Long after a bitter failure, some of us still cling to the hope that we can erase the defeat in some spectacular way. One dream is to "prove ourselves" to those who scorned us or put us down.
This never really works, even when we do become winners at some later time. For one thing, we may be proving ourselves to people who never will like us. If we are striving to show others that we can succeed, we are still dancing to their tune. We are accepting their idea of what success should be.
Many of us failed simply because we were alcoholics and could do no better. We might have destroyed opportunities that will never arise again. But by finding sobriety, we may already have proved ourselves to those who really count in our lives including ourselves.
I can prove today that the Twelve Step program works and that a loving Higher Power is present in my life.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Well it is about how we are and how we reach out to others, that are suffering, and a feeling of this is what God is watching. Out of ourselves and offering our hand.
Removing the shame of the consequences of my life as an active Alcoholic, the work is right in the Steps of the Beloved Program. And when we work them vigorously, and to the best of our own ability, we do get a little glimpse of......."When we know better, We do better"
