And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could no stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.
-- Edited by Phil at 15:34, 2006-12-15
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
Then after the ol' attitude's fixed up, THATS when its time to set the rest of the world straight, eh? I'll get it right one of these days......... Onward!!!!
Oh yeah...Phil, I got a theory i've been working on. Maybe you could guinea pig some of it for me... 1. Generalize your past, tell 'em about hilarious misadventures you or your buddies got themselves into whenever the conversation goes that direction. Same method applies to issues and uncomfortable subjects. 2. Use the moment of levity to steer them towards talking about themselves, or anything else normal. 3. Plenty of compliments. Good attitude. 4. Be blunt about thinking they are hot, right from the get-go. No exterior motives. 4. Making the rest up as I go... If all goes according to plan, by the time they realize what they got themselves into... It will be TOO LATE. And I havent had a hundred failures...I've just discovered a hundred ways that dont work. GOOD LUCK MAN
Something tells me, Tim, that he's gonna have a wonderful evening with his Lady. Something about that smile that's been in his emails and posts all week........Love your new 'quote" on your posts....love chris
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
HAHA. yep, the Good Orderly Direction way works, just real slooooooooooooooooooow. Maybe I outta keep my head in the higher level socket implimentation capabilities of PHP. Something I have a better chance of figuring out. Onward!!!
well, this is interesting. I've known you for awhile now, online-wise, and I have a few things to say, as a friend.
I'm glad you only are doing the first thing out of the four and not rushing things. Being in love can be so head over heels, and it is a high in itself with lots of endorphins,, and we want more high and more and more. And we know what happens when we are high on anything - we don't think. Well, and we tend to get into co-dependencies - I need you to keep me high and so I'll trade and help you stay high. But that is not what love is about, really.
I've learned that building a good, healthy friendship is the base for all kinds of relationships. It's not just in having a real woohoo of a night, but it is how we handle the conflicts too. This is also a step by step thing, foundation first.
So, I don't want to be a wet blanket, but rather I want to be a support in building something that will last,, and let what that something is be up to your Higher Power. Remember your Step 11, 10, and all of that,,, k? Then it is more likely to be a good, steady and healthy whole thing,, than a fling.
love in recovery,
amanda
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time
