Well, in a week I will be leaving with my husband for Oklahoma City to see the boys (his children, 7 and 11, from first marriage). We had planned originally just to have them with us the whole time, but plans have changed.

Some of you have read before how their mother, Shelly, acts like a lunatic when I am around. She has made unfounded accusations in the past that I tried to drown the kids, that I let them view pornography on the inyternet, and a myriad opf other RIDICULOUS and hurtful accusations. She suffers from having made horrible decisions, and she doesn't have the life she thought she would after she ran off on my husband, and now she can not have this hard-wlorking man back in her life, so she naturally uses every opportunity to make my life miserable.

There was a time when she 'snaked' her way into my life, emailing me while the kids were here for a summer, and then she turned around and started being creepy, getting her entire rattlesnake family involved in her little private war. Not but a month ago, they were here for a week and the visit ended with she and her mother climbing on top of my car as we were trying to leave, trying to rip the keys out of my ignition, and she was hollering at my husband, "You'll never see your kids again unless you leave this WHORE!!! Get out of the car, B**CH!!!" That the kids saw this was the worst part of it, and they are old enough to see who is doing the cussing and swearing and fighting, and who is doing the backing away and trying to have peace. (Me and their dad.) They come to mine and their dad's defense every time. How unfair for the little guys!!

Anyway, when we are out in oklahoma, we will be attending a few of their sports activities, a soccer game for the little one and a football game for the bigger one. This means Shelly will be there, scheming. I do not speak to her anymore, as I am under no obligation to trust this woman ever again, in any way shape or form. I just stay quiet and try to blend into the background.

I am having a lot of anxiety. The big M.O. here is to drive my husband and I away from eachother so she can take even more money from him than the grand-a-month child support she already gets and goes through like water. That is her sole aim. She has even told Josh's mother that she wants him back. Since that is not happening, as Josh says he finally has a life of PEACE that he always wanted, with me, she is in FULL WHIRL 24-7.

I have every right to be worried and fearful, knowing that I will have to spend some time in this woman's presence. That I am starting to dread my own vacation is bullcrap. I think next year I may just let him go without me, unless the boys (hopefully) come here and stay with us for the summer.

Any advice on how to prepare for this; how to keep GOD leading the way... how to plan ahead so that when the shit hits the fan, I will have some direction?? They live on a military base. I am not setting foot on the base!! And I hope my husband doesn't get the crap beat out of him while picking them up!! I just have so many concerns....  He has a tendency to 'follow her lead', even though time and time again he has made decisions like, "We will pick the boys up and drop them off in a public place from now on"... His great plans do not get any follow-through. And when I want to sit down and talk about it, he just gets irritated.

Joni