Prayer works. When all else has failed in my marital woes, I stop trying to control manipulate and change, and I start praying. I pray for God to heal the relationship, instead of "Make my husband do such and such". And the results are good, for today.
Praying changes me. It keeps me centered on what is really my foundation and my security. When I feel secure in the midst of chaos, my character defects stay at a minimum. And with that, the tension lowers.
Sometimes we need to talk. Talking is good. But when we are done talking, and can't come to an agreement, we start praying. I wish it were the other way around... praying FIRST, but ahhh, we are all human and think ourselves 'spiritual handymen', and fall short.
So just for today, for me anyway, the problem has been removed, It has been inventoried, I see my part, and have made amends and begun working on my issues. And that's good enough for a good night's sleep. Thanks to AA.
