People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
~Author Unknown
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
Wow Phil, that is really pertinent to some of what has been building up and coming to a head in my life right now. I'm at at point where I have some life-affecting decisions to make, and they don't affect only my life in a tremendously serious way. I'm not certain if I'm looking at reason, season, or lifetime with the choices I must make. I don't know what to do and it seems my best choice has always been to do nothhing till I'm certain...and that's a killer. I'm wound up like a knot in both heart and mind...but I know the LAST thing I need is a drink. I'm just really in a limbo and waiting for a sign from life and won't be whole until this has passed. I can say in all of my years, I have NEVER been in a situation as I am. Oh well...Tim
P.S. Sorry for the personal tangent all.
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I do know that 99 percent of the problem, when we walk through the doors is alcohol..then 99 percent of the problem is living sober...
I havent picked up a drink in a long time...but the living sober part ..is an ongoing learning path..in all areas...
I know a lot of the answers...but putting them into practice, and keeping a balance in any area of life ...can always be a struggle...and I believe that it doesnt matter how long weve been sober..
Its a trying to stay humble, and open minded enough to accept that there is so much too learn, and its not going to be done in this lifetime..
I used to have a tendancy to react...on the "RightNOW" decisions..and regret them later...and those decisions usually came from anger, or were fear based...
I think that the patience thing and the waiting thing are difficult for a lot of us...
But I will share with you one important thing..and Ive learned this the hard way...
"The Answers that we look for DO COME" ..With this kid? I dont know if its a Higher Power talking through my heart or what the hell it is...to be quite honest...
I just know, that if I think with my heart and everything is love based...instead of my head...which is fear and ego baed...
Everything does work out..the way its suppossed to...
Maybe not the way I wish it to...but thats ok ...We just do the best we can..and try to do the next right thing..
Thats all I got....
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"LOVE" devoid of self-gratification, is in essence, the will, to the greatest good...of another.
"The Answers that we look for DO COME..." I have found that to be a truth in my life also. Just as you've basically said...being in "tune" and letting things unfold always works. IT"S JUST THE DAM PERIOD RIGHT NOW!!!! Thank you my friend...Tim
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"We posess the eyes through which the universe gazes with wonder upon its own majesty."