my home town has changed into not such a great place, lots of homeless, meth addicts and stuff basically it's city stuff that lives here now. the air is bad and the summers have become very hot. prices of rent and everything are driven up well beyond what used to be affordable so im thinking maybe i should move. i like the slower pace of small towns and really miss having a yard to garden in ect. so i am looking at very affordable houseing on the mid coast of b.c. where the air is still clean and it rains like its supposed to {i like rain} the problem is my 12 year old son {mildly mentally handicapped} doesnt want to move, hates the whole idea. i have huge fear of making a decion that would ruin his life, but i am so unhappy here. any input would be welcome and yes i have been praying on this for more than a year with no kind of results i can see yet. i also dont know if i really have the guts to move to a town where i dont know anyone.
Boy doesn't fear and guilt just drag us around like we're puppets? I'll go a few days at a time just bouncing between the two, and then catch myself up by the short hairs.
You have to do what you have to do for yourself, your peace, your serenity. Moving to a new town is a chance to see things fresh, make new friends. I came up here to WA from CA on a lick and a promise, and it's a growing experience. Two years ago I moved here to Brinnon and didn't know a soul either. Life is about taking risks, growing, journeying. Please, don't let your life be dictated by fear. Once you let it in, it likes to settle down and start dictating every other area of your life also. Believe me, kids survive moves. I whined every time I went from one area to another. LOL, still do. And when I look back,I'm so glad that I faced the risk and made friends with it. It's all about freedom...love wren
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
I can relate to this Post, many times when I am making a decision about something pretty big, I can have just a little problem with, how much of this is WHAT I want, and how does this Line up with God's Will???
So what I have done in the past, is release myself from the part that is "what I want", Prayer about it, might take some time, but the Answer does come.
Hope that you have a good day today.......... in today.
When contemplating whether to do something or not, a plucky voice in our heads may say, "You never know until you try." This is time-honored wisdom that encourages us to be game rather than to hold back. It reminds us that it is only through experience that we learn about this world and ourselves. Even if we regret the outcome, we have learned something, and the newfound knowledge is almost always worth it.
This wisdom can be applied to situations both large and small. From crossing the Atlantic on a boat to trying Ethiopian food, there's only one way to find out what it's like. We have all had experiences where we tried something we didn't think we'd like and fell in love. We may have found ourselves stuck with nothing to read but a "boring" book, only to kick-start a lifelong passion for Victorian literature. We may have decided that sailing was not for us until we fell in love with someone with a boat. On the other hand, we may try tofu only to learn that it is truly not for us. In this case, we gain greater self-knowledge from the experience. And yet, we might still remain open to trying it prepared in a different way. The right marinade might make you a convert-you'll never know if you don't try it.
It is often said that at the end of our lives we are more likely to regret the things we did not do than the things we did. As an exercise to test your own willingness to discover through doing, try making a list of things you regret not having done. You may begin to notice patterns such as a failure to say what you really think at key moments or closed-mindedness to certain types of activities. Just being aware of the opportunities you missed might encourage you not to miss them again. There's only one way to find out. ~ Daily OM
This came in, Cindy, and I thought of you when I read it. Remember, take what you need and just leave the rest...love wren
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"Never argue with an idiot... They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience..."
This is just my two cents and keep in mind that it is from someone who has always loved the experience of living in different places.
If the area you're in is changing dramatically to a place where your child will grow up with drug users and all that goes with it, it just may be the best decision to "get while the gettin' is good". And if you're not at 100%, how can you expect to be able to GIVE 100% to your son? I sound like a devil's advocate here but there is almost always some great beauty and benefit in change; always growth. I do hope that all works out well for you and your son whatever you choose. Good thoughts are with you...Tim
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