Strive for balanced expectations of others. Strive for healthy tolerance.
In the past, we may have tolerated too much or too little. We may have expected too much or too little.
We may swing from tolerating abuse, mistreatment, and deception to refusing to tolerate normal, human, imperfect behaviors from people. Although it's preferable not to remain in either extreme too long, that is how people change - real people who struggle imperfectly toward better lives, improved relationships, and more effective relationship behaviors.
But if we are open to ourselves and to the recovery process, we will, at some time, begin another transition: it becomes time to move away from extremes, toward balance.
We can trust ourselves and the recovery process to bring us to a balanced place of tolerance, giving, understanding, and expectations - of others and ourselves.
We can each find our own path to balance as we begin and continue recovery.
Today, I will practice acceptance with others and myself for the way we change. If I have had to swing to the other extreme of a behavior, I will accept that as appropriate, for a time. But I will make my goal one of balanced tolerance and expectations of others and myself.
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
*Repeats that key word like a mantra* Balance. Balance. Balance.
Thank you for reminding me of that important concept. That was the weird thing about last Sunday. One minute we in the choir were acting like 'angels' and the next minute like vicious dogs, snarling. Where was the balance? The humans who are struggling together to do their human best?
Balance. I had disassociative identity disorder that had "Janis Joplin' on the one end and 'Doris Day' on the other,,, me? Not there.
Balance
Today,, don't knock myself out stressing and trying to get all my 'supposed to's done perfectly by noon.
Balance
love in recovery,
amanda
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time
