Although all men share a common destiny, each individual also has to work out his personal salvation for himself. We can help each other find the meaning of life, but in the last analysis, each is responsible for finding himself. -- Thomas Merton
One of the great spiritual truths is that each person must work out his or her own personal salvation. When a person you care about is in trouble, you can reach out to support his or her healing, but past a certain point you can do no more. No matter how much you love, you cannot carry another person's burdens.
What can you do when someone you love is in pain? First, affirm that there is a purpose behind the experience. Know that the soul has some important lesson to learn that will be of great value to him or her.
Second, although you cannot directly intervene, your positive thoughts and prayers do make a difference. Visualize your friend surrounded by light and love. This type of healing acts directly on the soul level and does not encounter resistance from the conscious mind.
Finally, know that Divine protection is present. The forces of light are always available to the person who requests help. Ultimately, no soul can be lost; as all who ask will be guided to the safety of their spiritual home.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Thoughts like this are what helps me to 'let go and let God'. I was brought up with hopelessness and violence, worry, depression and despair,, which is negatively oriented and ends in failure and ......
Coming to believe that there is a loving God who cares and providentially acts in mysterious ways in my life, my son's life, your lives, and the world makes such a big difference. I can be more positive, hopefull, and confident,,, which is helps me to be more encouraging and supportive - key word 'supportive',, which in turn brings better results all around.
love in recovery,
amanda
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time