hit my own rock bottom and want out of my alcoholic hell for me.
Phil mentioned grabbing a couple of 12 steppers and you could think about that if you are truly worried about your ex seriously harming himself. There is always somebody willing to help.
Whatever you do or don't do, please look after yourself, won't you?
Take care and please let us know how it is going for you.
Carol
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