"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it."

-- Christiane Northrup

To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t fully acknowledge our hurts, we will continue to carry them subconsciously and they will drain our energy.

To forgive, we need to decide that we won’t allow the memories of the event to poison us any longer. We’re ready to heal this wound from the past and open to a fresh new beginning.

The blessing is that when we’re really ready to experience our pain and we open to it, it usually fades away. By honouring our pain, we release it.

"We must let ourselves feel all the painful destruction we want to forgive rather than swallow it in denial. If we do not face it, we cannot choose to forgive it."

-- Kenneth McNoll    ~Higher Awareness

For me, this is inclusive of forgiving myself. I have some stuff I've done that I try to forget and that just leaves me open. I know that it will keep coming back to haunt me. So I try to remember, even if the memory of it sucks, I need to re experience it in order to release it and forgive myself. I guess it's a form of making amends from the new me, to the old me.  Wren