She told me last week, and did a month ago, that when she goes to college [she's only 18] she's not so sure she wants to be sober any more.
Her roomate is in AA also, and sober now.
I'm worried as hell. Can someone in AA drink casually? Get drunk once in awhile?
The day we got together, I quit drinking [and had only socially] because I wanted to be a positive influence in her life. She misses the party lifestyle and the getting drunk. To make her happy, I'm throwing her a dry party.
She hates the Sunday meetings because you have to go up and talk in front of everyone. The Tuesday meetings are better, but she's not sure she wants to go because she may start drinking again. Also, she won't have a car.
Can I drive her to her Tuesday meetings? I'm getting another job and told them in advance I can only work during the day on Tuesdays, in case I were able to drive her there and if she wanted me to [could I?] attend with her.
What do you guys/girls think?
Am I doing well? Any advice?
Please tell me everything you can. More resources to turn to etc.
Thanks a bunch,
Joshua
[edit] lol at myself. I just found the Al-anon section. Please give advice and whatnot as it is needed and appreciated.
Well, as for your first question, it is said in the Big Book of AA & from hearing others experiences with this, that once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. I know for me there is no such thing as drinking "casually", if I could, then I wouldn't be in AA. As phil would say, "you can't turn a pickle back into a cucumber!"
As for you attending meetings, as a non-alcoholic you are welcome at Open Meetings. Closed ones are for members (or those that desire to be members) only. But, don't see any reason why you can't drive her to any meeting and grab yourself a cup a joe at the local restaurant or run errands or something for an hour.
Pray for her. She'll be in my prayers and so will you.
Love and hugs.
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For me, as a recovering alcoholic, getting drunk once in a while just couldn't be on my agenda. I know and remember just how bad things got when I tried to drink 'casually'. I simply couldn't do it. If I did, then I would have a major relapse and I really don't want that for me or my loved ones. Even one drink would do me an incalculable harm.
Here in the UK, we have open and closed meetings. An open meeting is where family can attend to support their relatives. But, a closed meeting is for the alcoholics only. Driving your girlfriend to a meeting would be fine, though, and she might really appreciate your support.
For me, meetings keep me sober. Without going to regular meetings I couldn't maintain my sobriety. I really would suggest that your girlfriend doesn't stop going to her regular meetings. If there is one that she doesn't like too much, try to find another one that she could attend instead.
I wish everything good for you and your girlfriend.
Take care,
Carol
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