Need some help........My son is on a road to no where, fast. He's 16, barely passing in school, lieing about where he is and what he's doing. He got suspended 3 days while I was in AZ, I found out today when the letter came from the school. I provide him with a truck, I pay the insurance and I give him a tank of gas a week. I do all of this to try to make life easier for him (and honestly, it helps me too that he can drive himself to and from *whatever*). When I got the truck the rules were he had to do *right* and make good grades. I know I NEED to take the keys, but for some reason, I just can't. I'm telling myself I want him to have it better than I did. I work my ass off to provide him with the things he needs and some of what he wants. I realize that I have overcompensated for years to make up for my drinking. However, realizing this and changing it is beyond difficult for me. I continue to give to him when I promise myself I won't. I know I'm not helping him by doing this, but I can't seem to stop it. GUILT seems to take over when I try to say "no"................Suggestions? Ideas? ......... How do I get stop overcompensating for a child who clearly has no respect for me and is not appreciative in the least.
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Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass... It's about learning to dance in the rain.
Boot Clamp!!! P.S. Teens, just like the rest of us, do respect someone who keeps their word, their end of the bargain though they may not LIKE it. You already know the answer to rectify the situation...Tim
-- Edited by timverton at 20:13, 2006-09-26
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You sound exactly what my dad "did for me" growing up.... only thing is, I never learned how to do anything for myself, or the value of hard work, etc. My own relationship with him in adulthood got so much better with the 'tough love' coming from him.
Bottom line, Doll, you are going to do what you are going to do until you decide to do different. We do the best we can.
